
Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
Latest episodes

Jul 9, 2024 • 58min
A PSA To Women: A Flashback to Our Most Controversial Guest
Have you ever wanted to get into the mind of men who act like they're interested only until you have sex? We're bringing up a spicy one from the archives of our most controversial guest to-date, Leon (if you're an OG listener, you probably remember this one!) who is here to deliver a PSA to women as a reformed f*ckboy who is now married and settled down. We're giving this a reboot to reflect on this current day, now that we've processed this "PSA" with updated takeaways to remind us that all guys aren't like this and how to not let the bad eggs get in the way of finding love. And for the good guys out there: this may give more understanding to experiences women may have with not so great men. Trigger Warning: This episode shows a manipulative side of men which may be triggering if you've experienced this type of behavior yourself. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Jul 7, 2024 • 24min
Best of Brunch Talk: How Do You Know If They're 'The One'?
We've been told from an early age, there's 'The One' – that person who is our best friend, our soulmate, the person we belong with. But is that even realistic? And how do we know if we are making the right choice? It can be tricky especially if we have had little relationship experience to benchmark it against. Join us for this week's 'Best of brunch talk' as we discuss if 'The One' even exists, signs you are with the right person, and how to distinguish between fear and if this person is actually a good fit for you or notGot a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern datingWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 2, 2024 • 1h 48min
Sex, Lies, and Scandal: Flashback to our Ashley Madison Exposé
To kick off this "off season" hot, we're bringing back an extremely relevant episode where we did a deep dive into Ashley Madison, the dating site exclusively for affairs. Maybe you caught the recent documentary on Netflix, but even not, we'll go into the data breach that caused millions of users' intimate data to be exposed, wrecking marriages and destroying lives. But more importantly, we'll hear directly from users of the site and staff members about why they turned to Ashley Madison in the first place and the psychology behind cheating. Buckle up, as this is a juicy one!Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 30, 2024 • 21min
Best of Brunch Talk: How Do You Not Get Ahead of Yourself (in Dating)?
It's hard not to imagine a future with someone especially when dating has been a struggle and you *finally* meet someone you like! But what happens when you get ahead of yourself and how does this impact the budding romance? We're re-airing one of our crowd favorites in our on-off season for the best of brunch talk. Join us as we talk about how to to give yourself a gut check if you're getting ahead of yourself, how even the best of us can fall into fantasy mode, and a surefire way to set expectations according to what you know.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern datingWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 27, 2024 • 8min
Quickie w/ Julie: The #1 Skill In A Relationship (That's Not Communication)
We're told that communication is everything in relationships....but what if there's another skill that is arguably more important??? Julie takes you through her experience of what she learned through couples therapy and how it's applied to not only her romantic relationships but also relationships with friends, family and coworkers too.Related Episodes:The Truth About RelationshipsHow To Have A Healthy RelationshipWhat's Your Communication StyleFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 25, 2024 • 53min
S18E18: An Alternative To Dating
Is dating the only way to find your person? Contrary to popular belief, we do think there are other ways that aren't the typical date sequence. Tune in for our season 18 finale as we discuss some viable alternative ways to get into a relationship, how to stay intentional even if you aren't "dating", and why whatever you do there's hope out there that your person is just around the corner!Have no fear! We're not going anywhere. Stay tuned into our "off season" where we shake it up a bit with different formats, guest pods, and series. Subscribe so you don't miss anything!Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 23, 2024 • 18min
#brunchtalk: How to Stay Open Without Sacrificing What's Right For You?
When you're at a place when you've learned to say no to things that don't feel right...how do you also strike that balance of saying yes without settling or sacrificing? For the last #brunchtalk of the season (don't worry, there will be more!), we're discussing how to assess your compatibility meter, the proper expectations of when you should "know" with someone, and why it's possible to hold certain boundaries while being open to the possibilities of love.Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 18, 2024 • 1h 4min
S18E17: Navigating The Setback Cycle (in Dating & Relationships) w/ Amy Shoenthal
Amy Shoenthal, a setback expert, discusses navigating dating setbacks like breakups and rejection. Setbacks can lead to growth and better decision-making. Recognize setbacks, reflect, and emerge positively. Overcome setbacks by renegotiating terms with partners and finding new agreements.

Jun 16, 2024 • 16min
#brunchtalk: Are Different Political Views A Deal Breaker?
What happens if you have totally different political views than someone you're seeing...or in this case have been f*cking for the last 15 years? Join us for this week's brunch talk as discuss how much political affiliation matters in the scheme of your relationships, what the line is between a friends-with-benefits and someone you date, and how you can decide if you can come to terms with varying views or if this is a no go for your relationship. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 14, 2024 • 10min
Quickie w/ Yue: Sometimes Staying Together May Need Time Apart
We've talked about Dating Sabbaticals but what about Relationship Sabbaticals? Yue is reflecting on the conversation we had with Mark Groves this week about the need to take an intentional pause and how this could serve her relationships – past, present, and future. If you've wondered before if you should stay or go, or when the relationship is worth fighting for, this one is for you!Related Episodes:The Key To Getting Back Together With Your Ex w/ Mark GrovesFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy