Help Me Be Me

This discussion dives into the importance of offering grace to ourselves and those around us. Listeners are encouraged to cultivate self-compassion amidst life's chaos. Personal stories highlight the journey to reconnect with one's authentic self and nurture meaningful relationships. Emotional growth is emphasized through self-acceptance and processing pain. The conversation also touches on the power of communication and community in fostering genuine connections, while providing tools for enhancing appreciation of both ourselves and others.

This is for relationships that can be best described as dry kindling: dealing, politely, but no warmth or closeness. Maybe you feel your partner is critical, that you are invisible, and when fights occur, they go to DEFCON level 1 instantly, and nothing gets resolved, the loop only resets. So in the day to day, there’s little connection between you. If this sounds familiar, I want you to imagine you and your partner are in a glass display. Like a window at a store. Close to 90% of all communication is non-verbal, so if you are noticing there is no love and affection being expressed on a non-verbal level, this is one place to start. More on this in the episode plus tools for stepping back from the hurt. A little change can go a long way in allowing the love that still lives to come forth.Big caveat: this episode is for those in “safe” relationships, not abusive ones. If you are in an abusive relationship here is one resource to get help: National Domestic Violence Hotline.  Support this week’s sponsors:MeUndiesCheck out the brand new MeUndies Kids line today! To get 20% off your first order, plus free shipping, go to MeUndies.com/helpmebeme and enter promo code helpmebeme ChewyChewy is helping take the stress out of the holidays. Take advantage of amazing holiday savings and shop my personal favorites at Chewy.com/podhelpmebeme BetterHelpLet the gratitude flow, with BetterHelp. Visit Betterhelp.com/helpmebeme today to get 10% off your first month.LMNT Get your free LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at DrinkLMNT.com/HelpMeBeMe Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Navigating family dynamics can be tricky, especially during the holidays. The discussion highlights the emotional pull of past triggers and how to stay above old patterns. It emphasizes setting loving boundaries to cope with family interactions. Tools for maintaining a positive mindset are shared, along with insights on avoiding harm to yourself and others. The importance of recognizing projections and not taking on others' pain is a key takeaway, helping listeners approach family gatherings with love and confidence.

“I’m ugly” “I should be better by now” “I’m a terrible mother” “My relevance is over” “I’m old”… Everybody has these thoughts. They are average. What matters is whether or not you engage with the thoughts and follow their tangent. You can quite literally start thinking ANYTHING repeatedly and you will start to see it as true. There is no such thing as true or not true, only what you experience through your own lens. The way the brain works is via comparison. It’s a threat-calculator – a unique and special one trained on our experiences. But it is not “us” in the bigger sense. “We” are the silent watcher, the presence within that witnesses these thoughts. The moment they occur there’s a choice to be made – you can follow the feeling and invest in the script, like you’re an actor in a play, or you can look at them – step back, and resume a state of non-attachment.This is an episode all about escaping from thought prison. Have you seen around thoughts yet? This is the goal in this episode. Find this podcast on YouTube here. Support this week’s sponsors!Nature’s BlendFor a limited time, enjoy up to 54% OFF Nature’s Blend and get a free bag of Cod Crispies, their bestselling wild-caught cod skin treats. Go to drmartypets.com/HELPMEBEME. Every order is backed by a 90-day money-back promise.BetterHelpOvercome your fears, with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/helpmebeme today to get 10% off your first month.LMNTGet your free LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at DrinkLMNT.com/HelpMeBeMe Also try the new LMNT Sparkling — a bold, 16-ounce can of sparkling electrolyte water. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover the dangers of falling for someone’s potential rather than their reality. The conversation dives into recognizing unhealthy attachment patterns and the confusion they create. Gain insights on fostering self-respect and emotional growth while moving away from toxic connections. Learn valuable strategies for identifying what truly matters in relationships and embracing personal development. Shift your focus from self-judgment to self-love and equip yourself with tools for healthier partnerships.

Explore how emotional responses from loved ones can trigger defensiveness and create distance. Learn to break free from harmful patterns and regain clarity by redefining your interactions. Discover the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships and the importance of self-awareness. Find out how grounding techniques can help navigate anxiety and emotions effectively. This discussion also encourages setting clear goals and taking actionable steps toward personal growth for healthier communication.

Guilt is like a gut punch that doesn’t stop. The loss of meaning is like a thick layer of glass in front of your eyes. It’s like a constant reminder that you are not who you aspire to be. Something is not aligned in who you are. There’s also the kind of guilt you feel when you know rationally that you should not feel guilty – like you are betraying a part of yourself that is real and cannot sever an old allegiance. In this episode, I am going to try and open up some air around the source of your guilt. I cover different kinds of guilt – the kind that results from shame over something you did and also the kind that “doesn’t belong to you” (as with severing unhealthy family relationships). My goal with this episode is for you to be able to see it as an external object–or a symptom, and not identify with it, in the hopes that you can move through it despite the intensity of the pain. My goal for you is to create change in your life and to find meaning. The path back to light and joy or at the very least progress– is with change: growth, context, understanding. If you are in the loop of guilt, step back. There is something yet to untangle. Move toward growth and evolution. Support this week’s sponsors! Thesis Take the free, 3-minute quiz to find out what your brain needs. Head to takethesis.com and use code HELPMEBEME to save $60 on your first subscription order when you sign up for Thesis.TrueNutrition For a limited time, our listeners get 15% off your entire order when you use code HELPMEBEME at checkout at Truenutrition.com Hiya We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best-selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. To claim this deal you must go to hiyahealth.com/helpmebeme  Gabb Right now Gabb is offering HUGE discounts on phones and watches to new customers. The best part? There's no contract required! Just go to GABB.com/HELPMEBEME to get started. Terms and conditions apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is about growing your soul by doing the real work that will advance you. Seeing the muscle that needs work. I’m inviting you to choose to work on a coping mechanism that hurts you. To see around it – separate it from your person, and take apart its inner workings. I think a lot of people keep themselves small or keep themselves occupied in things like relationships as a means to stave of feelings of pain. The pain results from an original wound that feels so vague and powerful that we stop to look at it. If you have a loop in your life, you might think it’s just “you.” You may have accepted it. But that is because you’re still in it and blinded by it. In order to change, we have to step back and start to work on it in very specific ways. This episode has tools for fostering that. So that we can follow our purest dreams, not the loop of what’s in front of us.To donate to the amazing charity I mentioned and save some lives of foster kids, visit TheTeenProject.com xo! Support this week’s sponsors! Hiya We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best-selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. To claim this deal you must go to hiyahealth.com/helpmebeme and get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults. Chewy Chewy has everything you need to keep your pet happy and healthy. And right now you can save $20 on your first order and get free shipping by going to Chewy.com/podhelpmebeme Minimum purchase required. New customers only. Terms and conditions apply. See site for complete details. MudWtr.com/HelpMeBeMe For a limited time, our listeners get up to 43% off your entire order, Free Shipping and a Free Rechargeable Frother when you use our exclusive link. Head to mudwtr.com/HELPMEBEME and grab your starter kit! BetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe Rediscover your curiosity with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe today to get 10% off your first month. TrueNutrition.com For a limited time, our listeners get 15% off your entire order when you use code HELPMEBEME at checkout. Take the guesswork out of nutrition with True Nutrition. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you lost a bit of shine and joy? This is a path back to gratitude and hope. This is an energy tuning episode all about restoring limitlessness and optimism on a mindset level but it also relates to being a good person, friend and parent. It’s about being conscious and responsible with your energy and tuning it to support openness and rationality. Never forget: Energy is a chain reaction: what we put out changes others, and also changes what comes our way. Think of yourself like a tuning fork. You resonate with the world around you in whatever way you are filtering your thinking. Let’s be careful and conscious about that – starting right now! To support this week’s sponsors, head to: Dr Marty’s Pets:Excellent dog food that makes my dogs feel great! Go to DrMartyPets.com/HELPMEBEME for up to 54% OFF Nature’s Blend and get a free bag of Cod Crispies, their bestselling wild-caught cod skin treats. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you move through life? Is it with a sense of “time unfolds for me” or is it more “Hurry! I need to catch up!” Let’s curate more joy in the world around ourselves and change our perspective toward “life is happening for me, there is enough, no need to hurry.” Another name for this episode was 'a thousand points of light' because we can affect our sum with small tweaks and additions. When we draw boundaries around our time and step back from mentally being two places at once, our entire experience of life changes. This episode was inspired by my vacation. It’s for enhancing calmness and beauty. My most important observation: how you relate to time has a creative effect on your life and how you experience its sum. Without being half-working on my phone or intensely guided by efficiency, my day has grown years longer.  When we are “in a rush” for a long time– scheduling everything down to the minute and seeing how much we can accomplish in a day, it is a life designed at the cost of yourself. The casualty is your own depth of enjoyment of ALL moments, not just the ones spent multitasking. And that is because your MO really wires everything about your life experience. Support this week’s sponsors! ChewyChewy has everything you need tokeep your pet happy and healthy. And right now you can save $20 on your firstorder and get free shipping by going to Chewy.com/podhelpmebeme Minimum purchaserequired. New customers only. Terms and conditions apply. See sitefor complete details BetterHelpNever skip therapy day, with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/helpmebemetoday to get 10% off your first month. GabbRight now Gabb is offering HUGEdiscounts on phones and watches to new customers. The best part? There's nocontract required! Just go to GABB.com/HELPMEBEME to get started. Terms and conditions apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices