

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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Jul 23, 2024 • 1h 21min
The Secret To Enjoying Dating: A Flashback For Instant Positivity + BIG ANNOUNCEMENT reveal
Our BIG ANNOUNCEMENT is here....along with a flashback to one of the most positive guests we've had on the pod. We guarantee you'll feel more hopeful and optimistic after hearing Meredith's story about how she's been able to actually enjoy dating in her 30's and thrive being single – even after a brutal breakup that involved infidelity. We discuss how detrimental breakups can be the catalyst for growth, how to actually enjoy the process of dating (even on the apps), and why personal growth is the most important gift you can give yourself while dating. Trigger Warning: We discuss infidelityFollow Meredith at @meredithtxFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Jul 20, 2024 • 20min
Best of Brunch Talk: How To Tell When Someone Likes You
Do they like you? Or not? We're bringing back one of our most listened to #brunchtalks to dissect the age old question of how to tell if someone likes you, especially in times when it's not entirely clear. We'll discuss how to navigate situations where there are mixed signals, why you can have that fabulous first date (make-out sesh included) and never hear back from the person again, and the #1 thing you should be asking yourself when you are dating.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern datingWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 16, 2024 • 1h 21min
The Science Of Attraction: A Flashback to Our Most Popular Episode
What makes you attracted to one person and not another? We're bringing back our most popular episode ever with Dr. Paul Eastwick about his work at the UC Davis Attraction Lab of how people form and maintain relationships. We discuss how ideal partner preferences play into partner selection, why we often think we know what we want when we don't, and the secret of when attraction can build over time. Plus we'll kick off the episode with a new intro recapping Yue's solo trip + the intimacy workshop she attended, and Julie's bday highs and lows. Plus BIG announcement coming next week!!!Check out Paul's work at http://pauleastwick.com/ or @pauleastwick on Twitter.Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 14, 2024 • 25min
Best of Brunch Talk: Should You Leave a Relationship That's Good But Not Great?
Would you rather stay in a mediocre relationship than to start over and be single? The thought of dating "from scratch" can be daunting but does it really justify staying in a relationship not meeting your needs? We're re-airing one of our most popular brunch talks, where we explore whether to try to make your current relationship better or cut bait – and how to reframe your mindset about what "starting over" even means.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 11, 2024 • 10min
Quickie w/ Yue: The Quickest Way To Stop Bad Dating Behavior
Are you sick of the ghosting, bread crumbing, flaking, zombie-ing, and the myriad of other bad dating behavior? Yup, us too. Yue is discussing her theory on why it seems to keep getting worse every year, but more importantly how we can all squash this type of behavior and head into a dating utopia. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 9, 2024 • 58min
A PSA To Women: A Flashback to Our Most Controversial Guest
Have you ever wanted to get into the mind of men who act like they're interested only until you have sex? We're bringing up a spicy one from the archives of our most controversial guest to-date, Leon (if you're an OG listener, you probably remember this one!) who is here to deliver a PSA to women as a reformed f*ckboy who is now married and settled down. We're giving this a reboot to reflect on this current day, now that we've processed this "PSA" with updated takeaways to remind us that all guys aren't like this and how to not let the bad eggs get in the way of finding love. And for the good guys out there: this may give more understanding to experiences women may have with not so great men. Trigger Warning: This episode shows a manipulative side of men which may be triggering if you've experienced this type of behavior yourself. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Jul 7, 2024 • 24min
Best of Brunch Talk: How Do You Know If They're 'The One'?
We've been told from an early age, there's 'The One' – that person who is our best friend, our soulmate, the person we belong with. But is that even realistic? And how do we know if we are making the right choice? It can be tricky especially if we have had little relationship experience to benchmark it against. Join us for this week's 'Best of brunch talk' as we discuss if 'The One' even exists, signs you are with the right person, and how to distinguish between fear and if this person is actually a good fit for you or notGot a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern datingWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 2, 2024 • 1h 48min
Sex, Lies, and Scandal: Flashback to our Ashley Madison Exposé
To kick off this "off season" hot, we're bringing back an extremely relevant episode where we did a deep dive into Ashley Madison, the dating site exclusively for affairs. Maybe you caught the recent documentary on Netflix, but even not, we'll go into the data breach that caused millions of users' intimate data to be exposed, wrecking marriages and destroying lives. But more importantly, we'll hear directly from users of the site and staff members about why they turned to Ashley Madison in the first place and the psychology behind cheating. Buckle up, as this is a juicy one!Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 30, 2024 • 21min
Best of Brunch Talk: How Do You Not Get Ahead of Yourself (in Dating)?
It's hard not to imagine a future with someone especially when dating has been a struggle and you *finally* meet someone you like! But what happens when you get ahead of yourself and how does this impact the budding romance? We're re-airing one of our crowd favorites in our on-off season for the best of brunch talk. Join us as we talk about how to to give yourself a gut check if you're getting ahead of yourself, how even the best of us can fall into fantasy mode, and a surefire way to set expectations according to what you know.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern datingWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 27, 2024 • 8min
Quickie w/ Julie: The #1 Skill In A Relationship (That's Not Communication)
We're told that communication is everything in relationships....but what if there's another skill that is arguably more important??? Julie takes you through her experience of what she learned through couples therapy and how it's applied to not only her romantic relationships but also relationships with friends, family and coworkers too.Related Episodes:The Truth About RelationshipsHow To Have A Healthy RelationshipWhat's Your Communication StyleFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy