Help Me Be Me

This is a super short episode because it’s aimed at a very specific reflection exercise. It came about because one thing that I have noticed in my One-One-one sessions, is that people repeatedly say the change they want, very clearly, though they often don't hear themselves saying it. The change you want and need to make – in order to be happier– is simple and finite, if we can just hear ourselves. However, often we don’t because we are saying it unconsciously. So this is an episode all about how to make that thing conscious. It's all about discovering what you are yearning for, what you want to change, what condition is making you unhappy, and how to alter that simply. It’s a shorter episode because it’s really simple as an idea – and it really revolves around some specific journal prompts.For more of my work and to make a donation, head to YayWithMe.com ! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a reflection episode all about how to foster originality and grow your sense of selfhood (and self-love). There’s something that happens when people become a mass – there’s a leaning toward sameness. This is a recording in service of inviting you all to lean into the things you think, feel and do, that no one else does. How to stand by yourself. And with that, I believe you will grow a loving friendship with yourself. For more of my work check out YayWithMe.com xo!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sensory reflection on feeling alive and full of wonder. Reflecting on nature's beauty and minimizing distractions. The importance of creativity and connection with the elements. Rediscovering creativity and embracing fun in life. Embracing the present moment and rediscovering the joy of everyday life.

This is an interview I do with longtime friend Lauri Burns, founder of The Teen Project. It’s all about that little voice that guides us from within and how we can strengthen our awareness of it so we can be guided when we need it the most. Warning: this episode has some sad topics in it, including abuse of children. If you need to skip that part you can stop listening right when I ask Lauri to tell a story from her new book.For anyone who wants to donate to The Teen Project:Visit TheTeenProject.comFor the book about Lauri’s life story (cover featuring yours truly) check out: https://amzn.to/3mchiv4For the book from the girls of Vera’s Sanctuary:https://www.yaywithme.com/shop/sanctuary-of-the-heartFor her new book check The Teen Project website in December!What is that little voice that nudges me at the most random times? How does it sound? How can I tap into it more and allow it to guide me? This is for anyone who wants to grow their sense of spirituality, or even just understand that little voice that I am calling “intuition” a bit more. It’s that weird little voice that nudges you to go back and investigate something random and then you find your long lost wedding ring. Or that thought you get of someone you love who is deceased, but then you find an oddly perfect letter from them – that pertains to this moment.To be clear - I am not preaching any God in this episode, I am describing something that could be totally scientifically explained. It’s really about opening up to recognizing that we have these other senses that are very attuned to things that our mind cannot understand. I personally grew up with a bad experience of religion – and nowadays religion is less popular than ever, despite this, I think we life suffers without an awareness of this “muscle” – this sense, in ourselves. And when we get triggered or creeped out by spirituality or the non-explainable, we are deliberately shutting off a part of ourselves that can sense into much “greater” than the known/explained universe. Those nudges of intuition are subtle and often bizarre. The voice cannot be rationalized or explained because it’s smarter than our brain – so that’s where I want to start: don’t try and rationalize your way through this episode. If you trust me at all, be open to entertaining the topics discussed.Also for anyone I trigger with this episode. That is totally fine and I get it. Put this on a shelf and listen to it on a day you feel more playful and curious. Personally, when I was in the thick of my pain and recovery of various types – I wasn’t able to believe in anything lofty. I was screening out anyone who might think anything too lofty. So I relate to you. I will say a lot of that comes from just being in a place where you are struggling to get grounded and even know how you feel – in your body. So that is where your priorities should lie. Sending love your way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is really about when we start to enact the emotions, fears, losses, and wounds of someone in a previous generation – be that a parent, a parent's parents, or maybe a combination of these plus a self from many years ago who went through something really painful and damaging. Regardless, it can make you act out some pretty big feelings that are not truly aligned with the way you live your life in the present. This is how the course of our relationships can be changed for the worse - unless we become aware of these unconscious scripts. SO MUCH of what we feel and enact is not ours. And it can wreak havoc on your closest adult relationships. So if something emotional is coming up for you that feels heightened or it happens to be looping, this may be an episode for you! The book I mention in this episode is here:https://amzn.to/3lyYCVZ To support our sponsors this week, check out Charlotte’s Web CBD and use promo code HELPMEBEME at check out to save 50% on your order (except bulk bundles)! If you want ground beef for the life of your membership, head to ButcherBox.com/HelpMeBeMe and use promo code HELPMEBEME at checkout And if you want some delicious yummy cereal that is actually good for you, check out MagicSpoon.com/HelpMeBeMee and use promo code HELPMEBEME Xox Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For those in the throes of an obsession with an addict or high on your codependency – maybe you’re in love with someone and they start using or you discover they have an addiction, be that drugs, sex, alcohol. And they have continued to use despite you telling them you need them to stop.If you are in the midst of a relationship that suddenly turned crazy due to one partner resuming an addiction, this can lead to you feeling crazy, yourself. This is to listen to in the moment this occurs – especially if you feel like you are losing yourself and your sanity.Major caveat: This is for if you have an adult in your life who is using – not if you are a parent with a child who is using. Things are complicated when you have a child because you are responsible for caring for them and they are not adults yet capable of caring for themselves. I would not give you the same advice.I know it’s tough when you are in an area where there is no access to good 12-step meetings – so if you don’t have any friends, family, or concrete resources like a good therapist with experience in addiction or a good meeting like COSA, Alanon or SLA, then this is for you. Because I listed this in the episode and they are one of my sponsors – please check out: BetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe for online access to therapists!To support our sponsors this week check out:Want to grow your skills as a designer and maker? Get 50% off your first month plus FREE shipping with code HELPMEBEME at KiwiCo.comFlexFits.com/HELPMEBEME and use code HELPMEBEME for 20% off Flex DiscStarter Kits—or 10% off your first Flex Cup—PLUS free U.S. shipping!HelloFresh.com/HelpMeBeMe and use code helpmebeme14 for up to 14 free meals, including free shipping!SarahFlint.com/HelpMeBeMe for $50 off a gorgeous Italian-made pair of shoes. The two books I mention in this episode are here for the daily reflection book:https://amzn.to/3CWwke8 And here for the audiobook:https://amzn.to/2Y2uklu And hang in there. I know this part is really not fun. Xoxo. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode explores the challenges of setting boundaries with toxic family members or in toxic relationships. It offers advice on managing emotional overwhelm and protecting oneself. The importance of setting boundaries with narcissistic individuals is discussed, along with strategies for disengaging from toxic conversations. Overall, it emphasizes the significance of setting boundaries for self-care and healthy relationships.

This is for anyone who wants to quit something but is terrified of trying again – or feels hopeless about it. Or overwhelmed. Maybe you’ve already proven to yourself that you don’t like life without this thing enough to stay off of it. Or you are too disheartened to try again.I would bet that although you still do it, you hate this thing so much. You hate that it causes you so much sadness and lost time. And lost self-esteem. And you wish more than anything that you could just press a button and this thing would be gone from your life. That you didn’t have to struggle with this problem. A problem that stays between you and others. That keeps you from love or health or confidence. Of really feeling you can invest in your life being long and happy.I know that feeling well. It’s like living as a dead person – you are always aware of this dark shadow that is – that thing. The deadly addiction. And you want to turn off your ears and mind to it because it really feels like “I have no other option – so why would I listen?”But what you can’t see from here is that change is possible when you have the right logic. Change is totally possible when you have the understanding that allows you to truly let go of this problem. I’ll talk a lot about my particular addictions in this episode. And here are the books that I mention – PLEASE READ ONE!!!For smokers:https://amzn.to/3mVEM8NFor vapers:https://amzn.to/3kEK5q9For over-drinkers (but I think it will apply to drugs, too):https://amzn.to/3mP65RXAnother for more severe drinkers:https://amzn.to/3kKvLMQHaven’t read this but it’s using his principles, about emotional eating:https://amzn.to/3BoYehYThis episode is dedicated to my aunt Margaret. I love you. And I will miss you forever. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is an episode about good boundaries: how to set them as well as WHY to set them. You can think about having one loose boundary as having a leak in a boat: if there’s one hole (aka I have a bad boundary when it comes to dating – I can’t walk away when they don’t follow through) this means your whole sense of self is perpetually sinking. It resets the baseline for your entire life. You will be compromised in your self-respect, your worth, your self-love. It affects everything about your life. I created this episode because a lot of us don’t know what the hell a boundary is – and also why they directly translate into whether or not you like yourself and love yourself. This is a HUGE CORNERSTONE piece of confidence, happiness, lack of fear, lack of jealousy and the ability to actualize personal growth. If you change this ONE HABIT and begin to set firm boundaries, I kid you not it will change everything about your life for the better. It’s AMAZING in what it affects. IMO, it’s the most freeing and powerful thing you can do. So with that – here is the show! 3 parts – what why and how the tools. To check out my Patreon page including some exclusive content head to Patreon.com/SarahMayBTo support our sponsors this week – and this show check out:ButcherBox wants you to enjoy the rest of summer with this special deal! ButcherBox is giving our listeners a special offer of 3lbs of chicken breast, 2lb of burgers, and one pack of hot dogs for FREE! Right now, new members can get this special deal when they sign up at ButcherBox.com/ HELPMEBEMEAnd try out PayPal at your local CVS! To get $10 cash back on your first transaction of $20 or more, just head to your local CVS and pay using your PayPal or Venmo app. That’s $10 cash back on your first purchase of $20 or more with the PayPal or Venmo app. To see terms and learn more about how to earn $10 cashback, go to Paypal.com/HELPMEBEME Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We have experiences that imprint the physical responses we have to stressors in our life – big or small. So if you are feeling a sense of inner chaos and overwhelm, or you are feeling like you cannot handle all that is happening in your life, this is likely at least in part related to your physiological wiring. Meaning the experiences that impacted you the most from your upbringing. Maybe you get that feeling of panic or you have been feeling an overwhelming sense of hopelessness that causes you to procrastinate. Yes, stress has a lot to do with our literal life circumstances, but what we bring to those circumstances is also a huge piece of the puzzle.So if you are feeling a sense of “I can’t handle it” – or you have been snapping a lot lately, or you’ve been feeling numb – or very irritable, or perhaps very controlling and like a motor that is slowly running into the ground– this is an episode for you. I cover a lot of ways to lighten your load and come back to a place of resource. There are three parts to this episode – the what why and how the tools.If you’re looking into having kids and you’d like to support our latest sponsor, check out Modern Fertility! It’s the easy and affordable way to test your fertility hormones at home with a simple finger prick. Mail it in with a prepaid label, and you’ll get your personalized results within 10 days. Right now, Modern Fertility is offering our listeners $20 off the test when you go to www.ModernFertility.com/HelpMe xoxo! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices