

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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Aug 20, 2024 • 52min
How To Date When Dating Is Harder Than Ever Before w/ Damona Hoffman
We're back with our last episode before Season 19 begins next week!!! And this is a good one as we reair an episode we did with Damona Hoffman on her podcast, Dates & Mates, about how you can date with intention in a world that makes dating harder than ever before. We discuss why dating is harder than ever before – but also what you can do about it and have the best relationships of your life. Plus Damona closes out with a question around dating breaks and resets so if you're feeling burnout at all – this episode is for you!Related Episodes:F the Fairy Tale w/ Damona Hoffman: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/s18e2-f-the-fairy-tale-w-damona-hoffman/id1084105171?i=1000648160861 or https://open.spotify.com/episode/5W493uTZsYZYU0y3WV36Hk?si=fAnCGq8MS9u4Augv2wFvwwFollow Damona on Instagram @damonahoffmanand check out her podcast Dates & Mates on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever else you listen to podcasts. PS their new season starts today, so check it out!Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 18, 2024 • 25min
Best of Brunch Talk: Is Bad Sex A Dealbreaker?
What happens when you meet someone great but the sex is well not so much? On this best of brunch talk, we're diving into how to handle this mismatch of expectation versus reality, why sex can fall short in the early stages even when the chemistry is there, and how to navigate the situation so you can turn this ship around (or get off in which ever way you interpret that). We're sharing some of our own stories and experiences, so whether you've been here before, experiencing this current day, or just want to get ahead of the situation, you'll likely relate and laugh along the way.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern datingWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 16, 2024 • 11min
Quickie w/ Yue: Poop Anxiety (In Early Dating)
How many of you get anxiety about using the bathroom when you're just starting to date someone new? Anyone? Yue is going there: taking us through her own bathroom anxieties while being utterly perplexed that her friend did not share the same sentiment in the slightest – so much that it lead to an investigation on the topic and this quickie for all of you.TW: Talking about bathroom activities in this one. If this is not for you, check out our many other episodes. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 13, 2024 • 1h 9min
Dating Skills You Need To Find The Relationship You Want w/ Talia Koren of Dating Intentionally
We're getting into some super practical tips to propel your love life as we re-air one of our favorite episodes we've been on with Talia Koren from Dating Intentionally. We're discussing how to have better conversations on dates, the importance of screening your matches, and the common thing that successful daters have. And make sure to stay tuned for end, where we do a rapid-fire round of "Is it a red flag if?" game that you can also weigh in on! Related Episodes:Dating Intentionally w/ Talia Koren: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/s18e13-dating-intentionally-w-talia-koren/id1084105171?i=1000656266851 or https://open.spotify.com/episode/3fJqdQVJcU2yATfKPEoQyl?si=EOSUZ7PJSAWKPT0ZQGm1iAFollow Talia on Instagram @dating.intentionally and check out her podcast Dating Intentionally on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever else you listen to podcasts.Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 11, 2024 • 23min
Best of Brunch Talk: Can You Turn A Situationship Into a Relationship?
You've been seeing someone for bit now, yet you don't know where things stand and you're starting to yearn for this to be more. Is it too late to have a DTR conversation? Could your situation be the real deal or is it a lost cause? On this best of brunch talk, we’re chatting about how you can broach the subject in a way that doesn't come out of left field, how to determine if this is someone who is even relationship material, and ways you can propelling this relationship forward in a way that feels more defined. Enjoy!Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern datingWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 6, 2024 • 1h 5min
Recovering from Cool Girl Syndrome: A Flashback To Our First Exit Interview
Dates don’t usually end with a satisfaction survey. And yet — we rate everything in our lives, from Uber drivers to local coffee shops. We complete "exit interviews" when we leave our jobs, so why don't we do the same with dating? We're revisiting the first of our limited social experiment series 'Exit Interview' where we're chatting with the exes, past dates, and anyone else who give insight into to what may be getting in the way of our guest finding love. Join us as we sit down with Tia and hear how she's been struggling with dating – and then what her exes and past situationships have to say! We'll discuss why playing it cool ruins your dating life, the ways you can recover from CGS, and how to go after what you actually want in a relationship. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.Listen to the full series: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/exit-interview/id1675284944 or https://open.spotify.com/show/6qDzVBidmfdURwBBT3nc5sListen to our OG Exit Interview: https://www.dateablepodcast.com/episode/s8e1-the-exit-interviewWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 4, 2024 • 23min
Best of Brunch Talk: What To Do When You Keep Getting Rejected?
When another date or budding relationship doesn't work out, it can feel like a sucker-punch in the stomach. You start to question what you're doing wrong and if you're destined to be alone forever. Trust us, we get it and we've been here ourselves too. On this week's Best of Brunch talk we're talking about what rejection really means, why it keeps happening, and how this can actually be a great thing if you choose to see it that way.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern datingWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 1, 2024 • 9min
Quickie w/ Julie: Finding Closure From Past Relationships
It's been a big week! Writing a book brings up a lot – especially when the topic is around dating and relationships! Julie is discussing how she processed her own dating history and patterns, including reconnecting with her ex 4 years later.Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 30, 2024 • 1h 9min
Nothing To Lose By Making The First Move: A Flashback For Meeting IRL Inspo + HOW TO BE DATEABLE
Our book HOW TO BE DATEABLE is available for pre-order! We'll recap the wild announcement week along with a flashback episode to a still very hot topic today: how to meet people IRL. Our guest Amanda shares how she approaches guys IRL with ease and confidence: a nothing to lose attitude if you will. We discuss how make moves in an organic way, why approaching IRL is not as scary as it seems, and how to change your mentality by recognizing what you could gain from a simple hello.Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 28, 2024 • 23min
Best of Brunch Talk: How To Stay Emotionally Available When You've Been Burned in the Past?
How do you keep your heart open when it's been trampled on a few too many times to count? Whether you've recovering from a big breakup or have had a string of dates that just didn't work out, it can be incredibly challenging to stay open to the next romantic prospect while also protecting your heart. But in this best of brunch talk we're going to discuss how to balance still staying hopeful in a way that feels realistic, ways to avoid burnout, and why you can still stay open for that amazing person who is just around the corner.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern datingWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy