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#920 - John Delony - Why Do We Date People That Need Fixing?

Mar 27, 2025
Join John Delony, a mental health expert, author, and dynamic speaker, as he delves into the complexities of relationships. Discover why many feel compelled to 'fix' their partners and the challenges of walking away from unfulfilling connections. He offers insights into self-worth, emotional presence, and practical advice for navigating breakups. Delony emphasizes the importance of self-love for healthier relationships and explores how childhood experiences shape our romantic dynamics. Tune in for a mix of wisdom and engaging anecdotes!
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  • Compassionate communication is vital in relationships, balancing firmness with gentleness fosters better understanding and support.
  • Many people seek to 'fix' others in dating due to their own unmet needs, leading to dissatisfaction and inner conflict.

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The Importance of Compassionate Communication

The podcast emphasizes the significance of compassionate and empathetic communication, especially in difficult situations. Dr. John Deloney highlights the need for a balanced approach when discussing mental health and relationships; being firm but gentle allows for better reception and understanding. He stresses that many advice-givers possess theoretical knowledge but lack genuine experience in supporting those in distress. This lack of true understanding often leads to inadequate responses, underscoring the value of having patience and compassion in conversations.

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