
Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
Latest episodes

Apr 27, 2025 • 34min
#brunchtalk: Dishing About The Gender Divide, High EQ, and the 80/20 Rule of Apps
With so much discourse lately around the gender divide of men and women, we wanted to share our POV a bit more and open up the convo more on Dateable. From the recent Wall Street Journal articles of Why Women Are Giving Up on Marriage to the popular Diary of a CEO's masculinity discussion, it's no mystery that both genders are feeling discouraged. So what do we do about it? How do we raise the EQ (emotional intelligence) and stop the dynamics that are happening today? Listen today and share your thoughts via email, or leave a message on Spotify or YouTube now!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 22, 2025 • 55min
S2012: The Only 7 Things That Matter (When Choosing a Partner)
We're back with a topic that's near and dear to our hearts: how to know if the person you're dating is right for you. We're giving you the ultimate gut-check so you know who to keep investing more time and energy into – and when to cut someone loose. We're discussing the only 7 things that matter when evaluating a partner, what to do when if someone isn't measuring up, and how you can use this not just during early dating but through all stages of your love life. Get OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 20, 2025 • 38min
#brunchtalk: Dishing About AI Girlfriends, Foolproof Ways to Ask Someone Out & How To Get Set Up By Your Friends
We got a meaty one for you today....as we're talk about the best (and WORST) ways to ask someone out, the system to rejection-proof yourself, and how to get your friends to play matchmaker (that goes beyond, you're both single, you should meet). We're also recapping some of our 'How to Be Dateable' book events from last week with some of the popular questions asked, balancing alcohol consumption on dates, and why the last thing anyone needs is an AI girlfriend. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 15, 2025 • 58min
S2011: Let's Get Vulnerable w/ Dr. Morgan Anderson
Who else is ready to heal their relational trauma, become securely attached, and attract their available dream partner? We're feeling inspired by the convo we had with Dr. Morgan Anderson about how she did just that – and how she had get vulnerable in the process. We're discussing the anxious or avoidant patterns that protects us from vulnerability, how to share your needs and boundaries in a way that actually brings someone closer, and why it's time for everyone to learn the true definition of vulnerability and show their v-card!TW: We discuss domestic abuse briefly Follow Dr Morgan @drmorgancoaching, listen to her podcast 'Let's Get Vulnerable' wherever you listen to podcasts, and check out her site: https://drmorgancoaching.com/Get OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 13, 2025 • 26min
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Opting Out of Situationships, Reasons People Won't Commit, and The Sales Technique To Get What You Want
Can we all make a pact? Can we just opt out of situationships as it seems like a lot of people are starting to do? We're discussing why situationships happen, why people won't commit, and how they actually destroy our self-esteem causing small cuts of rejection over and over (instead of just getting our answer or ripping that bandaid off!) Whether you're currently in a situationship or avoiding them like the plague, this #brunchtalk will leave you inspired to ask for more out of your love life. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 8, 2025 • 1h 3min
S2010: No Contact & The Key To Moving On From A Breakup w/ Cole Zesiger
We’re talking breakups…but more importantly how to move forward, and not only reclaim your life…but live an even better one. And we are joined with our fantastic guest Cole Zesiger who has been through it himself – only to come out stronger, coach others, and meet the love of his life (his now wife). We're discussing the do's and don't of no contact, ways to spot if someone may not really be ready for a relationship (and break your heart later on), and how to know when it's time to move forward or try again with your ex.Follow Cole @coachcolezesiger and check out his site: https://colezesiger.com/If you're interested in the 30 Day Breakup Recovery Guide we mention in the episode, go to dateablepodcast.com/programsGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 6, 2025 • 30min
#brunchtalk: Dishing About The White Lotus Dating Archetypes, Hooking Up With Your Friends Crush, and The Most Humiliating Thing To Happen Post Sex
If you're anything like us, we've been obsessed with The White Lotus as we head into the big finale. So much that we've decided to analyze the relationship patterns of all the major characters....with our dating archetypes of course! We also talk about girl (or guy) code around hooking up with someone your friend was kind of into or you suggested they get with (i.e the Jaclyn to Laurie saga) and what's right/wrong/or can be read to interpret differently. And of course when you do actually hook up with the guy and immediately after you're like WTF..enjoy!FYI: May be some spoilers on The White Lotus if you aren't up to date (before the season finale)Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 1, 2025 • 58min
S20E9: Can You Be UnDateable? w/ Ryan Keely
This is a question we often get but we never thought we'd get it from America's favorite stepmom aka porn star Ryan Keely (who you may even recognize from Eminem's Houdini music video). But this shows you that ANYONE can feel this way! We're diving into what makes people feel undateable, the impacts of being oversexualized (or undersexualized), and the actual thing that does limit your dating options (and nope, it's probably the thing you're thinking it is).Follow Ryan @ryankeelytm and check out her podcast 'I Seduce The Dragon' wherever you listen.Want to be more Dateable? Get our book + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Mar 30, 2025 • 37min
#brunchtalk: Dishing About NOT Dating Multiple People At Once, Speed Dating & The Ultimate Way To Let Someone Down
This weeks's brunch talk has us all hopped up as we chat about surprising results from our archetypes quiz that are counter to how we all *think* people are dating, plus the ultimate way to say you're not interested in someone. Not going to lie, this may have been one of our favorite brunchtalks in awhile as we were doing it live (and maybe sound like we've had a bottle of champagne or two, but swear we are completely sober.) You'll learn something, you'll laugh, maybe even question when someone says there's something up with their stomach...enjoy! TW: There is mention of bowel movements Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Mar 25, 2025 • 1h
S20E8: The Psychology of Relationships w/ Dr. Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkel
We're back with the guest of our #1 most listened to episode and this time with his mentor for more insights...more science...and more facts – that you can all apply to your love lives. We're chatting with Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkle, professors at UC Davis & Northwestern, about what romcoms get right (and wrong) about finding love, the myths of relationships we've been told to believe, and how to reevaluate societal expectations around compatibility.Check out their podcast 'Love Factually'. For more info on Eli, visit: https://elifinkel.com/. To learn more about Paul: https://pauleastwick.com/To listen to our #1 most listened episode with Paul, search for The Science of Attraction.Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy