The Best of You 171: Why People Pleasing Actually Makes You Feel More Alone, and 3 Steps to Create Real Connection
Aug 14, 2025
This discussion dives into the costly habit of people pleasing and its effects on self-identity and relationships. Listeners share personal stories of breaking free from these patterns. The conversation uncovers the psychological roots of this behavior and how it can lead to feelings of isolation. Practical steps toward fostering genuine connections and embracing one's true self are offered, encouraging a journey of self-love and inner wholeness.
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Listener: Practicing Bravery Over Passivity
- Elizabeth describes moving from passivity to practicing bravery and disappointing others when needed.
- She emphasizes differentiating and asking for what she needs as part of recovery.
Listener: Seeking Security In God's Love
- Susan shares relying on others' approval to feel okay and wanting security in God's love instead.
- She yearns to stop using others as a mirror and feel stable when alone or disapproved of.
Listener: Inner Work Makes Relationships Feel Shallow
- Jeannie reports deep inner work but finds relationships feel shallow and prefers solitude sometimes.
- She longs for authentic, deeper friendships after doing shadow and parts work.
