Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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Nov 10, 2024 • 16min
#brunchtalk: When They Won't Commit...
So you met someone awesome...but...they aren't ready to define the relationship or stop seeing other people. Do you wait? Date other people? Hold back sex or other intimacy? We're diving into how to handle one of the biggest challenges in dating – when one person is ready to have a relationship and the other isn't quite there We're discussing why it's essential take what people say at face value when dating, how to move forward with clarity and purpose, and ways to prioritize your needs so you don't settle. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Nov 5, 2024 • 1h 18min
S19E11: Cultivating Compersion (In Dating) w/ Dr. Marie Thouin
We don't know about you, but we could use a big ol' break from all the politics. So it's the perfect timing to introduce the concept of compersion (i.e our wholehearted participation in the happiness of others) as we chat with Dr. Marie Thouin, an expert in the topic. We're discussing how compersion can operate in both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, why jealousy and possessiveness don't have to be the conditioned response, and ways you can invite more joy into your dating life. Plus, we give updates on our trips to Italy + Mexico City in an extended intro.To learn more about Dr Marie Thouin follow her @drnariethouin and visit her website whatiscompersion.com and order her book 'What is Compersion?' today!Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Nov 3, 2024 • 17min
#brunchtalk: Are They Breadcrumbing You?
You're with someone...but they aren't quite making you a priority and giving you the attention you desire Should you cut out or is there a way to get more? In this week's #brunchtalk, we're discussing what it means when you feel like you're getting crumbs instead of the whole damn pie –whether you've defined the relationship or not. We're discussing how to make specific asks to ensure your needs are met, why you can use this info to ultimately evaluate your compatibility, and ways to determine if it's time to move on. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Oct 29, 2024 • 51min
S19E10: The Settling Paradox
We're so afraid of settling yet we settle for....situationships? We're chatting today about the difference of being picky and having standards – from the characteristics of the person we're dating to how they treat us. We're discussing where the fear of settling is rooted from, how our dating culture impacts our expectations (both in a good and bad way!) and why it is possible to find that one in a million partner without sacrificing yourself and needs in the process.Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Oct 27, 2024 • 16min
#brunchtalk: When The Consistency Stops...
They're texting every day, replying quickly, and making plans...everything's running smoothly until one day it just stops. In this week's #brunchtalk, we're discussing one of the most common dating dilemmas: inconsistency. We're discussing the reasons behind this behavior, why we have to communicate our needs and expectations effectively, and how to establish standards that help you find the right person.Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Oct 25, 2024 • 10min
Quickie w/ Julie: The Case for Underthinking (In Dating)
What if there were benefits of underthinking in dating and relationships? Yup, you heard us right. Julie's sharing a low light from her trip to Italy and how the anxiety and overthinking started to creep in related to her relationship. And also how overthinking has caused issues in the past and why thinking a little less can actually be of greater service to us all. Don't worry, we're never advocating for not thinking dating and relationships through; but more about how we don't get in our own ways. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Oct 22, 2024 • 1h 9min
S19E9: Harnessing Your Dreams (For Dating) w/ Charlie Morley
Could your subconscious actually be the missing ingredient for your love life? We're diving into everything from lucid dreaming to dream interpretation as talk with expert Charlie Morley about how we can use our dreams for insight and discovery into our love lives. We're discussing how much introspection can happen in our subconscious state, the best ways to start understanding your dreams, and how to use this information to understand your desires, fears, and anxieties holding you back.To learn more about Charlie, follow him @charlie_morley_lucid_dreaming and visit his website https://www.charliemorley.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Oct 20, 2024 • 16min
#brunchtalk: Do Breakups Reveal Someone's True Character?
When you have a not so cordial breakup and you start seeing different sides of the person you dated...is this their true self coming through or just a response to the pain they're going through? And have you ever experienced a side of yourself that you didn't recognize? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing why breakups reveal underlying issues that were previously hidden, how breakups serve for personal growth, and the deeper meaning behind some of the actions that may happen in the midst of this difficult time with heightened emotions. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Oct 15, 2024 • 1h 6min
S19E8: I Do (I Think) w/ Allison Raskin
With marriage rates on the decline....do people still want to get married? And why does it still hold the significance it does? We're joined by Allison Raskin, who just published a book digging all the complexities of modern day marriage, inspired from her experience overcoming a broken engagement to tying to knot with her now-husband. We're chatting about the societal expectations and importance of marriage today, how to make the leap of faith a little less scary, and what to do when you and your partner aren't on the same page (or timeline) about marriage.To learn more about Allison, follow her @allisonraskin, visit her website https://www.allisonraskin.com/, and check out her book 'I do (I think).'Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.Thank you to our sponsor Wildgrain! Get $30 off the first box of frozen baked goods - PLUS free Croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/DATEABLE to start your subscription.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Oct 13, 2024 • 15min
#brunchtalk: What's The Expectation Of A First Date In Your 30s?
Dating should be fun! But it also should be intentional....especially if you're looking for a life partner. With all these conflicting messages, it's hard to know the expectation of a first date anymore....especially when you reach your 30s and people are looking for something more serious. We're breaking down the difference between self-imposed pressure and the organic evolution when dating, how to balance fun and deep conversations, and ways to make your intentions more known to be seen as a serious prospect – even if you want to keep the first couple dates relatively chill. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy


