We Can Do Hard Things 18. “BEAUTY”: How did we get trapped in this cage, and how do we break free?
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Aug 17, 2021 The discussion unveils how societal beauty standards trap individuals, especially women, in a cycle of self-doubt. It questions why women's worth is often tied to their appearance while exploring the liberating notion of reclaiming beauty as empowerment. The paradox of beauty and success is examined, revealing the pressures of conforming to unrealistic ideals. Listeners are encouraged to embrace self-acceptance and redefine beauty beyond superficial notions, ultimately celebrating the essence of personal beauty within.
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Childhood Cuteness and Adolescent Pain
- Glennon Doyle shares how she learned early on that cuteness earned her praise and approval.
- Adolescence was painful as she lost her perceived adorableness and felt the world look away.
The Danger of Conditional Worth
- If you learn that your value comes from your appearance as a child and then lose it, it can be destabilizing.
- It creates a sense of being worth less than before.
Compliments as Veiled Threats
- Compliments on appearance can be veiled threats.
- They imply a fear of losing that praised attribute and the subsequent withdrawal of approval.