165: Reboot Your Boundaries — A Practical Guide to Help you Reset, Protect Your Peace and Create Space for What Matters Most

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Jul 3, 2025

Summer can leave you feeling frazzled, so setting healthy boundaries is crucial. Discover how these boundaries protect your brain and relationships. Learn about different boundary levels, from simple resets to firm protections. The guide provides practical scripts for immediate implementation. Plus, explore the power of self-compassion and why the toughest boundaries are often with yourself. By the end, you'll feel empowered to create more peace and joy in your life!

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INSIGHT

Boundaries Boost Brain & Well-being

Setting boundaries lights up your brain's prefrontal cortex, enhancing decision-making and emotional regulation.
Healthy boundaries build resilience, reduce long-term anxiety, and improve relationships and overall well-being.

INSIGHT

Distinguishing Boundaries from Control

Many people confuse controlling behaviors for healthy boundaries, and vice versa.
Understanding the difference is crucial for establishing truly healthy relationships.

ANECDOTE

Personal Boundary Tune-up Story

Dr. Allison noticed she was compulsively meeting others' needs when overwhelmed, which increased her exhaustion.
She learned to set gentle internal boundaries with this part of herself to regain control and peace.

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Is summer leaving you more frazzled than refreshed? Between travel, family gatherings, long days, and shifting routines, summer can test your limits in unexpected ways. If you’re feeling stretched thin, resentful, or just plain exhausted—this episode will be your step by step practical guide to resetting your boundaries.

Backed by recent research and years of experience, Dr. Alison walks you through why boundaries are essential for your brain, relationships, and emotional health—and how to set them with clarity and kindness.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How healthy boundaries light up your brain
The difference between healthy boundaries and controlling behavior
Three levels of boundaries—from simple resets to firm protection
Five boundary shortcuts you can start using today (with practical scripts!)
Why the hardest boundaries are often the ones we set with ourselves

If you’re longing for a summer with more peace, more joy, and less emotional exhaustion, this episode will leave you feeling empowered and equipped.

📥 Get Alison's free printable with the 5 boundary tools mentioned in this episode when you sign up for her weekly email.

For more on boundaries, check out:

Episodes 24 — Boundaries, the Spectrum of Toxicity, and a Note About Evil
Episode 25 — Types of “No” Part 1 — How to say “No” in Healthy Relationships
Episode 26 — Types of “No” Part 2 — How to say “No” to Toxicity, The Real Meaning of Turn The Other Cheek & How to Form A Boundaries Committee

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Editing by Giulia Hjort

Sound engineering by Kelly Kramarik

Music by Andy Luiten

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