The Liz Moody Podcast Porn Is Just A Symptom—The REAL Relationship & Dating Crisis (And Where We Go From Here)
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Sep 17, 2025 
Dr. Alok Kanojia, a Harvard-trained psychiatrist and founder of Healthy Gamer, dives into the modern dating crisis, linking it to the rise of porn addiction. He discusses its unexpected impact on relationships and erectile dysfunction in younger men. The conversation emphasizes emotional regulation and practical strategies like 'urge surfing' to combat addiction. Alok highlights the importance of personal agency, resilience, and connection in today's disjointed dating landscape. This insightful dialogue merges neuroscience and psychology, offering solutions for navigating relationships in a digital age.
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Porn’s Role In Rising Erectile Dysfunction
- Porn is reshaping male sexual health and links to rising erectile dysfunction in young men.
- Dr. Alok Kanojia connects algorithmic porn exposure to misaligned sexual expectations and function.
Algorithms Create Supranormal Sexual Stimuli
- Algorithmic platforms amplify natural sexual reward signals into more extreme stimuli.
- Healthy Gamer calls this a supranormal stimulus that requires progressively larger hits to stay aroused.
Porn As Emotional Self-Medication
- Many people use porn primarily to regulate negative emotions rather than for sex.
- Men especially may rely on porn to shut off emotional circuitry instead of learning regulation skills.
