Husband Material Seen, Safe, And Soothed (with Burke Atkerson)
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May 26, 2025 Burke Atkerson, founder of Fire Nights and Men Fully Alive, shares his journey from addiction to healing. He candidly discusses the long-lasting impacts of conditional love from childhood and how it led him to seek validation through unhealthy coping mechanisms. Burke emphasizes the transformative power of brotherhood and community, highlighting his initiative designed to provide safe spaces for men to connect and heal. His story is a testament to the importance of vulnerability and shared experiences in overcoming shame and fostering personal growth.
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Childhood of Performance and Hiding
- Burke Atkerson's childhood involved constant performance to earn love and approval.
- He hid his true self and had to act like an adult to gain acceptance from volatile parents.
Porn as Comfort and Escape
- Burke used pornography as a comfort and escape from pain starting at a young age.
- Porn became a sexualized way for him to feel seen, safe, and soothed amid trauma.
Core Needs: Seen, Safe, Soothed
- Humans have three core needs: to be seen, to be safe, and to be soothed for healthy emotional development.
- Lacking these needs hinders spiritual maturity and emotional resilience.