Help Me Be Me

Explore how emotional responses from loved ones can trigger defensiveness and create distance. Learn to break free from harmful patterns and regain clarity by redefining your interactions. Discover the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships and the importance of self-awareness. Find out how grounding techniques can help navigate anxiety and emotions effectively. This discussion also encourages setting clear goals and taking actionable steps toward personal growth for healthier communication.

Guilt is like a gut punch that doesn’t stop. The loss of meaning is like a thick layer of glass in front of your eyes. It’s like a constant reminder that you are not who you aspire to be. Something is not aligned in who you are. There’s also the kind of guilt you feel when you know rationally that you should not feel guilty – like you are betraying a part of yourself that is real and cannot sever an old allegiance. In this episode, I am going to try and open up some air around the source of your guilt. I cover different kinds of guilt – the kind that results from shame over something you did and also the kind that “doesn’t belong to you” (as with severing unhealthy family relationships). My goal with this episode is for you to be able to see it as an external object–or a symptom, and not identify with it, in the hopes that you can move through it despite the intensity of the pain. My goal for you is to create change in your life and to find meaning. The path back to light and joy or at the very least progress– is with change: growth, context, understanding. If you are in the loop of guilt, step back. There is something yet to untangle. Move toward growth and evolution. Support this week’s sponsors! Thesis Take the free, 3-minute quiz to find out what your brain needs. Head to takethesis.com and use code HELPMEBEME to save $60 on your first subscription order when you sign up for Thesis.TrueNutrition For a limited time, our listeners get 15% off your entire order when you use code HELPMEBEME at checkout at Truenutrition.com Hiya We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best-selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. To claim this deal you must go to hiyahealth.com/helpmebeme  Gabb Right now Gabb is offering HUGE discounts on phones and watches to new customers. The best part? There's no contract required! Just go to GABB.com/HELPMEBEME to get started. Terms and conditions apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is about growing your soul by doing the real work that will advance you. Seeing the muscle that needs work. I’m inviting you to choose to work on a coping mechanism that hurts you. To see around it – separate it from your person, and take apart its inner workings. I think a lot of people keep themselves small or keep themselves occupied in things like relationships as a means to stave of feelings of pain. The pain results from an original wound that feels so vague and powerful that we stop to look at it. If you have a loop in your life, you might think it’s just “you.” You may have accepted it. But that is because you’re still in it and blinded by it. In order to change, we have to step back and start to work on it in very specific ways. This episode has tools for fostering that. So that we can follow our purest dreams, not the loop of what’s in front of us.To donate to the amazing charity I mentioned and save some lives of foster kids, visit TheTeenProject.com xo! Support this week’s sponsors! Hiya We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best-selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. To claim this deal you must go to hiyahealth.com/helpmebeme and get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults. Chewy Chewy has everything you need to keep your pet happy and healthy. And right now you can save $20 on your first order and get free shipping by going to Chewy.com/podhelpmebeme Minimum purchase required. New customers only. Terms and conditions apply. See site for complete details. MudWtr.com/HelpMeBeMe For a limited time, our listeners get up to 43% off your entire order, Free Shipping and a Free Rechargeable Frother when you use our exclusive link. Head to mudwtr.com/HELPMEBEME and grab your starter kit! BetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe Rediscover your curiosity with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe today to get 10% off your first month. TrueNutrition.com For a limited time, our listeners get 15% off your entire order when you use code HELPMEBEME at checkout. Take the guesswork out of nutrition with True Nutrition. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you lost a bit of shine and joy? This is a path back to gratitude and hope. This is an energy tuning episode all about restoring limitlessness and optimism on a mindset level but it also relates to being a good person, friend and parent. It’s about being conscious and responsible with your energy and tuning it to support openness and rationality. Never forget: Energy is a chain reaction: what we put out changes others, and also changes what comes our way. Think of yourself like a tuning fork. You resonate with the world around you in whatever way you are filtering your thinking. Let’s be careful and conscious about that – starting right now! To support this week’s sponsors, head to: Dr Marty’s Pets:Excellent dog food that makes my dogs feel great! Go to DrMartyPets.com/HELPMEBEME for up to 54% OFF Nature’s Blend and get a free bag of Cod Crispies, their bestselling wild-caught cod skin treats. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you move through life? Is it with a sense of “time unfolds for me” or is it more “Hurry! I need to catch up!” Let’s curate more joy in the world around ourselves and change our perspective toward “life is happening for me, there is enough, no need to hurry.” Another name for this episode was 'a thousand points of light' because we can affect our sum with small tweaks and additions. When we draw boundaries around our time and step back from mentally being two places at once, our entire experience of life changes. This episode was inspired by my vacation. It’s for enhancing calmness and beauty. My most important observation: how you relate to time has a creative effect on your life and how you experience its sum. Without being half-working on my phone or intensely guided by efficiency, my day has grown years longer.  When we are “in a rush” for a long time– scheduling everything down to the minute and seeing how much we can accomplish in a day, it is a life designed at the cost of yourself. The casualty is your own depth of enjoyment of ALL moments, not just the ones spent multitasking. And that is because your MO really wires everything about your life experience. Support this week’s sponsors! ChewyChewy has everything you need tokeep your pet happy and healthy. And right now you can save $20 on your firstorder and get free shipping by going to Chewy.com/podhelpmebeme Minimum purchaserequired. New customers only. Terms and conditions apply. See sitefor complete details BetterHelpNever skip therapy day, with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/helpmebemetoday to get 10% off your first month. GabbRight now Gabb is offering HUGEdiscounts on phones and watches to new customers. The best part? There's nocontract required! Just go to GABB.com/HELPMEBEME to get started. Terms and conditions apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The inner committee is what I am focusing on in this episode. By that I mean the cast of characters in your mind that voice fears, judgements, criticisms, rules for what you can and will do, and generally limit your beliefs about your life. I sometimes refer to our mind as a stage on which actors perform scenes. “You” – the holistic, reflective self, are not your thoughts but rather a wiser presence. I sometimes refer to this as “the silent watcher” or “inner child.” That awareness takes in all this happening in your body and experiences the blips of energy created by your thoughts. One important note I want to call out – “You” might want something different for your life than your thoughts promote to you. And this episode is about being capable of guiding your life despite the chatter of the mind. Taking steps to move forward, despite them. The inner committee can be incredibly powerful and fear-inducing. We react to them, which can hinder a lot of change, including positive change. This is about revoking their ability to control you and instead being guided by something deeper – an inner knowing. Who is this for? Anyone who feels they are holding themselves back with rumination, ambivalence, or self-limiting beliefs. Don’t give up – never give up, the story is not over yet! To donate to my friend and the foster kids head to TheTeenProject.com xo! Support our Sponsors! Gabb This is the absolute best time to check them out, because right now, Gabb is offering $25 off any device to new customers—with no contract required! That’s $25 off any Gabb smartphone or smart watch. Just go to Gabb.com/HelpMeBeMe—that’s where you’ll get the best deal! AirDoctor AirDoctor comes with a 30-day breathe easy money back guarantee so if you don’t love it, just send it back for a refund, minus shipping. Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HELPMEBEME you’ll receive UP TO $300 off air purifiers! Exclusive to podcast customers, you will also receive a free 3 year warranty on any unit, which is an additional $84 value! Lock this special offer by going to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HELPMEBEME EarthBreeze Right now, my listeners can receive forty percent off Earth Breeze just by going to EarthBreeze.com/HelpMeBeMe ! Cut out single-use plastic in your laundry room and claim forty percent off your subscription! And that amazing video about dog health and American dog food w Cesar Millan…Go to foodforpups.com/HelpMeBeMe and watch Cesar Millan’s video to find out 2 potential red flags of most modern American dog foods. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you are feeling pissed off, having angry outbursts, trending toward negativity, and feeling a sense of doom, there’s a likelihood that you are burned out. This is an episode inviting you to step back and recalibrate when “the pot is full,” so to speak. This isn’t about dismantling what’s working if you are currently high functioning and getting shit done. It’s about creating some air or wiggle room in the face of that burned-outness, and with that shifting your direction toward health and positivity. This has tools for focus cleansing and putting our thoughts and reactions in perspective. Some specific tools for codependent friends as well. Sending much love! If you want to check out the book I mentioned you can head here:https://amzn.to/4cugoll Support this week’s sponsors! BetterHelpStop comparing and start focusing, with BetterHelp.Visit BetterHelp.com/helpmebeme today to get 10% off your first month.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a conversation with Zak Rosen of “The Best Advice Show” all about how small acts make massive waves of change outwards. This is a feel-good show all about changes that affect the arc of life: the small, conscious tweaks we make change our trajectory in terms of happiness and overall quality of life. And the advice you hear in this episode is not necessarily what you’d expect–it’s grounded, simple, and life-altering.If you guys want to hear the episode mentioned when Zak interviewed me on his show, check out the link below:https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/expecting-the-opposite-with-sarah-may-b/id1507811918?i=1000485483262 Support this week’s sponsors! Gabb is the leader in safe, smart phones and watches for kids,teens, and tweens. Right now, Gabb is offering $25 off any device to new customers—with no contract required! That’s $25 off any Gabb smartphone or smartwatch. Just go to GABB.com/HELPMEBEME—that’s whereyou’ll get the best deal. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This podcast explores the struggles of leaving an unhappy relationship, focusing on internal barriers like old beliefs and traumas. It delves into the concept of invisible walls in relationships rooted in fears and cultural upbringing, urging listeners to differentiate their values. Encouraging self-reflection and perseverance, the podcast highlights the importance of overcoming self-limiting beliefs and staying focused on personal growth and authenticity.

This is for seeing a wall or a low point as an opportunity for transformation. This is an episode for moving out of a state of woe. When we surrender and deliberately hold ourselves as we “pass” the pain, this is when new doors open and we grow amazing new capacities. The aim of this episode is to start floating atop top the water versus fighting it, when you’re in a place of resistance and suffering.Other names for this episode were ‘Being happy when others in your life aren’t’ and ‘Welcoming synchronicity and grace.’ And that is because when we surrender and accept powerlessness, signs begin to come in. I hope this helps you!Let us all let go. Welcome what is. Hold ourselves through where we are. And with that, allow in the flow of love and trust. Sending love...The two books I mention in this episode are here:https://amzn.to/4bQwC7Hhttps://amzn.to/4bsBNLbSupport this week’s sponsors:Fearless Finance - Visit FearlessFinance.com today. You can chat with a planner for free to make sure it’s a good fit, and you’ll get $50 off your first planning meeting when you use the code HELPMEBEMEAstepro and Go! - Get fast-acting nasal allergy symptom relief with Astepro. Go to AsteproAllergy.com for a discount so you can Astepro and Go! today. AsteproAllergy.comUse as directed for relief of nasal congestion, runny nose, sneezing and itchy nose due to allergies.AquaTru. AquaTru water purifiers come with a 30-day Money-Back Guarantee and they also make great gifts!Today my listeners receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Go to AquaTru.com and use promo code HelpMeBeMe at checkout!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices