Sex and Psychology Podcast

Explore the world of solos, individuals who prefer to live on their own terms. Learn about the distinction between being solo and being single. Discover different types of solos and how they navigate relationships. Find out the keys to living a remarkable solo life, including community and personal growth.

Over the last half-century, we’ve seen a dramatic change in people’s living and relationship arrangements. Specifically, more adults are living on their own, and fewer are getting married. In today’s show, we’re going to dive into the rapid rise in single living around the world. We’ll take a look at the numbers and explore how attitudes towards singlehood and marriage are evolving. I am joined by Peter McGraw, a business school professor at the University of Colorado Boulder. He hosts the podcast Solo—The Single Person’s Guide to a Remarkable Life, he writes for Single Insights—The Science of Solos, and he hosts The Solo Salon. In 2014, Peter co-authored a book called The Humor Code. His latest book is titled Solo. Some of the topics we explore in this episode include: How have rates of marriage and single living changed in the US (and across the world) in the last 50 years? Which countries today have the most singles? What factors are propelling more people into singlehood? Why have traditional relationship models fallen out of favor? How much stigma is still attached to being single? Make sure to check out Peter’s website to learn more about his work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology *** Thank you to our sponsors!  Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you’ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Almost everyone has sexual fantasies—and has them often. But most of us have questions about our fantasies, including what they really mean, how to share them with a partner, and how to go about turning them into reality. In this episode, we’re going to do a deep dive into the world of fantasies. Among other things, we’ll discuss what to do when you have shame or trauma connected to your fantasies, how you can use technology to facilitate open communication about fantasies, as well as what you need to know if you’re thinking about acting on your fantasies. I am joined once again by Rena Martine, a women’s intimacy coach, former Sex Crimes Deputy District Attorney for the Los Angeles County D.A.’s Office, and author of The Sex You Want: A Shameless Journey to Deep Intimacy, Honest Pleasure, and a Life You Love. Some of the questions we explore in this episode include: What is the difference between a sexual fantasy and a sexual desire? Do fantasies need to be elaborate or “fantastical” in order to count as fantasies? How can we get rid of the shame we may have surrounding our fantasies? What are some ways we can make sure our sexual needs and desires are prioritized? How can a newbie who is interested in threesomes or kink start exploring these fantasies? Make sure to check out Rena’s website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology *** Thank you to our sponsors!  Flure Dating App: Explore & Own Your Desires – https://flure.com The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

There’s the sex life you have, and then there’s the sex life you want. So how do you actually get the one that you want? This is something a lot of people struggle with, so that’s what we’re going to be talking about today. We’re going to explore tips for changing the relationship we have with ourselves, tips for changing the relationships we have with other people, as well as ways of simply making sex more fun. My guest is Rena Martine, a women’s intimacy coach, former Sex Crimes Deputy District Attorney for the Los Angeles County D.A.’s Office, and author of The Sex You Want: A Shameless Journey to Deep Intimacy, Honest Pleasure, and a Life You Love. Some of the topics we explore include: What is the “27 things” exercise, and how can it help you to get clarity on what you want from your intimate life? How can we better manage body image issues that are hindering desire for and enjoyment of sex? How can we avoid hopping on the “relationship escalator” with a partner who might not be meeting our needs? What are some ways to make planned sex good sex? How can we bring the fun back into sex? Make sure to check out Rena’s website to learn more about her work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology *** Thank you to our sponsors!  I’m excited to announce a new edition of my textbook, The Psychology of Human Sexuality! This is the third edition of the book, and it’s the biggest and best version yet. The Psychology of Human Sexuality is a comprehensive guide to the major theories and perspectives on sexuality and the vast diversity in sexual attitudes and behaviors that exist around the world. You can check it out here. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

In this podcast, the hosts discuss how to break negative cycles in relationships. Topics include the importance of vulnerability, co-regulation, and avoiding traps that lead to negative cycles. They also talk about repairing relationships after a negative cycle and provide resources for deeper relationship issues.

Explore the reasons behind the same fights in long-term relationships known as negative cycles. Discover how triggers, unresolved issues, and attachment styles contribute to these cycles. Learn strategies to recognize, break, and repair negative cycles to improve relationship dynamics.

A lot of people want to bring change into their love life, but they feel stuck. They’re ready and eager for change, but they don’t know how to do it or how to get their partner on board. In today’s episode, we’re going to discuss practical tips for changing your relationship. We’re also going to talk about how to drop the societal imperatives that tell us what we should be doing and, instead, learn how to chart your own course. I am joined once again by award-winning author Emily Nagoski. She wrote the New York Times bestselling books Come As You Are and The Come As You Are Workbook. Her latest book is titled Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. Some of the topics we explore in this episode include: If you’re ready for a change but your partner isn’t, how do you navigate that? How can partners work together to create and maintain a sexual connection that lasts? What are some new ways of exploring erotic pleasures with a partner? What is the “magic trick” for accessing ecstasy, and how can we apply it to our sex lives? Make sure to check out Emily’s website to find out more. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors!  Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you’ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

In this episode, award-winning author Emily Nagoski discusses the science-backed ways of creating and maintaining a sexual connection that lasts in long-term relationships. They explore topics such as the importance of understanding what people want from sex, why sexual novelty alone is not enough, and the difference between pleasure and desire. They also discuss how creating an emotional floorplan can help people get into a lustful headspace.

Discover practical ways to develop sexual empowerment. Learn how resolutions for physical and mental health can enhance sexual satisfaction. Explore introducing novelty and being present during sex. Find out why creating a sex plan can benefit you and your relationship. The podcast features an interview with Dr. Juliana Hauser, a licensed marriage and family therapist.

Drs. Amy Muise and Emily Impett discuss the lack of scientific backing for 'The Five Love Languages' concept. They explore more scientifically sound ways of understanding love and whether it's okay to still like the love languages idea despite the lack of data supporting it.