

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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Jun 17, 2025 • 1h 17min
S20E20: Ask A Matchmaker w/ Matchmaker Maria
Ever want to pick the brain of a matchmaker? Well we're about to as we're joined with Matchmaker Maria to discuss her journey as a fourth-generation matchmaker and what it's like to be a matchmaker in today's world. We're discussing the pivotal quality she bases her matches on, how the 12 date rule can set you up for success, and why it's important to take the 5 different levels of compatibility into account when picking a partner.To learn more about Matchmaker Maria follow her @matchmakermaria, listen to 'Ask A Matchmaker' podcast and get her book 'Ask a MatchmakerGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 15, 2025 • 25min
#brunchtalk: The Real Reasons You're Getting The Ick
So you met someone you could be into. And then it just hits you and takes over the entire situation. Something they did gave you the ick – so much that you are debating never seeing them ever again. We're discussing the two main reasons you get the ick, the origination of how the ick came to be, and what to do when you get it. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 10, 2025 • 1h 36min
S2019: Doing Love Differently w/ Dediker, Jase & Emily of Multiamory
From monogamy to nonmonogamy, casual dating to queerplatonic partnerships, married couples living separately to those who are single by choice, we're diving into the many ways to do relationships – and how to find what works for you. We're having our first official fivesome as we chat with the crew over at Multiamory about everything from the evolving nature of love in modern society, how to look at relationship milestones differently, and the many ways to customize your relationships. Plus we hear all about how their relationship(s) with each other have completely changed over the years – getting them to where they are today.To learn more about Multiamory, follow them @multiamory_podcast and listen to 'Multiamory' wherever you listen to podcasts.Get OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 8, 2025 • 37min
#brunchtalk: Dishing About The Dating App for Foodies, Do You Tell Your Friend & Love Bombing
We're catching up as we talk about a situation of 'should you tell them or not' when you know something about their relationship but you're not sure if it's your place to share. We're also chatting about a new dating app that caters to foodies and debate if this is a good idea for a first date. And of course, we answer a listener question about love bombing and what's the difference of showing a lot of interest vs. being over the top. Enjoy!Listen today and share your thoughts via email, or leave a message on Spotify or YouTube now! Also don't forget to take our poll on Spotify + InstagramTake the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Jun 3, 2025 • 1h 6min
S2018: Meeting Someone 'Later in Life' w/ Sandy Weiner
Reality check: You can find love at any age. And often times the BEST relationships happen "later in life" (which for the record is definitely subjective) We're diving in with our guest Sandy Weiner who shares her own story and those of her clients. We're discussing why age should not deter you from dating, the different complexities that come from meeting someone when you may be more established / independent, and how to shift from a scarcity to abundance mindset no matter what age you are.To learn more about Sandy, follow her @lastfirstdate1, listen to 'Last First Date Radio' podcast and get her book 'Love at Last.'Get OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 1, 2025 • 27min
#brunchtalk: Why They Lost Interest After the First Date
Nothing is worse than when you have a seemingly great first date...and then the next one just never happens. Whether they ghost, tell you there wasn't a connection, or whatever other excuse comes up, it can be so damn confusing! We're diving into why this happens – from the reasons that come with dating to what could be personal to the person. We also recount dates of our own where we thought the connection was going somewhere and the real reason we uncovered for them not wanting to see us again. Enjoy!Listen today and share your thoughts via email, or leave a message on Spotify or YouTube now! Also don't forget to take our poll on Spotify + InstagramTake the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 27, 2025 • 59min
S2017: How To Stop Wasting Time When Dating
The #1 thing we hear is: But I don't want to waste time. We feel you! Time is our most valuable asset and nothing feels more discouraging than spinning your wheels when dating without results. But what are the perceived time wasters versus the true ones? We're diving into the areas that we believe are the hidden time sucks, how to maximize and preserve your energy on everything from dating apps to events where you meet people IRL, and the productivity hack everyone needs when deciding how to take action.Get OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 25, 2025 • 30min
#brunchtalk: Always the Friend, Never the Boy-Friend
Grab your mimosas, we got a good one as we chat about why you can be great on paper, attractive, the whole nine yards – yet still have trouble attracting people to date. We're also debating a question around your boyfriend sleeping with a friend and how travel really shows if you can make a relationship work. Enjoy!Listen today and share your thoughts via email, or leave a message on Spotify or YouTube now! Also don't forget to take our poll on Spotify + InstagramTake the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 20, 2025 • 54min
S2016: Living Your Radical (Dating) Life w/ Marni Battista
Were you, you? Were you radically honest with yourself? Did you seek wisdom? We're back with a fave return guest, Marni Battista to talk about how to live your most radical life – especially when it comes to dating and having relationships. We're discussing why deviating from the 'white picket fence' ideals can help you find true joy, what it really means to date as your authentic self, and how to reinvent yourself – no matter your age, relationship status, or stage of life. To learn more about Marni, follow her @marnibattista_, visit https://marnibattista.com/, and listen to 'Life Check Yourself' wherever you listen to podcastsGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 18, 2025 • 26min
#brunchtalk: Green Flags To Look For On A First Date
We don't know about you, but we're sick of all the negativity – always looking for every last red flag out there. So we're flipping the script and discussing the green flags to look for on a first date. We're also sharing some wait...what? moments and also responding with a text to send message around what to do when you want to see someone again. Enjoy!Listen today and share your thoughts via email, or leave a message on Spotify or YouTube now! Also don't forget to take our poll on Spotify + InstagramTake the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Mint Mobile: Get 3-months of Unlimited premium wireless service for 15 bucks a month. Upfront payment of $45 required (equivalent to $15/mo.). Limited time new customer offer for first 3 months only. Speeds may slow above 35GB on Unlimited plan. Taxes & fees extra. See MINT MOBILE for details and visit https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy