The One You Feed

Please Support The Show with a DonationAdyashanti is a renowned and gifted spiritual teacher. He's written many books, hosts meditation retreats and speaks around the world to large audiences at a time. With such a wide audience, it's amazing that when you experience Adya's teaching, it's as if he's speaking directly to you - to your very heart. Whatever your experience with or preconceived notions of spiritual awakening, allow yourself to re-engage with the idea through this interview. As you turn the inquiry towards yourself this time, you may be surprised, moved and/or transformed by what you find - if you are brutally honest in the process.our inner life. Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss... Eric's awakening experience The awakened state in perpetuity The shift in perception that happens with awakening The paradox of wanting something like awakening yet wanting it stands in the way of having it Will gets you to the cushion and once there, it's important to let go of it Does one need a spiritual teacher when seeking awakening? The teacher evoking something from vs the teacher giving something to the student How people work with unconscious patterns How you can't not be awakened - even if you don't feel it, it's there Emotional conflict Paying attention to what's recurring in you Anything that's happened to us that was too big for us to remain conscious while we experienced it, gets trapped in our system - turned into some other emotion or it just gets stuffed and is now just there waiting for you. The universe is now asking, "can you experience this now?" Being fine with being sad Let everything be exactly the way it is How dealing with life's experiences as they come transforms you A clinched fist vs an open hand metaphor "Let" vs "Let go" If you can't let it go, can you let it be Failure as part of triumph Failing your way through something consciously can cause a sort of transformation What it looks like to build a spiritual practice Daily quiet meditation, Engage in some precise self-inquiry (a wonderment of "being") How spirituality is the direct investigation of YOUR experience The only way to get self-inquiry wrong is not to be ruthlessly honest about what's happening in your experience The fear of getting something wrong Think of your spiritual teacher kind of like a college professor Please Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Please Support The Show with a DonationMark Epstein is a psychiatrist in private practice in NYC and the author of many books about the intersection of Buddhism and psychotherapy. He's currently the clinical assistant professor in the postdoctoral program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis at New York University. His most recent book, Advice Not Given; A Guide to Getting Over Yourself is what he talks about in this episode. His wisdom is so incredibly practical, applicable, and helpful. Ideas like whether or not naming your feelings would be a helpful strategy for you and how to work with clinging in its many forms - even the clinging to inner peace - abound in this discussion. Take a listen and enrich your inner life. Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. In This Interview, Mark Epstein and I Discuss... The Wolf Parable His book, Advice Not Given; A Guide to Getting Over Yourself The duality that we all struggle with Freud and the Buddha's nearly identical conclusion What it means to take personal responsibility for our selfish concerns The clinging to that which gives us a sense of control over life The clinging to that which nurtures our ego The eightfold path of the Buddha The conversation with his terminally ill father that inspired this book Right View - being realistic about one's self and the nature of things How change and death is happening all of the time, moment to moment Trying not to try as it relates to meditation "Take the backward step" in meditation FInding balance in "right effort" Exploring the feelings that we are otherwise afraid of through psychotherapy The link between being with uncomfortable feelings and empathy to others How anything that's happening in the body or mind can be the object of meditation How useful it is to name a feeling Making a feeling "intelligible" by naming it How useful it can be to find where feelings show up in the body When your mind is not aware of what's making you act this way (in addiction, compulsive behaviors etc) it's important to put the words on the feelings Whether or not all emotions show up in the body How clinging takes many forms - even the desire for inner peace "Don't chase her, let her find you." That our lives are made dull by our efforts to over control things Please Support The Show with a Donation  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

 Please Support The Show with a DonationBarbara Bonner started as an art historian and then went on to spend much of her professional career in nonprofit management, fundraising and philanthropy. Most relevant to this show, Barbara is the author of two books; Inspiring Generosity and Inspiring Courage. In this episode, she talks about both, using beautiful poetry, powerful quotes, and illustrative real-life stories. If you've ever wanted to cultivate these two qualities in your life, then this episode is for you. If there's one thing Barbara does through her work, it's inspiring action towards both of these qualities in the lives of everyday people.RxBar 25% off first order www.rxbar.com/wolf promo codeWOLFNutrafol 100% drug-free hair growth, made in an FDA approved facility, first months supply for $10 www.nutrafol.com promo code WOLF  In This Interview, Barbara Bonner and I Discuss... The Wolf Parable Her books, Inspiring Generosity and Inspiring Courage The power of putting ourselves in the way of inspiration How we're different at the end of a book than at the beginning Reframing how we look at generosity How generosity flows from a sense of abundance How a sense of abundance flows from being generous That generosity and courage are action verbs The fact that you should feel a pinch when you act generously That saying the loving-kindness meditation can be generous What it means to lead a courageous life How no one who was courageous seems to claim courage The spontaneity of courage How authenticity seems to coincide with courage That you see a pattern of courage throughout people's lives Post-traumatic growth How a strong childhood isn't necessary in order to lead a full life The role of listening in generosity and courage How important listening is in all of life The correlation between generosity and courage Practicing generosity and courage and growing the ability to act on these qualities over time How to live a life of meaning you have to step forward "Do something every day that doesn't compute" - Wendell Berry  Please Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Please Support The Show with a DonationUlrich Boser is a best selling author and senior fellow with The Center for American Progress. He has been a contributing editor for US News and World Report and his work has appeared in the NY Times, Wall Street Journal, and Huntington Post. His latest book, Learn Better: Mastering the Skills for Success in Life, Business or School - or - How to Become an Expert in Just About Anything, will equip you with actual skills to get better at what some have called the ultimate survival tool: learning how to learn. This topic is relevant to literally everyone. To be alive is to learn and grow and change (whether we're aware of it at times or not!) so it's important to sharpen our skills in order to get better at getting better. What is discussed in this episode will confirm some of what you know about how people learn, challenge some beliefs you might have about this topic and teach you a few things in the process that will make you a better student of life. Bombas - enter offer code WOLF at checkout for 20% off your first purchase www.bombas.com/wolfIn This Interview, Ulrich Boser and I Discuss... The Wolf Parable His book, Learn Better: Mastering the Skills for Success in Life, Business or School - or - How to Become an Expert in Just About Anything Learning how to learn Getting better at getting better The ultimate survival tool Being actively engaged in the learning process Making meaning out of something The hypercorrection effect Giving our brain time to make sense of the information, reflection How critical it is to understand relationships between things Varying the circumstances in which we learn/apply information How it's easier to remember something new if you can hang it on to something old A systematic approach to learning something Value: valuing what you're learning Target: learning small pieces of info at a time Develop: practice & get feedback Extend: elaborating on something, looking at it from different angles Relate: analogies are the essence of thought, relating something to other things Rethink: take time to process information Metacognition: thinking about thinking What are you going to learn and how will you know that you know it? How intertwined emotion and cognition are Digestible parts: learn less at a time At 90 minutes of learning, adults are kind of done Active learning strategies Hypotheticals: what would happen if... Why it's important to stay away from cramming Please Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

 Please Support The Show with a DonationTim Freke is a truly pioneering philosopher. His many books, talks, and retreats have touched the lives of hundreds of thousands of people worldwide. Tim is the author of 35 books, the newest being Soul Story: Evolution and the purpose of life. As you listen to this interview, your ah-ha moments will grow in scope and scale throughout the conversation. He is a radical thinker and one of the great minds of our time. His big view of where we've been, where we are and where we're going will hit you as perhaps surprising, remarkably realistic and fundamentally inspiring. Listen and see for yourself. Molekule for $75 off your first order, visit www.molekule.com enter promo code WOLFIn This Interview, Tim Freke and I Discuss... The Wolf Parable His book, Soul Story: Evolution and the Purpose of Life The deeper level of evolution going on inside of ourselves The evolution of the psyche Perhaps it's all one evolutionary journey: physical evolution, biological evolution and then an evolution of the psyche or soul What if rather than the concept of God creating the universe, we've evolved such that we've created a god Maybe God is where we're going towards In life - the deepest things happen at the end An arriving of conscious oneness The point of view that life in the world is getting better over time Creativity is the heart of the universe The great religions of the world were created at a time when people still thought the world is flat. We've moved on and so can our recognition of spirituality The ark of time pointing towards a better world now Rather than the passing of time, perhaps it's the accumulation of the past meeting the possible.The past meeting the possible The weight of the past that can limit us and pull us back Paralogical thinking: both AND (not either or) Transcend and Include How he teaches others to have the experience of "deep awake" Allowing vs. Pushing Away Being pulled towards the better while living in the present Being a spiritual being in an animal, human body Cause and Effect, Meaning and Magic - all of the levels are interacting all of the time The power of realistic thinking that's inspirational Deep Awake: being spiritually awake, you experience the oneness of life and that feels like love Waking up doesn't mean we ditch our individuality The form of consciousness that comes through our senses which are rooted in the body The form of consciousness that is in the psyche and imagination The form of consciousness that questions itself and realizes that our essential nature has no form   Please Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Please Support The Show with a DonationCheri Huber is the author of 20 books and has been a student of zen for 35 years. She founded the Mountain View Zen Center and the Zen Monastery Peace Center, both in California, where she and other monks teach workshops and hold retreats. She is also a truth telling, light hearted delight to listen to. In this interview, she talks all about what is going on in our mind and how we can better work with it to produce a better experience in life. Her wisdom is so practical and so powerful. See for yourself in this transformative episode.Visit Bombas www.bombas.com/wolf and enter offer WOLF at checkout for 20% off the most comfortable socks in the worldIn This Interview, Cheri Huber and I Discuss... The Wolf Parable Her book, I Don't Want To, I Don't Feel Like It: How resistance controls your life and what to do about it How the process IS the outcome That now is the only moment there is How the quality of your life is determined by the focus of your attention Everything comes into being, together She doesn't believe that there's anything that ISN'T God Our dualistic thinking All of the ways to refer to the ego The unique ability that humans have to experience themselves as other than life The ego is a survival system Believing we are not connected to life Everything is a verb! A gerund The illusion of being separate from life My ego is the no to life's yes Always asking what's lacking, what's missing, what's wrong keeps the ego as the center of the universe How we are deeply conditioned for negativity Awareness being able to watch the conditioned mind I hear it in my head, it sounds like me, it must be me, it's who I am Approach the stuff that's going on inside our heads by imagining that it's somebody next to you saying it Recording and Listening Make recordings of what's true, what I appreciate, what I love Hearing what's true for you in your own voice Talking ourselves into a life that's true How we direct our attention is the be all and end all in life We have these tendencies to see what's negative so we need to bring ourselves to what is true that isn't negative We transcend the conditioned mind, we don't resist it The key is to turn your attention away from the negative voices not to change what they are saying The habit of going with the conversation in your head is so powerful If we can wake up out of it, we can decide to go somewhere else in our attention Hear Cheri Huber talk about her book,  I Don't Want To, I Don't Feel Like It: How resistance controls your life and what to do about it Cheri Huber teaches that the process IS the outcome Cheri Huber explains what she means by this: your ego is the "no" to life's "yes" Do you believe that we are deeply conditioned for negativity or hardwired for negativity? Here's a tip: Approach the stuff that's going on inside our heads by imagining that it's somebody next to you saying it The quality of your life is determined by the focus of your attention Please Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Please Support The Show with a DonationRick Hanson, PhD is a Neuropsychologist, teacher and author of many books. He is the founder of the Wellspring Center for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom and an affiliate of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkley. This is the 2nd time Dr. Hanson has been a guest on the show and we invited him back because of how great his work really is. In this episode, he talks all about the fact that who we become is a result of what we grow inside of ourselves. Using the analogy of tending a garden, he teaches us very practical ways to grow and enrich ourselves through the experiences in our lives. Get a pen and paper - you'll probably want to take notes on this one!Visit Bombas www.bombas.com/wolf and enter offer WOLF at checkout for 20% off the most comfortable socks in the worldIn This Interview, Rick Hanson and I Discuss... The Wolf Parable His book, Resilient: How to grow an unshakable core of calm, strength, and happiness Who we become is a result of what we grow inside ourselves How you manage your challenges, protect your vulnerabilities, Increase your resources: out in the world, in the body, and in the mind Growing resources in our mind is a good focus Converting an experience into lasting change Slowing down content delivery so that the nervous system in our brains has a chance to receive it and rewire accordingly 5 ways to enrich a beneficial experience: Extend the experience (make it longer) Intensify the experience (really lean into it) Embody the experience (how does it feel in your body and your mind) Freshen the experience (see what's novel about it? Bring a beginners mind) Value the experience (see the relevance to you) Asking what is the challenge? What resource would be the most beneficial? The mind is like a garden - to grow things, focus on: Mindful witnessing Mindful releasing of what's negative Mindful receiving (replace what we release or simply receive what would be beneficial) Fighting what's negative only makes it work Growing a fundamental core of resilient wellbeing Safety, Satisfaction, and Connection are basic needs we have How it takes time to tend a garden How adversity isn't the only way to grow in life We have to experience what we want to grow inside We have to turn that experience into some kind of lasting change in the brain    Please Support The Show with a Donation See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Jeff Warren, former journalist and meditation teacher, discusses meditation for busy brains and how to overcome the belief that you can't meditate. They explore the role of meditation in living with depression, the constant chatter in our minds, and the importance of changing our relationship with our thoughts. They also emphasize finding joy and pleasure in meditation practice and cultivating an attitude of welcoming experience and bemusement.

Please Support The Show with a DonationRobert Wright is an author and a scholar. His most recent book, Why Buddhism is True, is an analytical look comparing the ancient concepts of Buddhism and the more recent findings of modern science. The title of his book may be a bit provocative, but we challenge you to hear him out before assuming what he writes about in his book on the topic. We think you'll find this interview thought provoking and interesting as well as instructive and helpful. Whatever your reaction to the episode, we'd love to hear about it. $30 off your first week of Hello Fresh www.hellofresh.com Enter Promo Code Feed30 UltraMax 3 Ultra Pure Omega 3s www.tryomax.com/wolf box of Omax 3 UltraPure for freeIn This Interview, Robert Wright and I Discuss... The Wolf Parable His book, Why Buddhism is True Evolutionary Psychology That according to Evolutionary Psychology we're wired to do what's best to propagate our genes into the next generation And how sometimes doing that might not be what's best for ourselves or the world That we're wired for a recurring dissatisfaction or discontented so we'd keep doing the things that would move us toward our goal of passing our genes on to the next generation Craving and Aversion Not following craving and aversion as guides are central to Buddhism According to Buddhism if we don't run from unpleasant feelings like sadness, anxiety etc, they will actually become less painful over time That the Buddha intuited a lot of things that we now know to be true according to modern science and evolutionary psychology How our thoughts can sometimes subtlely influence us - ex Cognitive Bias Cognitive Bias being driven by emotion rather than being rational & Buddhism teaches that The Buddhist conception of the mind/brain and modern psychology's conception of the mind/brain are very aligned In the cognitive battle for attention, the thought that "wins" is the one that has the most feeling attached to it How meditation can help give you clarity on thoughts and feelings and the difference between the two CBT & questioning your thoughts and feelings in Buddhism Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Allowing and observing rather than acting on our strong feelings The anguish we add to physical pain by the anticipation of it or the lamenting of it Essences that we impute into things The idea of not self and what it means The benefit of parceling out the things that we identify - like anxious feelings - as not being ourselves Thinking you're not cut out for meditation Please Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.