Making Polyamory Work

Sometimes in our relationships we reach a point where something needs to change or it just won't work for us. But is that even possible? Or do you have to break up? Libby goes over two losing strategies that a lot of people try when they want something different from their partner than what they're getting, and offers what she believes is a better way to get what you want. -------------------- Find Libby on the web: https://libbysinback.com

By listener request, Libby talks about the one p*nis policy and why it's not a great idea (and the one time it's okay.)  CN: language. Libby uses several words for the male genitalia on this episode. --------------------  RECOMMENDED READING For the Love of Men by Liz Plank  The Will to Change by bell hooks  I Don't Wanna Talk About It by Terrence Real  Playing Fair by Pepper Mint Find Libby on the web: https://libbysinback.com

In her recent workshop Break Up Better, Libby answers a question from a participant: "How can I get the other person to own their part to help with closure [after a breakup]?" -------------------------- The Break Up Better Workshop is still available! You can purchase the recording here: https://libbysinback.com/break-up-better/ Find Libby on the web: https://libbysinback.com

Libby has special guest Terry Real join her on the show to talk about how patriarchy does its work on our relationships, even for those of us who choose to do things differently. ---------------------- Terry Real's website: https://terryreal.com ---------------------- Find Libby on the web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for Breaking Up Better: https://libbysinback.com/break-up-better/

Libby blows up the idea that there is any difference between rules and agreements and offers some alternative ways to communicate and negotiate needs in polyamorous relationships. ------------------------- Break Up Better Workshop on November 30 at 7:30 PM: https://libbysinback.com/break-up-better/ Find Libby on the web: https://libbysinback.com

Libby shares her best tips for coming out as polyamorous, mostly hard won through her own coming out mishaps. ------------------------- Break Up Better Workshop on November 30 at 7:30 PM: https://libbysinback.com/break-up-better/ Find Libby on the web: https://libbysinback.com

In this episode, Libby outlines 3 different scenarios in which it's unclear who is the giver and who is the receiver, and how to use a magical tool called the Wheel of Consent to help answer this question.  Betty Martin's website: https://bettymartin.org/  The Wheel of Consent: https://bettymartin.org/videos/  --------------------------------- Find Libby on the web: https://libbysinback.com

Libby reviews some of the biggest challenges that can show up around the holiday season when you're non-monogamous and how to navigate them without exploding an already stressful season. ------------------------ Kathy Labriola on Polyam Holidays: https://www.kathylabriola.com/articles/poly-holiday-tips Elisabeth Sheff on not coming out during the holidays: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201612/poly-the-holidays ------------------------ The Relational Nonmonogamy Circle: https://libbysinback.com/rnmc Find Libby on the web: https://libbysinback.com

In this discussion, relationship coach Mel Cassidy, who specializes in relationship anarchy and solo polyamory, addresses the challenges of navigating polyamory during a partner's mental health crisis. They explore the importance of compassion and a trauma-informed approach while maintaining open communication. Techniques for self-reflection and emotional management are highlighted to cope with overwhelm. The conversation emphasizes balancing support for partners with self-care, advocating for resilient connections in complex dynamics.

In this episode, Libby talks about how to respond when someone you love gives you feedback from a hurtful, attacking or otherwise unhelpful place. -------------------------------- Find Libby on the web at https://libbysinback.com Join the Relational Nonmonogamy Circle at http://relationalnonmonogamy.com Sign up for a free coaching session at https://libbysinback.com/apply