#278 The Submissive Side of BDSM - with Orpheus Black

May 31, 2022

Join Orpheus Black, a master teacher renowned for his BDSM expertise, as he unpacks the art of submission in intimate relationships. He discusses what it means to be a sub and offers strategies for initiating sex without losing one's identity. Orpheus dives into navigating non-monogamous desires, emphasizing clear communication while exploring jealousy and consent. He also contrasts surrender and submission while advocating for informed BDSM practices. Don’t miss out on his insights for combining healthy sexuality with personal empowerment!

Ask episode

AI Snips

Chapters

Transcript

Episode notes

ANECDOTE

Unexpected BDSM Introduction

Orpheus Black's journey into the world of BDSM began unexpectedly when a polyamorous partner left him for a Dom.
A visit to a goth industrial club and witnessing a scene of extreme kink sparked his interest and led him to explore this realm.

INSIGHT

Submission as Surrender

Submission is about surrender, ceasing resistance, and allowing oneself to experience desired sensations and feelings.
It's not about blind obedience but giving yourself over to what you desire most.

ADVICE

Evoking vs. Provoking

Cultivate a way of being that evokes a desired response in your partner, rather than provoking specific behaviors.
Use language, actions, mannerisms, and presentation to create an inviting space for exploration.

Get the Snipd Podcast app to discover more snips from this episode

Get the app

What does being a sub mean, and how does this show up in sex? What if someone who identifies as a sub and wants their partner to be more dominant in the bedroom, how can they approach this? How can submissive folks stay in their identity or role while still initiating sex with their partners? Master teacher and return guest Orpheus Black addresses all this and so much more.

Be sure to checkout Orpheus's upcoming 3 day workshop extravaganza on June 25, July 2, July 9. It is a hybrid class to be held in LA and streamed on Zoom. Plus you get 20% off with code Shameless1. Sign up here or visit his website at orpheusblack.com

Also, if you want to join our free online Shameless Sex Discord community, sign up here: discord.gg/nvXqTEcBTg

About our guest: Orpheus aims to propel the intellectual and sensual evolution of masculinity both by challenging men to reconnect with its roots and by inviting them to embrace manhood in its fullness, the way strong modern men wish it to be. In this role, he shares insights, offers tools, and speaks against societal norms of shame and repression. He does it all with the earnestness of a therapist, the knowledge of a guru, and the charisma of a stage performer.

With a helpful practice steeped in spirituality and intimacy, Orpheus is a living bridge between healthy sex and enlightenment. Through a balanced integration of Afro-Buddhism, psycho-sensuality, and Taoist teachings popularized by the martial arts, his light-hearted lessons have become sought after internationally, even as counsel to the experts in his field. As a result, many today look to him as the “coach’s coach”. For groups, couples and individuals looking for a deeper exploration of self, shadow, kink, dominance and submission Orpheus Black regularly provides guided lessons at world famous staples in the S&M community and offers private coaching sessions.