How does trauma affect relationships and what are some common outcomes?

Detachment from trauma is a complex topic that explains how individuals separate themselves from past traumatic experiences in an effort to cope. This disconnection can often lead to unintended consequences that affect both personal well-being and interpersonal relationships. Tanner, a CPTSD Recovery Guide, offers a unique perspective on this issue, shaped by both her professional role and personal experiences. She discusses the internal struggles she faces in balancing boundaries with responsibilities and the importance of nurturing resistant parts of oneself. Tanner's insights, drawn from his journey of addressing trauma in her life and those around her, underscore the need for open communication, accountability, and empowerment to prevent the damaging effects of unaddressed trauma. Through her work, Tanner advocates for a compassionate approach to healing, where acknowledging and reprocessing traumatic experiences can lead to personal and communal growth.

Key TakeAways

- The importance of befriending and nurturing parts of oneself that resist to effectively guide individuals through their recovery journey.

- The damaging effects of trauma when left unaddressed and the need to hold individuals accountable.

- The impact of trauma on relationships, including detachment, trust issues, and self-blame.

- The transformative power of accountability and healing in restoring trust and empowering individuals to confront past traumas.

Actionable Insights

- Befriend and nurture the parts of ourselves that resist in order to effectively guide individuals through their recovery journey

- Empower children to assert boundaries and communicate openly about traumatic experiences

- Hold individuals and society accountable for addressing past traumas to restore trust and empowerment

- Approach trauma-related issues with love, compassion, and openness to promote healing and self-understanding

Quotes:

“So many of us experience – something [happening] to us [that] hurt us and robbed us of our humanity and we never speak about it again. We pretend that it didn’t happen.” — Tanner  [0:08:57]

“The perpetrator-victim roles serve a destabilization to uniform power [and] a destabilization of harmony.” — Tanner  [0:15:45]

“I encourage you to – open your heart to any instance where you detached from a trauma.” — Tanner  [0:19:38]