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Our life is shaped by the stories we tell ourselves, which can either limit us or empower us. The speaker highlights the importance of understanding the narrative we live by and how it impacts our perception of the world and ourselves. He discusses the connection between traumatic events and physical health, emphasizing the need to address both the narrative and the impact on the body. By recognizing the stories we are born into and the stories we tell ourselves, we can shape our life experiences and discover true potential.
The speaker delves into the profound influence of stories on our identities and perceptions. He suggests that stories stored in our bodies and minds shape our personalities, goals, and assumptions about the world. These stories, if unresolved, can result in heightened anxiety, burnout, and impacts on physical health. However, through self-reflection and understanding the narrative we live by, we can reconfigure our life and reduce the impact of past traumas. The speaker emphasizes the importance of understanding and owning our past to shape a better future.
Building strong relationships requires open communication and a shared vision. The speaker emphasizes the importance of discussing needs and wants, especially in intimate relationships. By developing a joint vision and negotiating in micro-domains, couples can overcome challenges and nurture their relationship. The speaker highlights the significance of courageous conversations in addressing issues, such as lack of intimacy, and proposes strategies like scheduling time for connection and discussing desires and needs openly. Building a shared vision and aligning pictures of the future can lead to a more fulfilling and joyous life.
Many individuals struggle to articulate their wants and needs. The podcast highlights societal factors, such as blame culture and lack of shared vision, that contribute to this difficulty. The speaker emphasizes the importance of asking the question, 'What do you want?' and explores the challenge of answering it honestly. By identifying micro-goals and negotiating with partners, individuals can overcome the fear of vulnerability and deepen their intimate connections. The speaker encourages exploring personal desires beyond negative emotions and practicing clarity and vulnerability in expressing wants and needs.
Managing expectations and understanding the emotional impact of certain events is crucial. The speaker shares a personal experience of feeling disappointed after a court case, realizing that justice does not always bring the expected emotions. It is important to navigate these emotions and be aware that achieving certain goals does not guarantee happiness or fulfillment.
Positive emotions indicate progress towards valued goals, rather than being the goal in itself. Achieving a specific goal can lead to a sense of accomplishment, but it also eliminates the drive and motivation that comes with pursuing the goal. It is essential to choose meaningful goals that align with personal values and offer a sense of continuous growth and progress.
Developing a shared vision within a relationship or any area of life helps in attaining a higher order goal. It is crucial to define success beyond concrete achievements and focus on an approach or identity that allows for continuous growth and adaptation. This involves being open to reevaluating goals and having the courage to acknowledge when a desired outcome no longer aligns with personal values or aspirations.
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Dr. Jordan B. Peterson and Dr. John Delony discuss the destitution of loneliness, the salvation in connection, how to strengthen ties through listening, and why you should stop ignoring your flaws.
Dr. John Delony is a bestselling author, mental health expert, and host of The Dr. John Delony Show. This caller-driven show offers real people a chance to be heard as they struggle with relationship issues and mental health challenges. John gives practical advice on how to connect with people, how to take the next right step, and how to cut through the depression and anxiety that can feel so overwhelming. Delony has two PhDs and over two decades of experience in counseling, crisis response, and higher education. In 2020 Delony joined Ramsey Solutions, a powerhouse multi-media company that brings together top minds in topics such as finance, real estate, mental health, and overall well being. Through their platform they produce shows, lectures, events, documentaries, books, and more.
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— Chapters —
(0:00) Coming Up
(1:19) Intro
(2:10) Story and the body
(6:47) Memory, a flawed canon
(10:04) Detailing anxiety
(11:59) Loneliness
(15:00) Sanity is distributed
(17:16) The need for friendship
(21:10) Ben Franklin, favors
(23:10) The Corner Store technique
(25:29) Teaching generosity
(28:35) Your life is what you repeat, focus on that
(30:41) Rebuilding a marriage
(37:09) Having a daily shared image
(45:05) Sex in marriage
(50:00) What do you actually want?
(55:08) Why you don’t know
(1:00:49) High ordered goals
(1:06:00) The greatest lost skill
(1:07:11) The difference between listening and looking to solve a problem
(1:16:10) Practical skills for listening
(1:20:33) Categorizing the problems in your world
(1:24:50) Seeking out your vulnerabilities
(1:27:48) the importance of confession
(1:31:40) Why labels are lackluster
(1:34:42) The small scale scales exponentially
(1:36:30) How we spread the movement
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