
Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
Latest episodes

May 11, 2025 • 27min
#brunchtalk: The Difference Between Overthinking and Being Intentional & Cautious
Do you have a tendency to overthink dating situations? What's the healthy line of thinking things through to be intentional and even cautious – but not to the point of analysis paralysis or driving ourselves crazy thinking about what *could* happen? We unpack the major difference in this episode – how to lean into Thinker ways so it serves you, but also make sure you are taking action in your love life. Enjoy! Listen today and share your thoughts via email, or leave a message on Spotify or YouTube now! Also don't forget to take our poll on Spotify + InstagramTake the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 6, 2025 • 59min
S2014: How To Flirt (Without Being Cringy) w/ Benjamin Camras
We have a confession: we have a love / hate relationship with the word flirting. But we absolutely loved the energy of our guest Benjamin Camras aka the gay libra aka the flirt coach – and he 100% changed our outlook of what flirting can look like. We discuss how to flirt in a way that feels natural (even the introverted or socially anxious folks, we see you!), the biggest misperceptions of flirting, and how to start amping up your text game and how you are on dates to bring back some of the fun and flirty energy to dating that's missing nowadays. To learn more about Benjamin, follow him @benjamincamras and stream the flirtations flirtcast. You can take the flirt styles quiz we mention in the intro too: https://stan.store/benjamincamrasGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 4, 2025 • 31min
#brunchtalk: Opening The Ex Files
Dun. Dun. Dun. It's about to get creepy...or maybe just cringy as we talk about all things exes: what's your reaction to finding out your ex is engaged, what happens when you run into an ex, and the case for rebound relationships. Join us as we dish and unpack what it means to move on....and when your ex moves on. Enjoy!Listen today and share your thoughts via email, or leave a message on Spotify or YouTube now! Also don't forget to take our poll on Spotify + InstagramTake the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 29, 2025 • 1h 9min
S2013: Dating In Your 40's (And Beyond) w/ Kimmy Seltzer
We've talked about dating in your 20s and 30s....but now we're diving into dating in your 40s – and beyond. We're joined with return guest Kimmy Seltzer who shares her insights as a dating coach and her own personal journey from divorce to self-discovery in 'the second act' as she likes to call it. We're discussing the more divergent differences of lifestyle that happen when dating in your 40s+, the different expectations in dating that come in each decade, and why dating "later in life" can be absolutely terrific if you let it be.To learn more about Kimmy, check out her podcast 'Charisma Quotient' wherever you listen to podcasts and learn more about her at https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/Related Episodes: S18E5: Dating In Your 30sGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 27, 2025 • 34min
#brunchtalk: Dishing About The Gender Divide, High EQ, and the 80/20 Rule of Apps
With so much discourse lately around the gender divide of men and women, we wanted to share our POV a bit more and open up the convo more on Dateable. From the recent Wall Street Journal articles of Why Women Are Giving Up on Marriage to the popular Diary of a CEO's masculinity discussion, it's no mystery that both genders are feeling discouraged. So what do we do about it? How do we raise the EQ (emotional intelligence) and stop the dynamics that are happening today? Listen today and share your thoughts via email, or leave a message on Spotify or YouTube now!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 22, 2025 • 55min
S2012: The Only 7 Things That Matter (When Choosing a Partner)
We're back with a topic that's near and dear to our hearts: how to know if the person you're dating is right for you. We're giving you the ultimate gut-check so you know who to keep investing more time and energy into – and when to cut someone loose. We're discussing the only 7 things that matter when evaluating a partner, what to do when if someone isn't measuring up, and how you can use this not just during early dating but through all stages of your love life. Get OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 20, 2025 • 38min
#brunchtalk: Dishing About AI Girlfriends, Foolproof Ways to Ask Someone Out & How To Get Set Up By Your Friends
We got a meaty one for you today....as we're talk about the best (and WORST) ways to ask someone out, the system to rejection-proof yourself, and how to get your friends to play matchmaker (that goes beyond, you're both single, you should meet). We're also recapping some of our 'How to Be Dateable' book events from last week with some of the popular questions asked, balancing alcohol consumption on dates, and why the last thing anyone needs is an AI girlfriend. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 15, 2025 • 58min
S2011: Let's Get Vulnerable w/ Dr. Morgan Anderson
Who else is ready to heal their relational trauma, become securely attached, and attract their available dream partner? We're feeling inspired by the convo we had with Dr. Morgan Anderson about how she did just that – and how she had get vulnerable in the process. We're discussing the anxious or avoidant patterns that protects us from vulnerability, how to share your needs and boundaries in a way that actually brings someone closer, and why it's time for everyone to learn the true definition of vulnerability and show their v-card!TW: We discuss domestic abuse briefly Follow Dr Morgan @drmorgancoaching, listen to her podcast 'Let's Get Vulnerable' wherever you listen to podcasts, and check out her site: https://drmorgancoaching.com/Get OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 13, 2025 • 26min
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Opting Out of Situationships, Reasons People Won't Commit, and The Sales Technique To Get What You Want
Can we all make a pact? Can we just opt out of situationships as it seems like a lot of people are starting to do? We're discussing why situationships happen, why people won't commit, and how they actually destroy our self-esteem causing small cuts of rejection over and over (instead of just getting our answer or ripping that bandaid off!) Whether you're currently in a situationship or avoiding them like the plague, this #brunchtalk will leave you inspired to ask for more out of your love life. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 8, 2025 • 1h 3min
S2010: No Contact & The Key To Moving On From A Breakup w/ Cole Zesiger
We’re talking breakups…but more importantly how to move forward, and not only reclaim your life…but live an even better one. And we are joined with our fantastic guest Cole Zesiger who has been through it himself – only to come out stronger, coach others, and meet the love of his life (his now wife). We're discussing the do's and don't of no contact, ways to spot if someone may not really be ready for a relationship (and break your heart later on), and how to know when it's time to move forward or try again with your ex.Follow Cole @coachcolezesiger and check out his site: https://colezesiger.com/If you're interested in the 30 Day Breakup Recovery Guide we mention in the episode, go to dateablepodcast.com/programsGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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