Why is it important to address Protective Parts in trauma recovery? The journey of recovering from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) is a profound and transformative experience, involving the unraveling of deep-seated traumas and the rebuilding of one's sense of self. Tanner, a former university professor, has devoted her life to guiding survivors through this intricate process using a unique blend of techniques including coaching, Parts Work, and Divine archetypal resonance. Her rich academic background and personal encounters with trauma have shaped his perspective, which centers on the importance of survivor-led recovery. Tanner advocates for a process driven by faith and self-leadership, believing in the power of individuals to transmute their trauma into empowerment. Through her Five Circuits of Healing Power program, she emphasizes a collaborative approach that honors each survivor's original narrative and encourages a transformative journey of self-discovery and healing. Key TakeAways - Tanner provides a comprehensive curriculum for CPTSD recovery through coaching, Parts Work, Gene Keys, and human design. - Survivors are encouraged to deepen their understanding and connection to their true selves through long-term mentorship and coaching containers. - Tanner emphasizes faith, self-leadership, and commitment to healing in survivor-led trauma recovery. - Protective Parts develop skewed narratives around worthiness, goodness, and lovability influenced by past trauma and survival instincts. - Confident Self Energy can offer alternative interpretations to Protective Parts, easing burdens and providing hope for healing. Actionable Insights - Embrace survivor-led trauma recovery and Self Leadership - Recognize and validate misconceptions created by Protective Parts - Approach Protective Parts with compassion and offer alternative perspectives - Understand the sequential unveiling of protective parts' layers - Navigate the complexities of healing from complex trauma by understanding the interplay of Protective Parts and Self Energy Quotes “I am clearer than I’ve ever been before that we truly are leading a survivor-led trauma recovery revolution.” — Tanner  [5:39] “Our soul is connected to our earthly, human experience. Our spirit is connected to the beyond, boundless oneness we have with the universe.” — Tanner  [16:34]  “The fear is: If we have a little bit of hope, if we try this healing out, if we see what’s on the other side of letting go of the despair, letting go of this belief [that] nothing will ever get better  — if we let go of that, what happens if we can’t heal?” — Tanner [18:11] “Once trust is there in self, once confidence is there in self, [then] there is openness to receiving alternative meaning-making.” — Tanner  [22:53]    

Why is inner child healing important for Unburdening past experiences? Inner child healing is a transformative process that involves reconnecting with the youthful essence within us to address and heal past traumas. It is a practice that fosters self-compassion and encourages the integration of all parts of oneself, paving the way for emotional release and personal growth. From Tanner's perspective, inner child healing is crucial for those recovering from complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD), as it allows individuals to reconnect with their core innocence and innate power. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and processing past traumas, which often have been buried or denied, in order to align with one's True Self. Through practices that encourage being present in the body and emotions, Tanner advocates for the release of suppressed emotions and the integration of both dark and light experiences to achieve healing and transformation. Key TakeAways - Healing trauma involves reconnecting with past burdened parts through inner work and self-compassion. - Embracing vulnerability and engaging in somatic experiences are key for trauma recovery and transformation. - Inner child healing and forgiveness play a crucial role in the process of unburdening and restoring lost innocence. - Integrating different parts of oneself into a cohesive inner community is essential for healing past traumas and creating a unified sense of self. Actionable Insights - Embrace vulnerability for healing and transformation - Engage in somatic experiences for healing - Connect with and offer forgiveness to your inner child - Create a safe space for healing and inner alignment Quotess: “CPTSD recovery as a journey is about the restoration of innocence. Inno-cence. It is an inner sense of the innocence [or] what we have lost along the way.” — Tanner  [0:04:57] “I am whole. I am complete. I am worthy. I am beautiful. I am magnificent.” — Tanner  [0:07:15] “Whatever happened, however long it [happened for], that is not you!” — Tanner  [0:17:48]  

How does trauma affect relationships and what are some common outcomes? Detachment from trauma is a complex topic that explains how individuals separate themselves from past traumatic experiences in an effort to cope. This disconnection can often lead to unintended consequences that affect both personal well-being and interpersonal relationships. Tanner, a CPTSD Recovery Guide, offers a unique perspective on this issue, shaped by both her professional role and personal experiences. She discusses the internal struggles she faces in balancing boundaries with responsibilities and the importance of nurturing resistant parts of oneself. Tanner's insights, drawn from his journey of addressing trauma in her life and those around her, underscore the need for open communication, accountability, and empowerment to prevent the damaging effects of unaddressed trauma. Through her work, Tanner advocates for a compassionate approach to healing, where acknowledging and reprocessing traumatic experiences can lead to personal and communal growth. Key TakeAways - The importance of befriending and nurturing parts of oneself that resist to effectively guide individuals through their recovery journey. - The damaging effects of trauma when left unaddressed and the need to hold individuals accountable. - The impact of trauma on relationships, including detachment, trust issues, and self-blame. - The transformative power of accountability and healing in restoring trust and empowering individuals to confront past traumas. Actionable Insights - Befriend and nurture the parts of ourselves that resist in order to effectively guide individuals through their recovery journey - Empower children to assert boundaries and communicate openly about traumatic experiences - Hold individuals and society accountable for addressing past traumas to restore trust and empowerment - Approach trauma-related issues with love, compassion, and openness to promote healing and self-understanding Quotes: “So many of us experience – something [happening] to us [that] hurt us and robbed us of our humanity and we never speak about it again. We pretend that it didn’t happen.” — Tanner  [0:08:57] “The perpetrator-victim roles serve a destabilization to uniform power [and] a destabilization of harmony.” — Tanner  [0:15:45] “I encourage you to – open your heart to any instance where you detached from a trauma.” — Tanner  [0:19:38]  

How can reframing relationships help in the journey of healing from CPTSD? The CPTSD Recovery Podcast offers a compelling exploration of the intricate challenges faced by individuals navigating relationships while dealing with Complex PTSD. Episode 85 specifically tackles how chaotic and conflict-laden relationships can serve as catalysts for personal growth and healing, utilizing concepts like "Self Energy" from Richard Schwartz's Internal Family Systems to facilitate this transformation. Tanner, a host and advocate for CPTSD recovery, shares her personal journey through tumultuous relationships, underscoring the profound impact that complex trauma has on one's relational experiences. Drawing from her own struggles, Tanner emphasizes the transformative power of staying committed to the recovery process, highlighting that true healing encompasses much more than improving relationships—it involves discovering unexpected gifts and developing a refreshed perspective on life and humanity. Key TakeAways - Reframing relationships as opportunities for growth and Self Empowerment can serve as a training ground for healing and transformation in CPTSD recovery. - Self energy, characterized by love, compassion, confidence, and courage, requires purification for optimal functioning and plays a crucial role in healing and connection. - Unburdening protective part energies, wounded younger part energy, and legacy burdens are essential in the journey of recovering from complex trauma. - Low levels of self energy can lead to unhealthy relational patterns like avoidance or conflict in CPTSD recovery, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and enhancing self energy. - Achieving deep self embodiment, where self energy is predominant, is vital in preventing further trauma and fostering healing in the CPTSD recovery journey. Actionable Insights  - Reframe relationships as opportunities for growth and self-empowerment - Recognize and unburden protective part energies in trauma recovery - Enhance Self Energy to change unhealthy relational patterns in CPTSD recovery - Achieve deep self-embodiment by connecting with Self Energy - Release energies not aligned with Self Energy to foster healing in the recovery journey Quotes: “All of us have this core of healing power inside of us that was gifted to us at birth.” —  Tanner  [11:46]   “In my personal experience and my clinical experience with clients, there typically, in the case of CPTSD, is a degradation to self-energy. It is not damaged, but is corrupt in some ways.” — Tanner  [12:45]   “Everything about healing is embodied, not only in what we do but who we are as a human and the frequency at which we vibrate.” — Tanner [21:06]   “[Being] self-centered is incredibly appropriate and necessary for the bulk of your CPTSD recovery journey.” — Tanner  [30:25]   “Once you have reached Self Embodiment, the really active CPTSD recovery is complete.” — Tanner [32:54]  

Exploring difficulties with relationships and CPTSD, the podcast discusses the five wounding patterns formed in childhood, the challenges of navigating relationships while dealing with trauma, understanding protective parts and wounding patterns, emotional distancing and finding solace in nature and animals, healing connection wounding patterns and increasing vulnerability tolerance, and the love and sex wounding pattern rooted in childhood experiences.

How does integrating Self Energy with Source Energy contribute to healing from complex trauma? The co-creation process in healing involves a collaborative effort between individuals and external energies or entities to foster personal transformation and recovery. Tanner, an advocate for this approach, believes that co-creation is vital for deep healing and growth, especially for those recovering from complex PTSD. Her perspective is shaped by his own journey of shifting from a reliance on external leadership to embracing self-nourishment and personal empowerment. Tanner acknowledges the challenges within trauma ecosystems, where not everyone is open to co-creation, but she emphasizes that connecting with The Universe and Source Energy can help release emotional burdens and facilitate healing. Through a blend of spiritual practices and Self Leadership, Tanner underscores the transformative potential of integrating Self Energy with universal energies in the healing process. Key TakeAways - Co-creating with The Universe empowers individuals and helps release gaslit parts. - Seeking validation and leadership from others is crucial in the healing journey of those with CPTSD. - Transitioning from manager parts to true healing leads to self-nourishment and a deeper understanding of healing ecosystems. - Acknowledging responsibility in the collective healing process is essential for personal growth and self-leadership. - Working with parts and validating negative self-views are important aspects of healing from complex trauma. - Integrating Self Energy with Source Energy through spiritual practices is key to healing from CPTSD. Actionable Insights - Open up to Source Energy and Divine connection for personal empowerment and healing - Seek validation and leadership from others in the healing process - Transition from being driven by manager Parts to embody true healing and self-nourishment - Acknowledge personal responsibility in the collective healing process - Work with Internal Family Systems to validate and witness negative self-views - Integrate Self Energy with Source Energy for healing from complex trauma Quotes: “Those that are healed enough grant opportunities for refinement, clarification, revision, improvement, modification, adaptation, opening, beginning, clearing, and reimagining.” — Tanner  [01:26]   “We move through life in an unfolding act of co-creation.” — Tanner [01:45]   “Living in that ‘I am’ energy is the healing, is the journey, is the process.” — Tanner [02:49]   “Learning how to do co-creation with the universe as an anchor is such a foundational part of how I view complex trauma recovery.” — Tanner  [06:57]   “Through my own experience, Self Energy couldn’t convince or collaborate or fully unburden my most severely gaslit parts.” — Tanner  [29:17]   “There is no sidestepping Self Leadership in the healing of CPTSD.” — Tanner [36:40]  

Exploring the pervasive negative self-view in complex trauma, the podcast discusses the intensity of self-loathing and self-disgust. It delves into protective parts and survival codes developed in childhood, and the struggle of wounded younger parts in managing trauma. The podcast also explores the harmful strategies individuals engage in to protect themselves and offers insights into the challenges of challenging a negative self-view.

Today's podcast discusses the importance of co-regulation in dealing with complex trauma. It explains what co-regulation is and why it is important for emotional control. The podcast highlights how complex trauma affects a child's ability to co-regulate and emphasizes the role of co-regulation in the healing process. Practical examples are provided for dealing with defensive strategies and different types of energy. Overall, the podcast focuses on the significance of finding co-regulatory support for both children and adults.

Why is self-perception and emotional regulation affected in CPTSD survivors? Complex trauma is a multifaceted issue that profoundly impacts individuals' self-perception and emotional regulation, often manifesting as negative self-views and feelings of helplessness. This emotional turmoil, deeply rooted in trauma, necessitates a compassionate approach to healing, where individuals are encouraged to acknowledge and engage with challenging emotions as opportunities for growth. Tanner views complex trauma as a multidimensional human experience, shaped by various factors including personal context, interactions, and even epigenetic influences. Drawing from their experiences, Tanner advocates for a deep, intentional commitment to the healing journey, emphasizing the need for self-leadership and energetic shifts to facilitate true healing. By embracing vulnerability and befriending protective parts, Tanner promotes an approach to healing that is both precise and intentional, ultimately transforming the cellular composition of the body from the inside out. Key TakeAways - CPTSD can significantly impact one's self-perception and self-esteem, leading to a distorted and negative view of oneself. - Individuals with CPTSD often struggle with controlling their emotions, experiencing explosive anger, persistent sadness, depression, and even suicidal thoughts. - Managing emotions in individuals with CPTSD is a common challenge, often leading to a sense of helplessness and decision-making based on emotionally charged states. - Wounded younger parts in CPTSD survivors are often hidden, requiring deep trust-building through internal work to access and heal. - Recognizing Nothing Bad or Wrong in Trauma Recovery can bring relief and provide compassionate self-leadership. - Approaching trauma healing with light and love involves nurturing and understanding the root causes of emotions rather than suppressing them. Actionable Insights - Find ways to release charged emotions to lessen the burden on oneself - Lean into intense emotions and meet oneself with compassion - Build deep trust with wounded younger parts through internal work - Acknowledge that nothing bad or wrong is happening in trauma recovery - Fully commit to the healing process by facing difficult emotions head-on - Approach trauma healing with light and love by nurturing and understanding root causes Quotes “At some point, most of us have some sort of life event related to our inability to control our emotions that just makes it crystal clear that this has become unmanageable, this is not sustainable, and something needs to change.” —Tanner  [04:12]   “Unlike the emotions of a non-traumatized human, or human without CPTSD, humans with CPTSD have these emotions that are interwoven into very primitive life or death fear frequencies.” — Tanner [05:49]   “These emotions are not just based on our human experience. they are also based on what we inherited from our family trauma intergenerationally.” — Tanner  [09:27]   “Healing CPTSD, recovering from CPTSD is about leaning into the very charged emotions. Not separating or distancing yourself from them, but meeting yourself and all your parts in those moments very directly.” — Tanner  [11:52]        

How do Protective Parts perpetuate internal struggle in childhood trauma survivors? Complex trauma recovery is an intricate process that demands a nuanced understanding of the inner self, particularly for individuals who have endured childhood trauma. Tanner offers a unique perspective by advocating for an expansion of the Internal Family Systems framework to better address the complexities of the inner world. This approach involves recognizing and engaging with different facets of oneself, including emotions, past versions, ancestral influences, and inner guides. Tanner's insights are shaped by a belief in the necessity of holding one’s own energy, which fosters internal safety and enhances relationships. He underscores the importance of precision and a deep comprehension of one's internal experiences, arguing that traditional models may fall short in facilitating genuine healing from complex trauma.  Key Points From This Episode:  How emotions motivate certain responses, actions, and thought processing patterns. Expanding on IFS to build a more holistic view of how we experience our inner worlds. The big six emotions and how emotions are different from energy. Why it’s important to acknowledge the absence or presence of fear. Insight into the various nuances of fear-based energy and the inheritance of hurt. How to hold that energy without numbing it or distancing yourself from it. How this allows you to show up for the parts of yourself that are most wounded.   Quotes “Not only can we recover from complex trauma, but in doing so, we unlock really powerful medicinal codes about collective healing.” — Tanner [0:02:02]   “There are a lot of different ways to give form to thoughts, energies, emotions, points of view, urges, actions, responses, reactions in our inner world.” — Tanner [0:07:00]   “Emotions are hugely important sources of information as humans operating in the world. It’s when we add the zing of fear to an emotion that we start to move into unhelpful, unproductive, very challenging things to hold.” —Tanner  [0:14:26]