Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

The hosts reflect on ten years of podcasting while sharing their gratitude for modern dating. They unveil an exciting AI-powered dating coach app designed to offer personalized support. Listeners are encouraged to view dating challenges through a gratitude lens, focusing on small wins and self-appreciation. They discuss the transformative power of clarity in communication, the lessons learned from rejection, and the importance of community. Personal anecdotes about love, friendship, and growth add warmth to their Thanksgiving message.

Ever feel like your partner's advice is more like a TED Talk than support? This discussion tackles the fine line between helpfulness and overstepping boundaries in relationships. Listeners learn why validation trumps unsolicited advice and the importance of recognizing when to just be present. The hosts highlight the risks of relying on AI for advice and emphasize the need for professional guidance. The conversation wraps up with tips on setting boundaries, avoiding control dynamics, and ensuring feedback is constructive rather than enabling.

Julie shares insights from her journey of marrying in her 40s, emphasizing the freedom found in releasing strict timelines. She reflects on how embracing personal growth and the value of friendships helped her develop as a partner. Julie encourages trusting your unique timing in love, noting that delaying marriage can enhance the experience, making it less about pressure and more about celebration. Her thoughts on owning your dating journey underscore the importance of accountability and surrounding yourself with supportive peers.

What if the secret to a healthy, lasting relationship isn’t finding “the right person”… but designing the relationship that’s actually right for you? We’re here with Ellecia Paine who experienced first-hand what it's like to be in a relationship that looks good on the outside but feels empty on the inside, – and how she used this experience to completely redefine what she was looking for in a partnership. We discuss how to break out of the inherited “shoulds” when searching for love, why it's not "too much" to ask for more when it comes to your relationship, and how to create a structure that’s built for who you are, whether you’ve found your person or not.TW: We talk about an abusive relationship at the start of the interview.Follow Ellecia @elleciapaine and check out her work at: https://www.elleciapaine.com/Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In a world where everything feels uncertain, is it actually possible to future-proof your relationship? In today’s episode, we’re diving into one of the biggest dating trends of 2025: the rise of future-proofing. With people becoming more intentional about who they commit to, long-term compatibility is suddenly more attractive than fleeting chemistry — and psychologists are backing it. In fact, a recent Forbes article calls future-proofing “the healthiest dating trend of 2025,” but is it realistic? We're unpacking why trying to predict the future with a partner isn’t foolproof. In this episode, we break down what future-proofing really means, why it’s trending, where it goes wrong, and how conscious dating (not perfection-hunting) is still the most powerful way to build a fulfilling relationship.Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Does dating feel less like a rom-com and more like a horror show these days? We’re here with Rory who has survived it all – from the ghosters, narcissists, and all the other characters out there. But more importantly, how she became a 'final girl' who made it out alive. We're discussing some of the common 'monsters' in dating, how you break toxic dating patterns that get you involved with them in the first place, and ways you can be the final girl (or guy) romanticizing your own love story – whether you've met your person or not. Follow Rory @icouldbeblonder and check out her book 'A Final Girls Guide to the Horrors of Dating'Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Most people are not truly single in modern dating. Even if they say they are. And being on this 'single scale' could be exactly what's holding you back from finding your forever person. Because many of us (or the people we're dating!) are semi in the middle - caught in situationships, FWB situations, casual hookups, or unrequited love. Or even if they aren't – you never know who else they are dating and in what stage they are with their connection! We're discussing how understanding the single scale can change your approach, why being comfortable being single AF is actually the ultimate path, and ways you can ask 'How single are you?' without those exact words. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have you ever been with someone that said they wanted to get married – yet couldn't seem to pull the plug when it came to commitment? What happens when they have a pattern of ending things as they are getting serious? We're talking to our guest Steve Budd about his continued search for "The One" and how his struggles with commitment have ended numerous serious relationships despite him wanting to get married more than anything. We're discussing wanting a relationship vs. having the capacity for one, the fall out of how Dreamer tendencies can get ahead of themselves in relationships, and how to preserve hope as you date through your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond.Follow Steve @buddgram and learn more about his performances: https://www.stevebudd.com/Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by the dating app Hily: https://hily.go.link/kuZOy. If you want safer dating, download Hily from the App Store or Google Play, or check out https://hily.go.link/kuZOyWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

You may have seen the viral article 'Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now"? from Vogue circling around. We're giving our two cents on the article: from why are equating social media to life, the difference of having your own identity vs. being embarrassed about having a relationship, and how this article is missing research, depth, and nuance to actually decode a trend on relationships. Let us know your take if you've read the article, or if not, check it out first: https://www.vogue.com/article/is-having-a-boyfriend-embarrassing-now.Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Whether it was from a situation you thought was going to become more to your ex of five years, moving on after heartbreak is one of the most challenging parts of finding love. We're here with your breakup bestie Kendra Allen who is joining us to talk about what it looks like to regain your sense of self and come back stronger after heartbreak...to eventually meet the love of your life (or actually get back with your ex in a way that it is sustainable for the long-haul). We discuss how to know whether you made the right decision when you ended things, ways to rebuild your confidence after a breakup, and heartbreak hacks that make you unstoppable. Plus we debrief on Julie's honeymoon to Greece + Yue's family trip in China. Follow Kendra @yourbreakupbestie and listen to her podcast 'Heal Your Heartbreak' (we are episode #254) wherever you get your podcasts.Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by the dating app Hily: https://hily.go.link/kuZOy. If you want safer dating, download Hily from the App Store or Google Play, or check out https://hily.go.link/kuZOyWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy