Paul Brunson, a renowned relationship expert and host of "Married At First Sight", shares his deep insights into love and connection. He emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance as a foundation for genuine relationships. Paul discusses how our early family dynamics shape perceptions of love and the critical role of effective communication in navigating conflicts. He also explores the complexities of attraction in modern dating, advocating for understanding individual values over mere compatibility. His warmth and wisdom make for an enlightening discussion on finding and maintaining real love.
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Childhood Experience
Paul Brunson grew up as the first black family in a Long Island neighborhood.
He was treated as an outsider and was frequently bullied for his race.
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Investment Banking Disillusionment
Paul Brunson's investment banking boss prioritized work over his wife's childbirth.
This made Brunson realize the unhealthy work culture and prompted him to seek a career change.
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Matchmaking Passion
Matchmaking resonated with Paul Brunson because clients often feel hopeless.
He realized their deepest pain point and focused on serving a specific demographic, particularly black women.
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Paul Brunson is the host of Married At First Sight, and a world-renowned expert on relationships and human connection. Paul spent many years wondering how to get people to love and accept each other, before realising he had to get them to love and accept themselves. In the conversation Paul really unlocks that it’s connection to each other’s values that makes a last relationship. To be at peace with other peoples values, you have to have your own figured out first. One of the most illuminating, original and surprising experts on relationships who’s ever shared his wisdom with us, Paul is just one of a number of world-leading black thought leaders and celebrities were sharing with you this Black History Month.
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