
Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
Latest episodes

Aug 4, 2024 • 23min
Best of Brunch Talk: What To Do When You Keep Getting Rejected?
When another date or budding relationship doesn't work out, it can feel like a sucker-punch in the stomach. You start to question what you're doing wrong and if you're destined to be alone forever. Trust us, we get it and we've been here ourselves too. On this week's Best of Brunch talk we're talking about what rejection really means, why it keeps happening, and how this can actually be a great thing if you choose to see it that way.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern datingWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 1, 2024 • 9min
Quickie w/ Julie: Finding Closure From Past Relationships
It's been a big week! Writing a book brings up a lot – especially when the topic is around dating and relationships! Julie is discussing how she processed her own dating history and patterns, including reconnecting with her ex 4 years later.Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 30, 2024 • 1h 9min
Nothing To Lose By Making The First Move: A Flashback For Meeting IRL Inspo + HOW TO BE DATEABLE
Our book HOW TO BE DATEABLE is available for pre-order! We'll recap the wild announcement week along with a flashback episode to a still very hot topic today: how to meet people IRL. Our guest Amanda shares how she approaches guys IRL with ease and confidence: a nothing to lose attitude if you will. We discuss how make moves in an organic way, why approaching IRL is not as scary as it seems, and how to change your mentality by recognizing what you could gain from a simple hello.Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 28, 2024 • 23min
Best of Brunch Talk: How To Stay Emotionally Available When You've Been Burned in the Past?
How do you keep your heart open when it's been trampled on a few too many times to count? Whether you've recovering from a big breakup or have had a string of dates that just didn't work out, it can be incredibly challenging to stay open to the next romantic prospect while also protecting your heart. But in this best of brunch talk we're going to discuss how to balance still staying hopeful in a way that feels realistic, ways to avoid burnout, and why you can still stay open for that amazing person who is just around the corner.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern datingWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 23, 2024 • 1h 21min
The Secret To Enjoying Dating: A Flashback For Instant Positivity + BIG ANNOUNCEMENT reveal
Our BIG ANNOUNCEMENT is here....along with a flashback to one of the most positive guests we've had on the pod. We guarantee you'll feel more hopeful and optimistic after hearing Meredith's story about how she's been able to actually enjoy dating in her 30's and thrive being single – even after a brutal breakup that involved infidelity. We discuss how detrimental breakups can be the catalyst for growth, how to actually enjoy the process of dating (even on the apps), and why personal growth is the most important gift you can give yourself while dating. Trigger Warning: We discuss infidelityFollow Meredith at @meredithtxFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Jul 20, 2024 • 20min
Best of Brunch Talk: How To Tell When Someone Likes You
Do they like you? Or not? We're bringing back one of our most listened to #brunchtalks to dissect the age old question of how to tell if someone likes you, especially in times when it's not entirely clear. We'll discuss how to navigate situations where there are mixed signals, why you can have that fabulous first date (make-out sesh included) and never hear back from the person again, and the #1 thing you should be asking yourself when you are dating.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern datingWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 16, 2024 • 1h 21min
The Science Of Attraction: A Flashback to Our Most Popular Episode
What makes you attracted to one person and not another? We're bringing back our most popular episode ever with Dr. Paul Eastwick about his work at the UC Davis Attraction Lab of how people form and maintain relationships. We discuss how ideal partner preferences play into partner selection, why we often think we know what we want when we don't, and the secret of when attraction can build over time. Plus we'll kick off the episode with a new intro recapping Yue's solo trip + the intimacy workshop she attended, and Julie's bday highs and lows. Plus BIG announcement coming next week!!!Check out Paul's work at http://pauleastwick.com/ or @pauleastwick on Twitter.Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 14, 2024 • 25min
Best of Brunch Talk: Should You Leave a Relationship That's Good But Not Great?
Would you rather stay in a mediocre relationship than to start over and be single? The thought of dating "from scratch" can be daunting but does it really justify staying in a relationship not meeting your needs? We're re-airing one of our most popular brunch talks, where we explore whether to try to make your current relationship better or cut bait – and how to reframe your mindset about what "starting over" even means.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 11, 2024 • 10min
Quickie w/ Yue: The Quickest Way To Stop Bad Dating Behavior
Are you sick of the ghosting, bread crumbing, flaking, zombie-ing, and the myriad of other bad dating behavior? Yup, us too. Yue is discussing her theory on why it seems to keep getting worse every year, but more importantly how we can all squash this type of behavior and head into a dating utopia. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jul 9, 2024 • 58min
A PSA To Women: A Flashback to Our Most Controversial Guest
Have you ever wanted to get into the mind of men who act like they're interested only until you have sex? We're bringing up a spicy one from the archives of our most controversial guest to-date, Leon (if you're an OG listener, you probably remember this one!) who is here to deliver a PSA to women as a reformed f*ckboy who is now married and settled down. We're giving this a reboot to reflect on this current day, now that we've processed this "PSA" with updated takeaways to remind us that all guys aren't like this and how to not let the bad eggs get in the way of finding love. And for the good guys out there: this may give more understanding to experiences women may have with not so great men. Trigger Warning: This episode shows a manipulative side of men which may be triggering if you've experienced this type of behavior yourself. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy