ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show 801: IT'S TAKING TOO LONG TO ORGASM
Apr 2, 2024
Women often feel pressured by unrealistic expectations about orgasms. The hosts explore how cultural influences from media distort these timelines. They discuss practical steps like prioritizing foreplay and open communication to enhance intimacy. Savoring the journey over the destination is highlighted as essential. The conversation also encourages couples to normalize discussions around performance anxiety. Additionally, they recommend enlightening reads on anatomy to foster better understanding and connection in relationships.
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Origins Of Timing Expectations
- Many women feel guilty about taking longer to orgasm because they compare themselves to distorted norms from movies and porn.
- Tony and Alisa urge couples to question where their timing expectations come from and reframe them with realistic anatomy and experience.
Learn Anatomy To Reset Expectations
- Read accurate anatomy and sexuality books like The Vagina Bible, The Penis Book, Come As You Are, and She Comes First to understand bodies and arousal.
- Use that knowledge to stop blaming yourself and to design sexual experiences that fit both partners' physiology.
Typical Stimulation Durations
- Physiologically, women on average need about 15–20 minutes of constant stimulation to orgasm, while men average 5–7 minutes.
- Media and porn compress and distort that reality, creating unfair comparisons and pressure.
