Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

In the world of dating apps, it's easy to get caught up in the endless cycle of messaging without ever meeting in person. Join us as we explore the art of the ask-out – or hinting at an ask-out if you're reluctant to make the first move. We discuss how to make sure your conversation doesn't go into that dreaded messaging graveyard, the balance between being pursued and taking initiative, and why understanding the limitations of dating apps may actually change your perspective of why you may not be getting asked out as often as you'd like. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have you ever gotten that unwanted sexual message or pic on a dating app? You're certainly not alone, which is why we need to talk about digital sexual consent and what dating apps are doing about it. We're joined by Dr. Mindy DeSeta, a sexologist and advisor for the dating app Hily, to talk about the shocking types of messages that are sent without consent, what types of safeguards and precautions are being put in place to reduce unsolicited sexual behavior, and why consent actually can help heat up a connection on the apps when used intentionally.Follow Dr. Mindy DeSeta @drmindydeseta and check out: https://www.insight-miami.com/Download the dating app Hily: https://hily.go.link/kuZOyTake the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What's the difference between having standards and not being so picky that there's no one that's good enough to date? Join us as dive into a nuanced look of the fine line that allows you to meet people at your level – while also having an abundance mindset that many good people are out there. We discuss the most picky criteria we've ever heard, how to differentiate between genuine standards and superficial checklists, and how to still get the treatment and love you deserve while being open to the people you meet. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Do you ever feel like you are unconsciously seeking the unavailable type and you don't know how to break the pattern? We're chatting with Drea who had a history of dating emotionally unavailable partners about how she started dating differently – by recognizing the real red flags to look for and also taking accountability for her choices. We discuss ways you can actually abandon yourself when you settle for this type of relationship, the behavior you no longer stand for, and the on-going journey it takes to heal your past so you can have the future you want.Follow Drea at @thedrearenee and check out her podcast Hey Babe Can We TalkTake the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

With so much focus on the early stages of dating, we're often so focused on the lies we've been told about falling in love that we miss the bigger picture. Join us as we decipher fantasy from reality as we explore the idea of finding the ideal type of partner and what it takes to build an actual relationship. We discuss why the whole concept of "finding love" is flawed to begin with, the difference between a growth mindset and a destiny mindset, and the shifts to make to find not a perfect partner, but the most perfect partner FOR YOU.Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Is the biggest change in 2025 in dating...the anger? It certainly feels like it! We're chatting with Jared and Jordana, the hosts of the U Up? podcast about the shifts they've noticed in dating over the last decade – and also the big changes in their own love lives. We're discussing the influences around dating that are adding to the negativity, what happens when you aren't where you thought you'd be by a certain age, and how coffee dates are back in for 2025 (you heard it here first).Follow Jared at @jaredfreid, Jordana @jordanaabraham and U Up? @u.up.podcast and check out their podcast U Up? wherever you get your podcastsTake the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Are mixed signals a sign of disinterest or just poor communication? We're diving into the confusing world of hot and cold behavior in dating – and what it really means. Join us as we explore why mixed signals might not mean what you think, how to address them directly, and why clarity is key in any relationship. Plus, we're sharing personal stories and insights on how to navigate these tricky situations and avoid unnecessary dating games. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We're told to be independent but not too independent...so what's the line between what helps us preserve our autonomy versus what keeps us out of partnership? We're diving into this topic that's near and dear to our hearts as two people who have built our own lives, boundaries and identities...yet still want to open ourselves up fully to another human being. We're being brutally honest about the areas that we struggle with vs what feels more like natural integration, signs of healthy independence, and how to strive for the sweet spot of interdependence with a partner.Are you a Maverick? Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Date them til you hate them. Is this a brilliant strategy or a complete cop out? We're discussing the latest viral TikTok dating trend and why it may or may not help you move on from someone faster. Join us as we chat about why this actually prolongs pain for both parties involved the counter strategy that actually could help you decide if someone is right for you, and why TikTok should NOT be the place we're going for dating advice (unless you want to stay single forever). Plus we're responding to some feedback from last week's episode related to Monogamy not being dead. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What happens when you want to shift the way you date completely? You come up with a plan that's so counter to the way we date today that it may be construed as controversial to some (true story!). We're joined with our guest Raymond who is sharing his new dating plan – and why he got to the place of making one in the first place. We're discussing how to outline a more defined, intentional approach that will either be a game-changing way to date (or at a minimum, a daring experiment), the difference between having a vision of the way you want to date versus being rigid to dating rules, and how to use your own patterns and past experiences to craft the right type of dating plan for you. Plus, join us first for a bit of Julie's wedding weekend recap. Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at gobioma.com/dateable* Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable* Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE* Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy