The Madelyn Moon Show (Previously Mind Body Musings)

Episode 202: Annabelle Blythe is a transformational poet and life coach from Toronto, Canada. She inspires men and women around the world to access their future potential in the present moment through embodying their most authentic expression. Her words offer up a new way of being where we embrace all of our lived experience - no matter how light, or dark. Show notes: Get 30 days FREE on Audible (and one free audiobook) by using the show's unique link HERE. How Annabelle is nourishing her desire to slow down by vacationing in Costa Rica. How to it can be challenging to totally "turn off" as an online business owner even when you are traveling. The dark period Annabelle experienced during her teen years that eventually led her to seek out therapy, mentorship and life coaching. How she initially gained permission to be herself through others until she learned how to give it to herself (and why this is totally okay!). Why coaching is like an experience of looking into a still pond and seeing your own reflection. “The idea of the mastery is in coming back, not in being there all the time." The shadow side that she's currently learning how to embody. Why so many of us fear that our love is "too much". The importance of not abandoning yourself in a relationship to make the other person happy. Sovereignty is the ability to stand in your own power while still opening up yourself to create something in another. Learning how to truly be like "two peas in a pod". Recognizing how we contribute to the tension in our relationships. Esther Parel: Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs Esther Parel's podcast HERE The Masculine holds the space and the Feminine fills it. Must-read book: Attached by Amir Levine Connect with Annabelle: Website Instagram  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 201: Kate Swoboda is creator of YourCourageousLife.com, Director of the Courageous Living Coach Certification at TribeCLCC.com and author of The Courage Habit: How to Accept Your Fears, Release the Past, and Live Your Courageous Life. She helps individuals, teams, and companies see where old, fear-based habits have kept people stuck or started to limit what’s possible for an organization, and then start creating more courageous lives by getting into “the courage habit,” a four-part process for behavioral and organizational change. Kate has appeared in MindBodyGreen, Entrepreneur, USA Today, Forbes, Lifetime Moms, The Intelligent Optimist, Business Insider, and more, and her website Your Courageous Life was named a top-50 blog for happiness by Greatist. She’s spoken at conferences and seminars on the topic of courage as it relates to personal development, releasing overwhelm, business and marketing, money mindset, wellness, increasing emotional resilience, and healthy goal-setting using habit-formation techniques. Show notes: Want to support the podcast? Leave a review on the iTunes show HERE or send your favourite episode to a friend! Kate's past of perfectionism and chronic exhaustion in her first salary-based job even when she had a promotion around the corner How she tried to avoid feeling her feelings when she first realized how unhappy she was in her career Some of the signs she experienced that told her the job was not right for her How Kate brings attention to her need for yin energy when she is in a period of productivity and yang energy How the "grass is always greener on the other side" mentality can be subtle but yet so dangerous if you don't have it looked at early on in life The four different fear-based patterns we adopt to stay in our comfort zone and listen to our fear voice. An example of how I have to watch out for moments I'm not intuitively adapting to a new phase in life The importance of protecting your glow by using your voice and setting boundaries "If outside of the comfort zone is the ability to set boundaries, we will stay inside of the comfort zone of being where we are and with the patterns that we know" The three predominant ways that we deal with fear: avoid/ignore, please/placate and attack The goal isn't to be fearless, the goal is to change your relationship with fear. The cue-routine-reward-system Reframing your "stuckness" when you're in a limiting story Must-read book: When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron Connect with Kate: Website Facebook Instagram Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 200: It's evident in our society that women have been exposed to two extremes with their sexuality, both which lead to sexual shame: exploitation and repression. The media has been exploiting women's sexuality for decades as a way to diminish and demean its true power down to a crisp. As a result: men have treated unmet desires with violence and ownership, women have used their bodies as a form of manipulation to get what they want/don't want, and sex has been involved in the marketing of just about everything from cars to perfumes to food. We have been constantly reminded in commercials, movies and ads what a woman's sexuality should look like...but absolutely nothing about what it feels like. On the other hand, many of us across the world have had our sexuality repressed from a lineage of unhealthy relationships with sexuality or through religion. In many religions, a woman's sexuality is her most prized possession and once it's "taken" it cannot be replenished. Again, there is too much focus on what sex should look like (in this case, within the context of marriage), but not enough on what it feels like. When young girls learn at an early age that men only want them for their bodies and they must hide away their sexuality to stay safe, they grow up with trust issues not only with others but certainly with themselves. They want to hide away their sexuality, avoid eye contact, use body manipulation (binge eating or starving) as tactics to feel in control, and they lose their ability to stay present with another human, especially when being intimate. Most importantly, they lose touch with what a "yes" really feels like and what a "no" really feels like...within the bedroom and the real world. I believe it's time we dive deep into these topics on the Mind Body Musings Podcast. Show notes: Why it's so important we collectively decide to promote not only body positivity in our families, but also sex positivity. “Do not cause a man to stumble.” Growing up in a conservative Christian household, I was told this biblical verse a lot. Unfortunately, the only context in which I remember it is in regards to my feminine body. Some examples of how my negative relationship with sexuality were reinforced growing up, including: having signed contracts in my closet and bedroom, the massive pile of Christian dating books blocking my doorway and the True Love Waits Program. One of the reasons why many women have held back from speaking about their experience with sexual abuse is because of their inner thoughts like "I asked for it" and for feeling responsible for what was done to them. When you are taught as a young girl that you are in control of a man "stumbling" (and it's your responsibility to ensure he doesn't) you begin to think that it's truly your fault when you experience advances. Backpedaling: speaking your truth and then taking it back out of fear. My first real relationship was with a man who was insecure with his body and constantly projected his own unhealthy sexuality onto me. The story of my first kiss when I was 13 year olds and how it ended with me bawling in the garage out of shame and fear. We are doing sexual healing for hundreds of generations-- not just ourselves. This is why this work is so big. Sexuality is directly linked to creativity. When you stifle one, you stifle the other. Why it's time to come together as men and women to build something together (listen to the episode I did with Josh Trent about this HERE) "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" >> Why this kind of language is so detrimental to everyone's ability to trust. Body manipulation / disordered eating is directly related to your relationship with your sexuality. A few things you can begin to do to heal your sexual shame. Connect with Maddy: Facebook (and/or “follow” my profile HERE) Instagram Mind Body Musings Podcast Coaching Get your free gift >> 5 Divinely Feminine Tools for Decreasing Stress and Anxiety HERE Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 199: Josh Trent is the founder of Wellness Force & Wellness Force Media, a wellness industry influencer, and consultant specializing in health technology. As a top-ranked iTunes podcast host of Wellness Force Radio podcast, with over 14 years in the health and wellness industry, Josh leads the Wellness Force community in discovering physical and emotional intelligence to help men and women live life well. His work has been featured in major health and wellness publications such as WellnessFX, NASM, a 2017 host of the Fitness + Technology Podcast, and is a speaker for FitTech CES. As the host of Wellness Force Radio, Josh interviews world-class experts in the fields of physical and emotional intelligence, mindset, behavior change, supplementation, nutrition, health, wellness, fitness, and technology that empower the WFR audience with actionable steps for the wellness journey. Show notes: How food used to be Josh's drug of choice when he felt unsafe in his childhood; how it provided for him a sense of comfort and safety. How Josh reclaimed his life when he was 21 and realized he didn't like his relationship, job or body (and what he did about it) Being in the space where one layer of purpose is burned off and you're waiting for the second one to show itself Weapons of Mass Distraction: a few of the ways Josh (and millions of other men) use distractions to fill the deep, inner desire to give/receive love How men are learning to trust themselves again as they connect more to the heart rather than being completely in the head How men can find balance and a middle ground so that they don't swing completely to the opposite side where they don't have ambition, drive and strength My experience with dating S.N.A.G(s) Why we need to respect both the beast and spirit within each one of us "We don't have to be a black belt in order to teach a white belt." Why we sometimes get the same bleh experience over and over again: it's not because we haven't truly healed our wounds or limiting beliefs, but it's the Universe testing us to see if we continue to say no to it in our lives (basically, the Universe is saying, "How serious are you about this change?") Allowing yourself to evolve and grow naturally-- it's okay to change from who you once were. The Shadow Side to #MeToo How we are losing "the dance" between man and woman (and how to get it back) "In order to feel desired, one has to let go of control of the capsule of which they are going to be desired in." >> YES. The work for men: being intuitive about whether or not it's time to go in for the kiss. Men know when she is feeling uncomfortable or not into it-- and that's when it's a no. The work for women: staying connected to your truth, step into your power and give your man signals that you're trusting him and longing for him to come in for the kiss (or whatever it may be). This requires you to be present-- you cannot truly step into your power if you are thinking about something else. Secondarily, it's also your job to tell him no if it's a no. Curiousity is fuel for all of life...but especially when it comes to letting him lead in the relationship. The Feminine is the reason why the Masculine leads (if it wasn't for women, men would live in a cardboard box) "Women, YOU are our leader." HERE is the study on loneliness being the deadliest disease Why it's so important to have a mindset of #WeToo with men and women Must-read book: The Way of the Superior Man and Vibe  Music he will be jamming out to: anything by Tycho Connect with Josh: Website Facebook Instagram Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 198: Anita Johnston, Ph.D., is a Depth Psychologist and author of Eating in the Light of the Moon, which has been published in six languages.  She is the co-creator of the online course, Light of the Moon Café, which is an interactive “workbook” and women’s support circle for Eating in the Light of the Moon. She has been working in the field of women’s issues, feminine spirituality, and disordered eating for over 35 years and is a thought leader in understanding the Feminine as it relates to struggles with eating and body image. She is currently the Clinical Director of ‘Ai Pono** Eating Disorder Programs in Hawaii, including a residential treatment program in Maui. Dr. Johnston provides individual consultations online, conducts Soul Hunger workshops and women’s circles, as well as professional trainings, around the world.  She is best known for her use of metaphor and the ancient wisdom found in storytelling, along with her training as a clinical psychologist, to address the struggles of women, their bodies and relationships. Show notes: The first time I found Eating in the Light of the Moon (and how I had sooo much resistence to picking it up) "If you could think your way out of your eating disorder, you would have done it a long time ago." Why recovery is more of a labyrinth than a maze  Recovery is not about finding your way in and out-- it's about reaching the center Using archetypes (by Carl Jung) to heal your disordered eating and relationship with your body How the Mother Archetype can provide for you the love that you crave within: for people who struggle with eating disorders, what they are really desiring is mothering The reason why people reach for food when they are deeply craving mothering is because food is comfort Ways you can get mothering energy outside of your mom The difference between belonging and fitting in The Masculine part of ourselves desires to check things off, get things done and do things the correct way The Feminine part of ourselves is the emotional, intuitive, relational side of ourselves Considering that our society prioritizes the Masculine energy, you can see how the Masculine body is also prioritized (hardness, six-pack, buns of steel) How we have been brainwashed into thinking that fat = bad (and the history behind it) When people feel bad as adults, they immediately latch onto thinking that the root of the pain is because of their body The story of the King and his dog-- and how it's a perfect metaphor for how we treat our own bodies every day The story of the letting go of a log when you are deep in water--- and how it's a metaphor for recovery Speaking your truth is not about getting exactly what it is that you want The link between feeling sexy/free in the bedroom and disordered eating How a women's Full Moon Circle is a brilliant way to feel your sexuality without incorporating sex Must-read book: Crones Don't Whine and Goddesses in Older Women Connect with Anita: FREE GIFT, The Food and Metaphor Guide: LightofTheMoonCafe.com/mbm Facebook Instagram Twitter Grab her book HERE Contact: Anita@LightoftheMoonCafe.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 197: Last week, I had a friend come up to me and share that he had been experiencing guilt for his happy childhood after he experienced his first sharing circle where he listened to everyone's traumatic stories... but yet he had nothing "deep" to contribute on his own. He felt guilty for speaking up when it was his turn, so instead of saying the truth ("well, I had an amazing childhood"), he searched for something that would fit in better with everyone else's story-- even if it wasn't 100% true. I've had several clients share with me that they don't know how to handle their recent fortune in life, whether they are referring to their amazing new boyfriend, an easy move across the country or a recent paycheck that's blown their mind. I've had friends share that they are feeling guilty for living a life of such abundance and joy while others surrounding them are in the depths of addiction, depression, fear, anxiety and/or other downers. I get it-- when the world is full of so much pain, it can make it challenging for those of us feeling truly happy to totally own the experience, let go of the guilt for not "doing enough", and to embrace the goodness we are experiencing. Have you found yourself feeling guilty for your happiness? Do you feel helpless in a room full of people who aren't in the same state of abundance as you are? Do you feel like you're not "doing enough" to help those less fortunate, even though you're doing what you can in those small moments to brighten the day of another? If any of this is resonating, this might be the reminder you need. Show notes: The difference between the Dark Shadow and the Light Shadow (and which one is typically harder to "own") Dark Shadow: the side of yourself that you rather not see come out Light Shadow: your brilliance, beauty, gifts, love and light Why you can sometimes trigger people when you own your brilliance and Light Shadow An example of a friend who struggled with sharing his happy past in a roomful of people who were sharing their trauma and wounds (and the feelings of guilt that came up) The best question you can ask yourself when you feel guilty for having abundance and happiness A couple of ways that angels speak to us Why feeling guilty for your happiness is giving the Universe mixed signals (and decreases your chances of keeping that abundance) The ego is always looking for ways to feel important which is why even in ease, the ego may be looking for a reason to fear and stand out Woundaraderie: camaraderie with wounds "We don't only surrender in the darkness, we also surrender in the light." Another example of how we feel shame with our health and body image even when it's in good standing Why it's so important for people who want to do GOOD to have the money and power, rather than the people who are currently running the show and digging our environment's grave "I can receive this" >> something to put on a sticky note in your bathroom! Why you don't need to constantly prove to the Universe that you're deserving of your happiness The importance of allowing yourself to retreat inward Connect with Maddy: Facebook (and/or “follow” my profile HERE) Instagram Mind Body Musings Podcast Coaching Get your free gift >> 5 Divinely Feminine Tools for Decreasing Stress and Anxiety HERE Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 196: Amy Baglan is the Founder and CEO of MeetMindful, where she’s on a mission to evolve the online dating world. MeetMindful is one of the fastest growing dating and networking platforms in the world, and is connecting the 36 million singles interested in mindful living, meditation, health and wellness, sustainability, spirituality, and personal growth. Amy started her own journey of mindful living after years of growing early stage startups in New York. She wanted to put that same ambition and drive inward towards herself so she quit her job, sold all her possessions, and bought a one-way ticket to travel through India, Thailand, Bali, and Cambodia for an entire year. She discovered the love of learning and finding new ways to expand her mind, body and spirit. After returning to the US and having a difficult time finding other like-minded people, Amy launched MeetMindful in 2014 to help mindful singles meet people in their “tribe”, find true love, and offer an alternative to the superficial nature of today’s popular swipe dating apps. Show notes: When I saw Amy Baglan's photo on the wall at Techstars in Boulder this past month Amy's history of interning with startups and working in sales, customer service and business development How Amy found herself in love with building something from nothing How her initial desire to connect with something greater led her to a Gabby Bernstein lecture where she met a sober runner named Courtney. ("and the rest was history!" so they say) Finding meditation, a nutrition program, yoga and mindful friends Tim Ferriss's 4-Hour Work Week (and the profound impact it has on so many people) When she sold all of her belongings and headed off to India/Asia with the goal of "self-exploration" Yoga Dates- a Meetup group Amy started in order to change the separateness of yoga and transform it into a dating experience  Yoga and AcroYoga isn't only about the practice-- it's about the connection you create during the practice (both with yourself but also with others) The true pillar of Meet Mindful is bringing people together who have a deep value they can bring into a relationship How the pattern of breaking up with someone because "they don't have this one super important passion" (fill in the blank: is a yogi, rock climbs, has a bigger family, etc) can often be an excuse for not wanting to be vulnerable and loved by another-- and having a way out of it. How the abundance of dating options can influence us to bounce from one relationship to the next Qualities you want in your partner should not be surface level things-- they are deep but yet still allow room for different forms of expression. "There's always going to be work to do no matter who you're with. It's up to you do decide who you're going to do the work with." How to know when you're "enjoying" doing the work in a relationship (rather than being addicted to the relationship and being hooked on doing the work) The three types of attachment styles and how you know when you're in a secure relationship Must-read book: The Alchemist and Come as You Are  Connect with Amy: MeetMindful Website Twitter Instagram Facebook Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 195: When was the last time you decided it was time to get out of your routine and jump ship on your day-to-day rituals? Does it make you tense up to simply think about not having all of your creature comforts if you were to take a small trip or distance yourself from your daily activities? Just this past Monday I returned from a 10-day trip to Vancouver, British Columbia where I was completely out of my routine. The experience opened up my eyes to just how reliant I have been on my routine and rituals for feeling grounded lately. This surprised me. Though I am a Virgo Rising, which is all about routine/structure/order, I'm also a spontaneous Leo Sun, which is all about being playful and free. I typically consider myself to have a really grounded yet free-spirited personality, though there are times I can absolutely get a little too set in my routine. This is one of those instances where I was "woken up" to that and today on the podcast I'm going to share alllll of it with you. Show notes: Why I recently decided to take a trip to Vancouver, B.C Examples of the Light Shadow and Dark Shadow in being a very routine-oriented person Light Shadow: routine is what keeps me grounded, keeps me in a creative flow, helps me to stay consistent with recording podcasts, with my meditation practice and so much more. "Discipline creates freedom" -- the Masculine (structure) allows for the Feminine (creativity) to thrive. Dark Shadow: sometimes my routine can be too rigid and I won't allow flow into my life. I can miss out on fun get-togethers because I feel I need to be in bed by a certain time or I need to do more work. How I used to look down on my routine and structure (and even felt a little ashamed of it) How incredibly enlightening my three month solo trip around Southeast Asia was for my journey to letting go of routine, food rules and my comfort zone Why understanding my Virgo Rising helped me to reclaim this aspect of myself Having routine is great / what isn't great is being rigid and guarded How I really tapped into my ability to let go and surrender to the trip around day four (and why it took a few days) One of the best ways you can distance yourself from your routine for a bit Sign up for a call with me for the next Feminine Surrender HERE Connect with Maddy: Facebook (and/or “follow” my profile HERE) Instagram Mind Body Musings Podcast Coaching Sign up for a call to speak with me about the next Feminine Surrender HERE Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 194: Ryan Yokome is an internationally recognized expert in the field of personal transformation. Over the past decade, Ryan has helped hundreds of spiritual seekers create a foundation for inner peace through releasing limiting stories, intuitive development, getting into vibrational alignment, and discovering their life purpose. Ryan’s works help you tap into your inner guru that will guide you home to feel more connected, wildly free, and abundantly wealthy in all areas of your life. Show notes: The next Feminine Surrender Retreat is right around the corner! Learn more + schedule a call with me HERE (4 spots are already filled after one week of sharing the dates!). A peak into Ryan Yokome's upbringing being very sensitive, empathic and intuitive. Why he would always get sore throats growing up because he was never sharing his personal truth (and as a result, his throat chakra was blocked!). Explaining the Dark Night of the Soul. "It's in our low points in life where we find out who we really are as people." The value of embracing the parts of yourself that you don't really like. How to know what your Shadow Self is: "The Shadow is the person that we rather not be" --Carl Jung The Light Shadow is your genius and brilliance. Many of us also have a difficult time accepting this side. Two instances in Ryan's life where he came face-to-face with his Shadow. How being poor was a catalyst for Ryan in learning how to get out of his head and into his body. How our Shadow Self is like an inflated beach ball being shoved underwater. Why you need to have both a spiritual team and a physical team. Money is a living, breathing, energy. If you want to know what your relationship with money is like, take note of the feeling you get when you open your bank account. The gift that can come from spending money even when you are in a state of fear around letting it go. Must-read book: The Dark Side of the Light Chasers and A Course in Miracles Connect with Ryan: Website Facebook Instagram Podcast Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Episode 193: "Not enoughness" is an epidemic. Every single day, women and men hold themselves back from speaking up, taking risks, living out their truth and so much more because they don't feel like enough. A few common examples include... If only I had THIS (fill in the blank with something you believe you are lacking), then I would be able to date that kind of person. If only I looked like THAT (fill in the blank with some body standard), then I would be able to wear those outfits. If only I had HER level of success, then I would be able to say I've really "made" it. If only I had HIS ideas, I would be able to accomplish so much more in this lifetime. Many times our made-up beliefs around not being "enough" come from comparisons, but they also come from feelings of worthiness, our stories around failure/rejection and our fear of not being accepted into society if we show our true colors. Today on the Mind Body Musings Podcast I'm going to share some reframes around these beliefs. Show notes: The next Feminine Surrender Retreat is right around the corner! Learn more + schedule a call with me HERE (4 spots are already filled after one week of sharing the dates!) The cart for B-School is closing tomorrow at 6 PM MST. If you are interested in building your own profitable online business but you desire some accountability and clarity along the way, sign up for B-School and get started today HERE Check out the interview I did with B-School founder, Marie Forleo, HERE if you are desiring to learn more about the program first. Reframe #1: Moving from "rejection" to "ejection" Rejection is simply someone ejecting themselves from the realm of possibility in your life Reframe #2: Moving from the pressure to do something different (to feel important) to realizing the power of being different You are loved for who you are, not what you do. You will never feel enough by doing more because the bar will continue to raise. If adopting a hyper masculine attitude isn't working for you, try a different approach. Adopt the mentality that you don't have to prove your worthiness because you already embody it. Reframe #3: Moving from "How will they take this?" to "How can I create this?" It is not your job to tell people how they are supposed to interpret you Listen to THIS episode with JP Sears to learn more about this from a well-known youtube star Stop trying to make everyone comfortable around you. You are doing people a disservice if you never allow them to feel triggered in your presence. If people feel triggered around you it is because they are seeing something within you that they can't stand within themselves Reframe #4: Moving from "Will they accept me?" to "How can I accept them?" Reframe #5: Moving from "I hate XX about myself" to "XX is absolutely a part of me" What "the world is inside of you" really means Grab your FREE ebook "5 Divinely Feminine Tools for Decreasing Stress and Anxiety" HERE Connect with Maddy: Facebook Instagram Mind Body Musings Podcast Coaching Sign up for a call to speak with me about the next Feminine Surrender HERE Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands