Finding Mastery with Dr. Michael Gervais How to Build (and Repair) Love: The Gottmans on What Every Couple Should Know
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Dec 31, 2025 
In this enlightening conversation, John and Julie Gottman, pioneers in relationship research, share their insights from decades of studying love. They discuss how daily rituals can deepen intimacy and the importance of turning conflict into connection. The Gottmans highlight the Four Horsemen that predict relationship breakdowns and propose actionable steps to foster communication without defensiveness. They emphasize the power of small bids for connection and the role of quick repairs in maintaining a healthy partnership.
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Relationships Often Come With Comorbid Problems
- Many couples arrive in therapy with comorbid problems like addiction or depression that complicate relationship work.
- Julie Gottman stresses these external issues make treatment more challenging but still addressable with skills.
We Weren't Taught How To Love
- Most people never learned relationship skills because they didn't take 'Relationships 101' or see healthy role models growing up.
- Julie Gottman says learning simple skills can make intimacy and problem-solving far easier.
Try A One-Week Relationship Prescription
- Try a simple, time-limited 'prescription' of focused behaviors for a week to jumpstart relationship change.
- John Gottman says small, consistent practices can quickly transform intimacy.