This book provides a comprehensive approach to dealing with narcissistic personality disorder, using schema therapy and interpersonal neurobiology. It offers strategies for understanding and communicating effectively with narcissists, setting limits, and gaining respect and validation. The third edition includes new information on shame, hypersexuality, infidelity, legal aspects of divorcing a narcissist, and the impact of narcissism on children. The book is designed to help readers separate themselves from narcissistic traps and navigate difficult interactions.
In "You Are the One You've Been Waiting For," Richard Schwartz applies the principles of Internal Family Systems (IFS) to the complexities of intimate relationships. He explores how unresolved inner conflicts and unmet needs from childhood can manifest in relationship patterns. The book emphasizes self-compassion and self-leadership as crucial for creating healthy connections. Schwartz provides practical tools and techniques for understanding and healing relational wounds, fostering deeper intimacy and connection. It offers a transformative approach to understanding and improving relationships.
This book is a detailed account of Paramahansa Yogananda's life, from his childhood in India to his spiritual quest and eventual establishment of the Self-Realization Fellowship in the United States. It includes his encounters with various spiritual figures, his experiences with Kriya Yoga, and his mission to spread the teachings of yoga and meditation to the Western world. The book also delves into the prophesied writing of his autobiography and its significance in spreading the message of yoga globally[1][2][5].
On today's episode I chat with Susan Stiffelman, a licensed marriage and family therapist, author, parenting coach, and host of the Parenting Without Power Struggles podcast. We talk about parts, of course. Parenting parts. Spiritual seeker parts. Inner children who hide behind locked doors. And how she gently helps people return to center.
Susan shares stories from her work and from her own life, including how she stayed connected to herself (and her child) during a divorce, and why she believes parenting is one of life's most profound trailheads.
Key takeaways from this episode:
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What happens when we parent from our “hijacked” parts
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The power of staying tethered to ourselves, even when our kids are dysregulated
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How to move out of the “fixer” role and into the calm anchor our kids need
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What’s underneath those big reactions?
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Why she says: “We are a society of disembodied people”
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What parts of you get activated when your child is dysregulated or distressed?
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Can you be curious about the fear underneath your frustration?
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What would it mean to “sit in the fire” without jumping in to fix it?
Susan welcomed me on
her podcast recently to talk all things parenting + IFS, which I hope you'll check out as well. Register for our live
Self-Led Parenting Masterclass happening May 1, 2025 (replay available)
Favorite quote:
“This isn’t about parenting, it’s about the journey of coming home to our true nature.” -- Susan Stiffelman
About Susan Stiffelman
Susan Stiffelman is a licensed Marriage, Family, and Child Therapist and the author of Parenting Without Power Strugglesand Parenting With Presence (an Eckhart Tolle Edition). She helps parents become the calm, confident “Captain of the ship”. Susan hosts a popular podcast with over 1.5 million downloads and offers online classes and memberships with guest experts like Dan Siegel, Byron Katie, and Gabor Maté.
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