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373. Most Habit Change Advice is Wrong - Inconsistency Is the Key to Success

Dec 19, 2024

Struggling with habit formation? The key might be embracing inconsistency instead of striving for perfection. This fresh perspective challenges the conventional wisdom that rigid routines are essential for success. Discover how letting go of the all-or-nothing mentality can lead to sustainable progress, even if it's messy. Plus, learn the vital role community support plays in personal growth, offering resources and collective learning to help you achieve your goals.

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Embracing inconsistency can foster the development of sustainable habits, allowing individuals to progress without the burden of perfectionism.

Shifting from a black-and-white mindset to one that values every small effort promotes self-compassion and encourages continuous engagement in habits.

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The Myth of Consistent Habit Formation

Many people believe that establishing new habits requires perfect consistency from the start, often focusing on arbitrary timeframes that dictate the necessary duration before a habit becomes automatic. This mindset can lead to a perfectionistic approach where any minor setback causes individuals to abandon their efforts to change behaviors, convincing themselves that they need to start from scratch. For example, someone trying to incorporate exercise into their routine may feel defeated if they miss a workout and consequently decide they've failed and should just wait for a fresh start. Recognizing that this black-and-white thinking contributes to a cycle of guilt and abandonment can help individuals to shift towards a more flexible mindset.

Embracing Inconsistency for Lasting Habit Change

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Unlocking Personal Growth Through Community Support

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Do you feel like new habits just don’t stick? Like no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to get it “right” from the start? Here’s the thing: you’ve probably been taught that perfect consistency is the only way to make habits work—but that’s total BS. What if the real key is actually embracing inconsistency?

In this episode, I’m flipping the script on conventional habit advice. I’ll show you why perfectionism is sabotaging your progress and how letting go of the need to get it “perfect” can actually help you build habits that stick. Tune in to learn practical strategies for embracing imperfection, ditching all-or-nothing thinking, and making real, sustainable progress—no matter how messy it looks along the way.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/373

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