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Michael John Cusick, a Licensed Professional Counselor and spiritual director, dives into the fascinating science and theology of attachment. He shares how being seen, soothed, safe, and secure forms healthy relationships and supports recovery from addiction. Cusick discusses the profound effects of parental gaze on identity formation and the need for nurturing divine attachment. He also highlights the journey of embracing vulnerabilities to find joy and healing, culminating in a serene meditation on Psalm 131.

Exciting developments are underway as the podcast transforms into a ministry dedicated to supporting Christian men in overcoming pornography addiction. Discover the value of community and how your contributions can help expand vital resources. Learn about free programs like mini-courses and an all-in-one academy designed to foster healing and transformation. This initiative emphasizes a journey of support, encouraging listeners to engage in self-improvement and collective growth.

In this episode, you'll learn two powerful antidotes for porn addiction: play and awe. Ready for a deep dive into neuroscience? According to Polyvagal Theory, play and awe are both "blended states" that regulate your autonomic nervous system through connection instead of disconnection. Play is not peripheral. Awe is not optional. These experiences are essential for the health of your brain!Watch the video at www.husbandmaterial.com/play-awe-pornRelated podcast episodes:Porn And Polyvagal Theory (with John Kilmer)Why Men Need To Play (with Dr. Michael Crocker)Master Your Nervous System (LIVE)Recommended reading (these are paid links):Anchored by Deb DanaPolyvagal Theory in Therapy by Deb DanaThe Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam JolmanSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Jason Mellard, the founder of Own Your Identity and a certified high-performance coach, shares his powerful journey of overcoming unwanted same-sex attraction. He discusses his struggles with masculinity and the impact of past trauma on his self-identity. Jason emphasizes the importance of embracing one's identity in Christ and finding purpose beyond addiction, detailing transformative healing methods like visualization and mentorship. His insights provide hope and practical tools for men seeking clarity and empowerment.

In this conversation, Trent Dollyhigh, founder of Be Vulnerable Mentoring and expert in sexual addiction recovery, shares his candid journey from trauma to triumph. He reveals the struggles of growing up in a strict household and how it shaped his view of vulnerability. Trent emphasizes that true connection requires risk, explores his battles with pornography, and highlights the power of self-acceptance. Listeners will be inspired by his insights on embracing vulnerability as a path to healing and rebuilding relationships.

Dive into the emotional lessons from Pixar's Inside Out and Inside Out 2, exploring how these narratives can help with healing from pornography. Discover key takeaways that advocate understanding and processing emotions for better vulnerability. The discussion illuminates the importance of navigating your internal landscape to achieve emotional freedom, offering a fresh perspective on personal growth.

What are the 3 phases of healing from sexual betrayal? In part 2 of our series with Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket, you'll get a helpful overview of the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM). You'll also learn the difference between forgiveness vs. reconciliation vs. trust and how to avoid "good boy syndrome" while working on rebuilding trust.Dr. Barbara Steffens is the founding president of APSATS, the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists. She has specialized in providing help for the partners of sexual addicts since 1999. Dr. Steffens is a recognized expert in the field, and is now accepting speaking engagements for churches and professional organizations. Learn more and connect with Barb at drbarbarasteffens.comBuy Barb's book (this is a paid link):Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and HealLyschel Burket is the Lead Hope Caster and Founder of Hope Redefined. She is also a current APSATS Board Member and the committee lead for BTRL (Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training). Lyschel has been working with women since 2008 by helping them navigate the road of betrayal by sexual infidelity. She knows all too well the isolation, shame, fear, and trauma that betrayal causes. More than anything, Lyschel wants women to know that they don’t have to walk this road alone, so she provides a safe community where each one can find healing and hope.Learn more about Lyschel and Hope Redefined at hoperedefined.orgMore resources for women from Hope Redefined:private online communityonline support groupsintensive retreats1:1 coachingListen to the Hope For Wives podcast at hopeforwives.com!Get trained by Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket through BTRL (Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training). Learn more here.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

What happens to the brain and body of a wife who discovers her husband's relationship with porn? This is part 1 of our 2 part series on the trauma of sexual betrayal taught by Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket. You'll learn why wives react the way they do, how to tell the difference between wives expressing anger vs. engaging in abusive behavior, how to set appropriate boundaries while practicing empathy, and what wives really want from their husbands in the healing process (VOWS). This teaching is absolutely brilliant. Take notes!Dr. Barbara Steffens is the founding president of APSATS, the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists. She has specialized in providing help for the partners of sexual addicts since 1999. Dr. Steffens is a recognized expert in the field, and is now accepting speaking engagements for churches and professional organizations. Learn more and connect with Barb at drbarbarasteffens.comBuy Barb's book (this is a paid link):Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and HealLyschel Burket is the Lead Hope Caster and Founder of Hope Redefined. She is also a current APSATS Board Member and the committee lead for BTRL (Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training). Lyschel has been working with women since 2008 by helping them navigate the road of betrayal by sexual infidelity. She knows all too well the isolation, shame, fear, and trauma that betrayal causes. More than anything, Lyschel wants women to know that they don’t have to walk this road alone, so she provides a safe community where each one can find healing and hope.Learn more about Lyschel and Hope Redefined at hoperedefined.orgMore resources for women from Hope Redefined:private online communityonline support groupsintensive retreats1:1 coachingListen to the Hope For Wives podcast at hopeforwives.com!Get trained by Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket through BTRL (Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training). Learn more here.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Dive into the powerful story of Philip and the Ethiopian eunuch, exploring themes of inclusion, sexual shame, and childhood trauma. Discover how the gospel offers healing and redemption to those feeling marginalized. The eunuch's journey highlights societal exclusion while showcasing the transformative power of faith. Ultimately, this discussion emphasizes that no matter one's past, everyone belongs and has the opportunity for a new identity in Christ.

Join Henry Brown, Director of Operations at Husband Material, Jason Pidcock, a trauma-informed recovery coach, and Jordan Castille, a certified Christian counselor, as they delve into the complexities of friendship among men with varying sexual attractions. They share personal experiences highlighting the beauty of diversity and the challenges of building inclusive faith communities. The discussion also navigates trust, vulnerability, and the healing power of deep connections, emphasizing that genuine relationships can flourish despite past insecurities.