
Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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Apr 8, 2025 • 1h 3min
S2010: No Contact & The Key To Moving On From A Breakup w/ Cole Zesiger
We’re talking breakups…but more importantly how to move forward, and not only reclaim your life…but live an even better one. And we are joined with our fantastic guest Cole Zesiger who has been through it himself – only to come out stronger, coach others, and meet the love of his life (his now wife). We're discussing the do's and don't of no contact, ways to spot if someone may not really be ready for a relationship (and break your heart later on), and how to know when it's time to move forward or try again with your ex.Follow Cole @coachcolezesiger and check out his site: https://colezesiger.com/If you're interested in the 30 Day Breakup Recovery Guide we mention in the episode, go to dateablepodcast.com/programsGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of clothing rentals (up to $125 off) by visiting https://www.armoire.style and using the code DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Save 10% on all bedding and 50% off clearance bedding at https://avocadogreenmattress.com* Blueland: Get 15% off Blueland Cleaning supplies at https://blueland.com/DATEABLE with the code DATEABLE* Happy Mammoth: Take the Free Quiz & Get 15% off, sitewide, on your first purchase at happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * SKIMS: Shop SKIMS Everyday Collection and more at SKIMS.com * Washington Red Raspberries: For recipes, healthy tips, and retail locations go to https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 6, 2025 • 30min
#brunchtalk: Dishing About The White Lotus Dating Archetypes, Hooking Up With Your Friends Crush, and The Most Humiliating Thing To Happen Post Sex
If you're anything like us, we've been obsessed with The White Lotus as we head into the big finale. So much that we've decided to analyze the relationship patterns of all the major characters....with our dating archetypes of course! We also talk about girl (or guy) code around hooking up with someone your friend was kind of into or you suggested they get with (i.e the Jaclyn to Laurie saga) and what's right/wrong/or can be read to interpret differently. And of course when you do actually hook up with the guy and immediately after you're like WTF..enjoy!FYI: May be some spoilers on The White Lotus if you aren't up to date (before the season finale)Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of clothing rentals (up to $125 off) by visiting https://www.armoire.style and using the code DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Save 10% on all bedding and 50% off clearance bedding at https://avocadogreenmattress.com* Blueland: Get 15% off Blueland Cleaning supplies at https://blueland.com/DATEABLE with the code DATEABLE* Happy Mammoth: Take the Free Quiz & Get 15% off, sitewide, on your first purchase at happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * SKIMS: Shop SKIMS Everyday Collection and more at SKIMS.com * Washington Red Raspberries: For recipes, healthy tips, and retail locations go to https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 1, 2025 • 58min
S20E9: Can You Be UnDateable? w/ Ryan Keely
This is a question we often get but we never thought we'd get it from America's favorite stepmom aka porn star Ryan Keely (who you may even recognize from Eminem's Houdini music video). But this shows you that ANYONE can feel this way! We're diving into what makes people feel undateable, the impacts of being oversexualized (or undersexualized), and the actual thing that does limit your dating options (and nope, it's probably the thing you're thinking it is).Follow Ryan @ryankeelytm and check out her podcast 'I Seduce The Dragon' wherever you listen.Want to be more Dateable? Get our book + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of clothing rentals (up to $125 off) by visiting https://www.armoire.style and using the code DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Save 10% on all bedding and 50% off clearance bedding at https://avocadogreenmattress.com* Blueland: Get 15% off Blueland Cleaning supplies at https://blueland.com/DATEABLE with the code DATEABLE* Happy Mammoth: Take the Free Quiz & Get 15% off, sitewide, on your first purchase at happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * SKIMS: Shop SKIMS Everyday Collection and more at SKIMS.com * Washington Red Raspberries: For recipes, healthy tips, and retail locations go to https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Mar 30, 2025 • 37min
#brunchtalk: Dishing About NOT Dating Multiple People At Once, Speed Dating & The Ultimate Way To Let Someone Down
This weeks's brunch talk has us all hopped up as we chat about surprising results from our archetypes quiz that are counter to how we all *think* people are dating, plus the ultimate way to say you're not interested in someone. Not going to lie, this may have been one of our favorite brunchtalks in awhile as we were doing it live (and maybe sound like we've had a bottle of champagne or two, but swear we are completely sober.) You'll learn something, you'll laugh, maybe even question when someone says there's something up with their stomach...enjoy! TW: There is mention of bowel movements Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of clothing rentals (up to $125 off) by visiting https://www.armoire.style and using the code DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Save 10% on all bedding and 50% off clearance bedding at https://avocadogreenmattress.com* Blueland: Get 15% off Blueland Cleaning supplies at https://blueland.com/DATEABLE with the code DATEABLE* Happy Mammoth: Take the Free Quiz & Get 15% off, sitewide, on your first purchase at happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * SKIMS: Shop SKIMS Everyday Collection and more at SKIMS.com * Washington Red Raspberries: For recipes, healthy tips, and retail locations go to https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Mar 25, 2025 • 1h
S20E8: The Psychology of Relationships w/ Dr. Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkel
We're back with the guest of our #1 most listened to episode and this time with his mentor for more insights...more science...and more facts – that you can all apply to your love lives. We're chatting with Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkle, professors at UC Davis & Northwestern, about what romcoms get right (and wrong) about finding love, the myths of relationships we've been told to believe, and how to reevaluate societal expectations around compatibility.Check out their podcast 'Love Factually'. For more info on Eli, visit: https://elifinkel.com/. To learn more about Paul: https://pauleastwick.com/To listen to our #1 most listened episode with Paul, search for The Science of Attraction.Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of clothing rentals (up to $125 off) by visiting https://www.armoire.style and using the code DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Save 10% on all bedding and 50% off clearance bedding at https://avocadogreenmattress.com* Blueland: Get 15% off Blueland Cleaning supplies at https://blueland.com/DATEABLE with the code DATEABLE* Happy Mammoth: Take the Free Quiz & Get 15% off, sitewide, on your first purchase at happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * SKIMS: Shop SKIMS Everyday Collection and more at SKIMS.com * Washington Red Raspberries: For recipes, healthy tips, and retail locations go to https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Mar 23, 2025 • 28min
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Surprise Run-Ins with Dateable Listeners, The Actual Definition of Dating Intentionally & Saying Goodbye to The Wrong People
With all the buzz about dating intentionally...what does it even mean? Because we've seen some definitions that aren't helping – and may actually be limiting us – in the way we think about putting our best foot forward when dating. We talk about surprise run-ins with Dateable listeners, if it's even possible to use dating apps intentionally, and why it may be more intentional to get rid of people who you know AREN'T the real deal instead of try to set up intentional boundaries with them. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of clothing rentals (up to $125 off) by visiting https://www.armoire.style and using the code DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Save 10% on all bedding and 50% off clearance bedding at https://avocadogreenmattress.com* Blueland: Get 15% off Blueland Cleaning supplies at https://blueland.com/DATEABLE with the code DATEABLE* Happy Mammoth: Take the Free Quiz & Get 15% off, sitewide, on your first purchase at happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * SKIMS: Shop SKIMS Everyday Collection and more at SKIMS.com * Washington Red Raspberries: For recipes, healthy tips, and retail locations go to https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Mar 18, 2025 • 41min
S20E7: Assessing Your Relationship Readiness (And Of Those You Date)
How ready are you for a relationship? Like truly ready? We're diving into what it means to actually be ready for a real, long-term committed relationship – and how you can spot if someone else is too. We're discussing the signs of relationship readiness, the red flags to watch out for, and how you can find out your relationship readiness score to become more relationship ready.Take the Relationship Readiness Assessment: https://www.dateablepodcast.com/relationship-readinessAnd of course, the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of clothing rentals (up to $125 off) by visiting https://www.armoire.style and using the code DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Save 10% on all bedding and 50% off clearance bedding at https://avocadogreenmattress.com* Blueland: Get 15% off Blueland Cleaning supplies at https://blueland.com/DATEABLE with the code DATEABLE* Happy Mammoth: Take the Free Quiz & Get 15% off, sitewide, on your first purchase at happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * SKIMS: Shop SKIMS Everyday Collection and more at SKIMS.com * Washington Red Raspberries: For recipes, healthy tips, and retail locations go to https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Mar 16, 2025 • 32min
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Our Biggest Fears In a Relationship, How Many People To Date at Once, And What To Do When You're Unsure About Someone
There's so much to unpack this week as we chat about everything from air fryers to Mark Zuckerberg's mid-life crisis. But most importantly, it brings us to the age old question: how many people should you date at once? And when is it better to date one at a time versus multiple people. We're going in deep as we dissect when to disclose you're sleeping with others, when to double down on someone versus playing the field, and what to do when you're still unsure and feeling lukewarm about someone. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of clothing rentals (up to $125 off) by visiting https://www.armoire.style and using the code DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Save 10% on all bedding and 50% off clearance bedding at https://avocadogreenmattress.com* Blueland: Get 15% off Blueland Cleaning supplies at https://blueland.com/DATEABLE with the code DATEABLE* Happy Mammoth: Take the Free Quiz & Get 15% off, sitewide, on your first purchase at happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * SKIMS: Shop SKIMS Everyday Collection and more at SKIMS.com * Washington Red Raspberries: For recipes, healthy tips, and retail locations go to https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Mar 11, 2025 • 58min
S20E6: How To Love Better w/ Yung Pueblo
You’ve probably seen his quotes all over the internet or maybe read one of his many bestselling books but we have the man behind it all Diego Perez aka Yung Pueblo here to share how to love better and treat love like the skill it truly is. We're discussing the three green flags to look out for in a relationship, why attachment is the greatest enemy of love, and how to lean into the growth that inevitably comes through any type of relationship – no matter how long or serious it may be. Learn more about Diego at @yungpueblo, go get his book 'How to Love Better: The Path To Deeper Connection Through Growth, Kindness & Compassion, and visit his website: https://yungpueblo.com/Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of clothing rentals (up to $125 off) by visiting https://www.armoire.style and using the code DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Save 10% on all bedding and 50% off clearance bedding at https://avocadogreenmattress.com* Blueland: Get 15% off Blueland Cleaning supplies at https://blueland.com/DATEABLE with the code DATEABLE* Happy Mammoth: Take the Free Quiz & Get 15% off, sitewide, on your first purchase at happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * SKIMS: Shop SKIMS Everyday Collection and more at SKIMS.com * Washington Red Raspberries: For recipes, healthy tips, and retail locations go to https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Mar 9, 2025 • 30min
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Bachelorettes, The 12 Stages of Dating Burnout, and The One Term We Will Never Use Again
We're back together chatting about a relevant topic: burnout. Whether it's from dating or just life in general, we're discussing the stages of burnout and how we can minimize going over stage 4 and not having toxic hope, but actual hope, throughout the dating process. We're also chatting about bachelorette parties, wedding dress hacks, the definition of a term that will be banned from our vocab, and so much more! Enjoy. Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of clothing rentals (up to $125 off) by visiting https://www.armoire.style and using the code DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Save 10% on all bedding and 50% off clearance bedding at https://avocadogreenmattress.com* Blueland: Get 15% off Blueland Cleaning supplies at https://blueland.com/DATEABLE with the code DATEABLE* Happy Mammoth: Take the Free Quiz & Get 15% off, sitewide, on your first purchase at happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * SKIMS: Shop SKIMS Everyday Collection and more at SKIMS.com * Washington Red Raspberries: For recipes, healthy tips, and retail locations go to https://redrazz.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy