Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships #brunchtalk: How Much Advice Is Too Much Advice?
Nov 23, 2025
Ever feel like your partner's advice is more like a TED Talk than support? This discussion tackles the fine line between helpfulness and overstepping boundaries in relationships. Listeners learn why validation trumps unsolicited advice and the importance of recognizing when to just be present. The hosts highlight the risks of relying on AI for advice and emphasize the need for professional guidance. The conversation wraps up with tips on setting boundaries, avoiding control dynamics, and ensuring feedback is constructive rather than enabling.
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AI Used As Partner's Shortcut
- A friend’s boyfriend created a ChatGPT for her and uses it to 'diagnose' her anxiety and give life advice.
- She feels invaded and sometimes only wants to vent, not receive solutions.
Tell Your Partner What You Need
- Have a direct conversation: say what kind of support you actually need (venting vs. solutions).
- Ask your partner to change approach when their help isn't landing well.
Therapist Role Harms Relationship
- Partners can unintentionally 'therapize' and invalidate feelings by diagnosing them.
- Directing to a professional preserves boundaries and avoids turning the partner into a therapist.
