Help Me Be Me

Hi friends! Happy new year! This is a clips show with some inspirational vibes for you to kick off your year– it includes excerpts from the following episodes. Enjoy xo192  Changing your life: remembering a sense of possibilityhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-192-changing-your-life-remembering-a-sense/id895918183?i=1000602016701193 Getting in the energy path of changehttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/help-me-be-me/id895918183?i=1000602016701201 Working with the energy of scarcity – choosing fulfilmenthttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/help-me-be-me/id895918183?i=1000619419445185 Getting out of your own wayhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/help-me-be-me/id895918183?i=1000587178584200 Getting back into the energy of limitlessnesshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/help-me-be-me/id895918183?i=1000617776780Smile! And visit YayWithMe.com for more of my work Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is all tools for stepping back from the process of negative rumination and choosing a different path: awareness, neutrality and openness. A lot of what we live through is created in our mind, and thoughts catalyze more similar thoughts. When it comes to negative rumination, a lot of these thought sequences are based in old, strong emotional imprints from long ago that are triggered in the present. When we get into a negative thought loop, a sequence of feelings is created by an initial thought. For example, “I am sad because I am alone tonight, and this person didn’t call me back.” Which catalyzes, “Where am I in my life?” Which catalyzes, “Now I feel emotionally low” which triggers the brain’s desire to double down on this feeling and wallow in this rapidly increasing feeling of sadness. This catalyzes the next thought and the next one and the next one after that. I am doing something super simple in this episode: I am writing directions for how to dismantle these kinds of thought sequences. What happens is our brain is fighting for control over feelings of pain, powerlessness, and ego-threat by rationalizing it: giving it a logical set of terms and labels. When we have a blip of anxiety or pain, we say, “This feeling is from this present-day thing in my life.” And we have already jumped on the bandwagon of that sequence of feelings, thinking we are in control of managing it when in reality, we are creating it. MeUndies Kids To get 20% off your first order, plus free shipping, go to MeUndies.com/helpmebeme and use code helpmebeme   Chewy Don’t forget gifts for your pet this holiday season! Take advantage of amazing deals and shop my personal favorites at Chewy.com/podhelpmebeme   BetterHelp Find comfort this December with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/helpmebeme today to get 10% off your first month.     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a GREAT podcast for moms that I have learned a lot from. It’s called “3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms” – it’s hosted by Rachel Nielson, a mom who seeks out the advice professionals for actionable advice around child-rearing. Rachel is a lover of practical ideas, conversations with kindred spirits, and her two wild miracle children who keep life interesting. I’m a mom so I am always looking for podcasts that help with child-rearing.In this excerpt from episode 401 of 3 in 30, Rachel interviews board certified integrative family physician, activist, and TEDx speaker Dr. Setti[1]  about accessing radical gratitude, especially in times of difficulty. In this takeaway you will hear one suggestion for how we can use gratitude to turn us toward our life instead of away. If you want to listen to the entire thing, here’s the full length episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/401-how-radical-gratitude-can-change-your-life-dr-tanmeet/id1296627876?i=1000676478660And to follow Rachel’s show you can check out 3in30podcast.comIG: @3in30podcast  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This discussion dives into the importance of offering grace to ourselves and those around us. Listeners are encouraged to cultivate self-compassion amidst life's chaos. Personal stories highlight the journey to reconnect with one's authentic self and nurture meaningful relationships. Emotional growth is emphasized through self-acceptance and processing pain. The conversation also touches on the power of communication and community in fostering genuine connections, while providing tools for enhancing appreciation of both ourselves and others.

This is for relationships that can be best described as dry kindling: dealing, politely, but no warmth or closeness. Maybe you feel your partner is critical, that you are invisible, and when fights occur, they go to DEFCON level 1 instantly, and nothing gets resolved, the loop only resets. So in the day to day, there’s little connection between you. If this sounds familiar, I want you to imagine you and your partner are in a glass display. Like a window at a store. Close to 90% of all communication is non-verbal, so if you are noticing there is no love and affection being expressed on a non-verbal level, this is one place to start. More on this in the episode plus tools for stepping back from the hurt. A little change can go a long way in allowing the love that still lives to come forth.Big caveat: this episode is for those in “safe” relationships, not abusive ones. If you are in an abusive relationship here is one resource to get help: National Domestic Violence Hotline.  Support this week’s sponsors:MeUndiesCheck out the brand new MeUndies Kids line today! To get 20% off your first order, plus free shipping, go to MeUndies.com/helpmebeme and enter promo code helpmebeme ChewyChewy is helping take the stress out of the holidays. Take advantage of amazing holiday savings and shop my personal favorites at Chewy.com/podhelpmebeme BetterHelpLet the gratitude flow, with BetterHelp. Visit Betterhelp.com/helpmebeme today to get 10% off your first month.LMNT Get your free LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at DrinkLMNT.com/HelpMeBeMe Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Navigating family dynamics can be tricky, especially during the holidays. The discussion highlights the emotional pull of past triggers and how to stay above old patterns. It emphasizes setting loving boundaries to cope with family interactions. Tools for maintaining a positive mindset are shared, along with insights on avoiding harm to yourself and others. The importance of recognizing projections and not taking on others' pain is a key takeaway, helping listeners approach family gatherings with love and confidence.

“I’m ugly” “I should be better by now” “I’m a terrible mother” “My relevance is over” “I’m old”… Everybody has these thoughts. They are average. What matters is whether or not you engage with the thoughts and follow their tangent. You can quite literally start thinking ANYTHING repeatedly and you will start to see it as true. There is no such thing as true or not true, only what you experience through your own lens. The way the brain works is via comparison. It’s a threat-calculator – a unique and special one trained on our experiences. But it is not “us” in the bigger sense. “We” are the silent watcher, the presence within that witnesses these thoughts. The moment they occur there’s a choice to be made – you can follow the feeling and invest in the script, like you’re an actor in a play, or you can look at them – step back, and resume a state of non-attachment.This is an episode all about escaping from thought prison. Have you seen around thoughts yet? This is the goal in this episode. Find this podcast on YouTube here. Support this week’s sponsors!Nature’s BlendFor a limited time, enjoy up to 54% OFF Nature’s Blend and get a free bag of Cod Crispies, their bestselling wild-caught cod skin treats. Go to drmartypets.com/HELPMEBEME. Every order is backed by a 90-day money-back promise.BetterHelpOvercome your fears, with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/helpmebeme today to get 10% off your first month.LMNTGet your free LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at DrinkLMNT.com/HelpMeBeMe Also try the new LMNT Sparkling — a bold, 16-ounce can of sparkling electrolyte water. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover the dangers of falling for someone’s potential rather than their reality. The conversation dives into recognizing unhealthy attachment patterns and the confusion they create. Gain insights on fostering self-respect and emotional growth while moving away from toxic connections. Learn valuable strategies for identifying what truly matters in relationships and embracing personal development. Shift your focus from self-judgment to self-love and equip yourself with tools for healthier partnerships.

Explore how emotional responses from loved ones can trigger defensiveness and create distance. Learn to break free from harmful patterns and regain clarity by redefining your interactions. Discover the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships and the importance of self-awareness. Find out how grounding techniques can help navigate anxiety and emotions effectively. This discussion also encourages setting clear goals and taking actionable steps toward personal growth for healthier communication.

Guilt is like a gut punch that doesn’t stop. The loss of meaning is like a thick layer of glass in front of your eyes. It’s like a constant reminder that you are not who you aspire to be. Something is not aligned in who you are. There’s also the kind of guilt you feel when you know rationally that you should not feel guilty – like you are betraying a part of yourself that is real and cannot sever an old allegiance. In this episode, I am going to try and open up some air around the source of your guilt. I cover different kinds of guilt – the kind that results from shame over something you did and also the kind that “doesn’t belong to you” (as with severing unhealthy family relationships). My goal with this episode is for you to be able to see it as an external object–or a symptom, and not identify with it, in the hopes that you can move through it despite the intensity of the pain. My goal for you is to create change in your life and to find meaning. The path back to light and joy or at the very least progress– is with change: growth, context, understanding. If you are in the loop of guilt, step back. There is something yet to untangle. Move toward growth and evolution. Support this week’s sponsors! Thesis Take the free, 3-minute quiz to find out what your brain needs. Head to takethesis.com and use code HELPMEBEME to save $60 on your first subscription order when you sign up for Thesis.TrueNutrition For a limited time, our listeners get 15% off your entire order when you use code HELPMEBEME at checkout at Truenutrition.com Hiya We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best-selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. To claim this deal you must go to hiyahealth.com/helpmebeme  Gabb Right now Gabb is offering HUGE discounts on phones and watches to new customers. The best part? There's no contract required! Just go to GABB.com/HELPMEBEME to get started. Terms and conditions apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices