Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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Dec 28, 2025 • 53min
8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: Following Your Intuition (Day #7)
As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.We're back for Day #7 with one of our favorite past guests, author & intuitive Nikki Novo, who breaks down how to tap into your intuition so you can build trust, courage, and clarity as you date. We get into how to strengthen your instincts when dating, how to tell the difference between gut feelings and fear spirals, and what it looks like to relinquish control while still staying in charge of your choices. If you’ve ever wished you could trust yourself more—or felt torn between your heart, your head, and the pressure to make the “right” decision—this episode is your reminder that the clearest answers often come from within. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Dec 25, 2025 • 53min
8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: The Boyfriend Manual (Day #6)
Explore the power of small, consistent gestures that build trust and emotional safety in relationships. Vasanth shares practical examples like leaving notes or warming towels, emphasizing the importance of tailoring actions to your partner’s preferences. Discuss the dynamics of chivalry and perception while contrasting grand gestures with everyday attentiveness. Learn how to create a personalized dating manual and discover a simple daily practice to enhance attunement with your partner. A refreshing reminder that emotional effort and good partnerships are within reach!
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Dec 23, 2025 • 55min
8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: Meeting Your Half Orange (Day #5)
As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.Here we are back with day #5: Talking about how to become naturally more magnetic, knowing that it’s not a matter of if you’ll find your person but rather when. We’re joined by Amy Spencer, author of Meeting Your Half-Orange, who shares how she rewired her thinking through dating optimism to attract her perfect other half. If dating has ever felt draining, confusing, or like you’re trying far too hard for very little in return, this episode is your reminder that optimism isn’t naive—it’s strategic, grounding, and incredibly attractive. Enjoy! Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Dec 21, 2025 • 42min
8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: Just Keep Going (Day #4)
As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.We're back to remind you of the magic that happens when two people finally meet each other at the right moment. We’re talking with Valerie, who shares the incredible story of meeting her now-husband, Rob—first online (where they never actually met), and then again through a completely unexpected, real-life chance encounter. It’s one of those stories that pulls you right back into believing that dating isn’t just strategy… sometimes it’s serendipity. And to get there, we need to just keep going. Because eventually the timing will click. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Dec 18, 2025 • 1h 3min
8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: Make Dating Fun Again (Day #3)
Join positive psychology coach Jeff Harry, the founder of Rediscover Your Play, as he explores the joys of playfulness in dating. He emphasizes transforming dating from a chore into a fun adventure, sharing creative date ideas that spark deeper connections. Jeff advocates for embracing quirks, engaging in improv techniques like 'yes, and,' and prioritizing enjoyment over results. Discover how playful interactions can enhance relationships and keep curiosity alive, allowing you to navigate dating with a light heart and open mind.
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Dec 16, 2025 • 51min
8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: Just Say Yes (Day #2)
Exploring the power of a 'just say yes' mentality, Cheryl shares how this shift transformed her dating life. She recounts delightful encounters, including meeting her now-husband at a Halloween bar. The discussion covers navigating doubts, embracing spontaneity, and finding clarity in intentions. Cheryl reflects on the lessons learned from dating different people, including the importance of balance between openness and boundaries. Practical tips encourage daters to flip excuses into opportunities and enhance approachability in connecting with others.
Dec 14, 2025 • 50min
8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: Trust In Your Timing (Day #1)
As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.On the first episode, we're chatting with Christina Bradley, the author of 'Which way to Happiness?', about how to reframe those milestone years not as deadlines, but as invitations to get clear on what you want, not what you think you should have by now. If you’ve ever felt behind, out of sync, or worried that you “should have” been further along in love or life, this episode is your reminder that your story is still unfolding beautifully—and on your timeline. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Dec 9, 2025 • 1h 18min
S21E17: How To Be Detached in Dating Yet Still Open For A Relationship w/ Sabrina Bendory
Being detached doesn't mean that you don't care or give up on dating. But it does mean that you know your worth and aren't going to settle for less than treatment because you got attached to someone or the idea of a relationship working out. We're joined with guest Sabrina Bendory for our Season 21 finale to discuss the power of detachment – through her own story and those of her clients – and how this subtle shift can help you reclaim your agency when dating. We discuss navigating ambiguity in dating in a way that frees you from anxiety, how to take control of what's in your control when dating (and detach from the rest), and ways you can practice micro-surrendering without surrendering your need for a healthy, fulfilling relationship. Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow Sabrina @sabrinabendory and, check out her new book 'Detached: How to Let Go, Heal & Become Irresistible', and learn more about her here: https://sabrinabendory.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Dec 7, 2025 • 27min
#brunchtalk: Why Being Single DOESN'T Suck During The Holidays (And the Best Ways To Meet People This Time of Year)
The holidays are presented as a prime time for singles, with festive events ripe for meeting new people. From crashing holiday parties to hosting themed gatherings, social opportunities abound. The hosts discuss fun ways to engage, like charity events and creative solo activities. They also share tips for couples on festive date ideas. Plus, there's advice on overcoming motivation hurdles to enjoy the season, like RSVP'ing to events and taking a break from dating apps. Get ready to make the most of December!
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Dec 2, 2025 • 1h 22min
S21E16: Inside A Man's Journey To Becoming Emotionally Available & Ready For A Relationship
Phil Wilkinson, a British mental fitness coach in his 40s, shares his journey from a wild, hedonistic lifestyle to emotional availability. He reveals how unfulfilling relationships during his nomadic years pushed him towards self-discovery and vulnerability. Phil discusses the importance of community, prioritizing meaningful connections over casual encounters, and maintaining independence in relationships. He emphasizes the value of inner work, meditation, and authentic self-expression, ultimately advocating for emotional strength and intentionality in dating.


