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What is semen retention and how it relates to sexual mastery (and multiple orgasms!)? Why would someone want to learn to do it? What are some simple tools that penis owners can use for sexual mastery? About our guest: Fabienne is a California based Sex and Intimacy Coach who specializes in helping men and other penis-owners develop sexual mastery, offering them the perspective and insight of a well-studied woman with a pussy. She guides people to use their sexual energy with integrity and intention to get more in touch and in love with their authentic selves and sexual expression. Fabienne loves to create, explore, and play with the form she has arrived in. Her mission is to be a loving witness to each person's strange, creative, beautiful selves, and to support others and herself to continue to heal in order to step into a freer form of self-expression and celebration of life. Find out more about Fabienne’s work at fabienneannick.com or on Instagram @fabienneannickSign up for her sexual self-mastery course here: https://www.fabienneannick.com/sexual-self-masteryConnect with other Shameless Sex Listeners by clicking here for DiscordAnd here for our Speed Dating Event Other links from our beloved sponsors:Take your (sexual) health into your own hands with at-home test kits + get 20% off at everlywell.com/shamelessGet 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comWant to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com

Edward is passionate about teaching powerful practices to help embody true leadership with clarity, presence, and authenticity from the bedroom to the boardroom. He holds a 2nd degree black belt in Aikido and is a senior instructor of Sheng Zhen Meditation. With this unique combination of martial arts, movement, and meditation he has helped thousands of people relax their bodies, quiet their minds, and embody the wisdom of an open heart full of love. He is the founder of Knot Love, an open-hearted approach to erotic rope play. He also providers leadership coaching through Willey Leadership. His 8-week men’s self-leadership program Awaken the Leader Within begins Feb 22nd. Also, register for his free online workshop Essential Self-Leadership Skills For Better Sex on Feb 10th at 5pm PST here: https://mailchi.mp/3cb6ebe9eecc/self-leadership-for-better-sexFull links to his offerings: willeyleadership.com knot-love.com

This episode is packed with all kinds of goodies on how to navigate modern day relationships. Whether you are monogamous, polyamorous, or wanting to add a third, the hosts of the Multiamory Podcast offer tools and tips on how to deepen connection, sharpen communication skills, and do relationships in a way that works for you as a unique sexual being. About our guests: Jase, Dedeker, and Emily, created the Multiamory Podcast in 2014 because they were tired of the same old toxic dating advice. They offer new ideas and advice for multiple forms of love: everything from conscious monogamy to ethical polyamory and radical relationship anarchy. They combine the knowledge from their years of personal experience with the best information available and present it in a way that’s entertaining, thought-provoking, and easy to apply to your relationships to. They have been featured in Cosmopolitan, Self Magazine, Vice, as well as offering talks at large-scale companies such as Google. Learn all about Multiamory at multiamory.com.Follow them on Instagram @multiamory_podcast and on Twitter and Facebook @multiamory. Other links:Sign up for Layla Martin's VITA Sacred Sexuality program by clicking hereSign up for our Pre-V-Day Speed Dating Event For Shameless Sex Listeners by clicking hereGet 20% off (and free shipping) your ultimate V-Day Couple's Gift Box at likeakitten.com/shameless Get turned on with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shamelessGet 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comWant to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com  

Alicia and Erwan join us once again to talk all about oral and hand pleasure for penises. They share their three top techniques for manual and oral stimulation, as well as plenty of other juicy tips on how to be a great giver. Be sure to check out Alicia and Erwan's upcoming online Valentine's Day Pleasure Course by clicking here Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 12. About our guests: For over 25 years Erwan and Alicia, who joined Erwan in 2003, have been working successfully with singles and couples, teaching their signature process – the Davon Method to hundreds of students in groups, retreats, and individual sessions and helping them create the relationships of their dreams. Erwan and Alicia have a unique approach to relationship coaching that combines their educational backgrounds in psychology and sexuality and aspects of Zen Buddhism to provide a holistic method to effectively improve connection with the self and others. Erwan and Alicia have been together for almost 20 years and over 10K students have participated in their work since 1995. They have demonstrated their signature sensual technique, Extended Orgasm, for over an hour in front of 100 people. Their specialties are supporting singles in getting into turned on and intimate relationships and helping couples take their relationships to new heights of passion and intimacy. Erwan & Alicia offer all of their coaching and classes online and support students all over the world. To learn more visit pleasurecourse.comBook your free Love Life Consultation with Alicia- text her school at 415 308 9580 OR click this link to set it up https://erwandavon.com/consult/ Click here for their upcoming online Valentine's Day Pleasure CourseOther links:Up your grooming game with 20% off and free shipping with code SHAMELESS at manscaped.comGet up to $200 off your customized dream mattress + two free pillows at helixsleep.com/shamelessGet 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comWant to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com  

We are so excited for this interview! Barbara Carrellas is Amy's favorite Tantra teacher as she beautifully blends sex, intimacy, BDSM, and Tantra in a way where everyday folks truly can access ecstatic orgasmic bliss. We talk all about how to think and breathe ourselves into orgasm, as well as the power of breath in orgasmic potential. Note: We had some audio issues so we had to switch over to Zoom for this recording. Please be gentle with us. The interview starts at minute 14. Interested in our online astrological speed dating event for Shameless Sex listeners? Sign up under "sex education" at purepleasureshop.comYou can also join our free Discord Group here: https://discord.gg/wS7CrPwYRfAbout our guest: Barbara Carrellas is the founder of Urban Tantra®, an international community, a philosophy, and an inclusive sacred sexuality practice that adapts and blends a wide variety of sacred sexuality practices from Tantra to BDSM. She is the author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century—now in its second edition, Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide to Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving. Her books, workshops, and lectures are an eclectic mix of sexual and spiritual practices designed to encourage readers and participants of all genders, sexual orientations and sexual preferences to expand their capacity for both pleasure and spiritual fulfillment. She was named Best Tantric Sex Seminar Leader in New York City by Time Out/NY Magazine, and was presented with a Lifetime Achievement Award at the Sexual Freedom Awards in London. Barbara is a proud graduate of the Coney Island Sideshow School with a double major in fire eating and snake handling. To learn more visit: barbaracarrellas.comFB: BarbaraCarrellasUrbanTantraTwitter: UrbantantrikaIG: UrbantantrikaOther links from our beloved sponsors:Get 20% off (and free shipping) your BYOB sexy kit at likeakitten.com/shameless Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comWant to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com  

In this episode we interview the creators of Bonobo Network - a sex-positive community that hosts sex parties, as well as educational workshops, retreats, potlucks, happy hours, discussion groups, online mixers, interviews, and so much more. We talk all about the ins and outs of sex parties, the importance of safety and consent, and how connection and community serve to create more aliveness in our everyday lives. Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 16.Want to make friends with other Shameless Sex fans? Join our online (free) Discord community by clicking here or go to bit.ly/shamelesssexAbout our guests: William is the founder and co-organizer of Bonobo Network. In 2014, the San Francisco Chronicle named William Winters the "de facto king of the East Bay polyamory scene." He's been working to earn the title ever since.William’s perspectives on non-monogamy, often through the lens of his own relationships, have appeared in San Francisco Magazine, KQED's Forum, the San Francisco Chronicle, and the New York Times. He has facilitated conversations about polyamory and sexuality in settings including university campuses, political conferences, living rooms, festivals, Burning Man, and beyond. He lives with his wife and their stupid cat in Oakland, CA.Misha Bonaventura co-produces Bonobo Network with William. Alongside William, she is passionate about supporting sex positive community and helping people create more pleasure for themselves. She teaches and consults individuals and communities to develop their consent culture with a harm reduction and transformative justice lens. Her private practice, Clearing Conversations, focuses on conflict resolution and communication coaching and she loves supporting the sex positive community of the Bay Area and beyond in creating sustainable, long-term relationship building.To learn more about Bonobo Network, visit bonobonetwork.com Other links from our beloved sponsors:Get Feeld - our favorite dating app - FREE by clicking here or going to this link: feeld.co/shameless Get turned on with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shamelessGet 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comWant to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com

What’s the problem with striving for 50/50 fairness in modern day marriages and relationships? How does an 80/80 approach lead to more connection and far less conflict? What does “the way you do life is the way you do sex" mean, and what 80/80 tools can couples apply to their relationships to inspire more intimacy and great sex? Nate Klemp, PhD answers all this and more. We also answer a sex question about how to talk to a partner about keeping it casual. Want to make friends with other Shameless Sex fans? Join our online (free) Discord community by clicking here or going to bit.ly/shamelesssexWant to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 22. About our guest: Nate Klemp is a writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur. Along with his wife Kaley, he is the author of the newly released The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage (Penguin Random House). He is also the coauthor, with Eric Langshur, of the New York Times Bestseller Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing and is a regular contributor for Inc. Magazine, Fast Company, and Mindful. He is also a founding partner at Mindful, one of the world's largest mindfulness media and training companies. Nate holds a B.A. and M.A. in philosophy from Stanford University and a PhD from Princeton University. To learn more visit 8080marriage.com Other links from our beloved sponsors:Get 30% off any Satisfyer sex toy with code Shameless30 at satisfyer.comGet 20% off and free shipping on Like A Kitten's BYOB sexy gift box with code SHAMELESS at likeakitten.com/shameless Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet 10% off while mastering the art of vulva pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comWant to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com

What is “mind-blowing sex”? What gets in the way of having it? How can folks begin to move from "okay" or "good" sex to MIND BLOWING life-altering sex - not just from time to time but as a regular part our lives? The incredible Layla Martin shares all this and so much more. Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 19. About our guest: Layla Martin is a visionary rebel who teaches on sexuality, relationships, and self-love to people across the globe. Her devoted study of Tantra for 18+ years along with her sexuality studies at Stanford University have informed her unique teaching process and the creation of her proprietary VITA™ Methodology. Her programs have taught over 12,500 women, men, and non-binary people her method of using breath, sound, movement, meditation, and energy awareness to awaken their sexuality and reclaim their power and worthiness. She is a thought leader who combines mystical practices with the most up-to-date scientific approaches to transformation to enable radical liberation, rapid change, and outrageous pleasure. Her highly effective programs, tools, and practices empower you to experience exquisite sex, shameless self-love, and incredible depths of intimacy. She’s the founder of the Vital and Integrated Tantric Approach (VITA™) and the creator of the VITA™️ Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching Certification, the VITA™ Sacred Sexuality Initiation, and other programs. She’s shared her work with over 135 million people through her YouTube channel and has a weekly email audience of 375,000+ people. If you want to experience epic sex, legendary love, and your most magnificent self, visit Layla’s website and follow her on Facebook and Instagram.To access Layla's 30 Days to Multi-Orgasmic Bliss Guide visit or click https://go.laylamartin.com/shamelesssex-multiorgasmic Other links from our beloved sponsors:Get Feeld - our favorite dating app - FREE by clicking here or going to this link: feeld.co/shameless Take your (sexual) health into your own hands with at-home test kits + get 20% off at everlywell.com/shamelessGet 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comWant to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com 

The holiday's are here and it's cold outside (at least where we live), so why not keep it hot by adding more pleasure into the mix? In this episode we share a number of sexy gift ideas that will inspire more eroticism and connection in your life including some that won't cost you a dime. We also share our top sex toy gift ideas for this holiday season.  Want 20% off and free shipping on the ultimate Naughty or Nice sexy kits for couples? Go to likeakitten.com/shameless or enter code SHAMELESS at checkout  Get 20% all sex toys at purepleasureshop.com until December 15th, 2021 (and 15% off thereafter with code SHAMELESSSEX)

Return guest Dr. Alison Ash joins is to talk all about fantasies: What kind of things do people most commonly fantasize about? What if we fantasize about someone other than our partner? Are fantasies and actual role play (acting them out) the same thing? Also, how can we up our fantasy game whether alone or with a partner?We also answer a sex question about jealousy over a partner's past sexual partners. Want to skip for the interview? Fast forward to minute 14. About our guest: Dr. Alison Ash is a sex and intimacy coach and educator, lecturer at Stanford University, author, and founder of TurnON.love. A champion for others overcoming shame and deepening pleasure, Aly helps her clients experience the kinds of sexual interactions and romantic relationships they long for.    As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, Aly has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. She also draws on her extensive training in the Hakomi method of psychotherapy as well as Somatica model of sex and intimacy coaching to support her clients to radically explore and courageously express themselves. Aly designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them. She invites you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.loveOther links:Get 30% off any Satisfyer sex toy with code Shameless30 at satisfyer.comGet turned on with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shamelessGet 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.comGet $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shamelessGet 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.comWant to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com