The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

EP 176: Feel Better, Even If Nothing Changes

Apr 30, 2024

Can you feel better even if nothing changes around you? The discussion delves into shifting out of chronic protection mode, leading to improved emotional well-being. Discover the concept of three 'buckets of safety' and how connection can enhance resilience amidst chaos. Listeners learn to appreciate small moments of joy, like a beautiful spring day, which can foster a sense of safety. Insights into neuroscience reveal how co-regulation plays a vital role in managing stress, even when circumstances remain challenging.

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Intro

00:00 • 5min

Navigating Protection Mode: Finding Safety in Turbulent Times

05:29 • 8min

Finding Safety and Connection Through Everyday Moments

13:11 • 27min

Is it possible to feel better even if your child’s behavior doesn’t change?

Even if the stress doesn’t change?

Theoretically, yes.

Your chronic watchdog or possum state means you are in chronic protection mode. Is it possible to shift out of protection mode before the chaos in your life changes?

That’s exactly what we address in today’s episode!

In this episode, you’ll learn

The two different paths you can take to feel better (come out of protection mode) even if the chaos in your life never changes
The neuroscience behind how connection and co-regulation (for you!) becomes twice as important for your ability to stay more regulated even when things are really hard
Resources to help you feel better (shift out of protection) that you can do by yourself, as well as resources that are based in connection and co-regulation

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