There's so much pressure when dating....so much that dating becomes more about measuring up than actually finding the right partner. We're diving into one of the biggest things that got in our way – and that we see stifle so many of you too – when we let dating define our worth and make it a lot more personal than it actually is. We're discussing the mindset of being the chooser vs. being chosen, how our ego can overtake love, and ways to make the shift from needing someone to wanting to be with someone.

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S19E13: The Validation Trap