In this episode, social psychologist and contemplative researcher Paul Condon discusses his work integrating Buddhism and psychology, measuring compassion in the real world, meditation's effects on prosocial behavior, understanding attachment styles, and the limitations of viewing meditation as self-help. He emphasizes the relational starting point of meditation, the power of mental simulation, and how these practices can offer in our current moment as a society.
Relational practice fosters care and compassion within social connections.
Attachment theory shapes how we interact with others during meditation.
Meditation can increase empathy, altruism, and attention to others' suffering, while reducing aggression.
Deep dives
Relational practice and the importance of connection
Relational practice involves experiencing warmth and care within a social ecology of connection. Attachment theory and other psychological perspectives highlight the importance of social connection for our well-being.
Meditation through the lens of attachment theory
Paul Konden, a social psychologist and contemplative researcher, integrates psychological theory with the Buddhist contemplative tradition. He explores meditation through the concept of attachment theory, which suggests that early relationships shape how we interact with others.
Relational meditation practice to develop care and compassion
Specific kinds of meditation practice, referred to as relational practice, can help develop our natural capacities for care and compassion and foster a shift in attachment patterns. These practices focus on specific beneficiaries or benefactor experiences to evoke feelings of care and warmth.
Measuring compassionate and prosocial behavior through meditation
Paul Konden has conducted research on compassion and prosocial behavior. Meditation has been shown to increase empathy, altruism, and compassion for those in distress. It can also reduce aggression and increase attention to others' suffering.
The importance of a relational mindset in meditation
The standard individualistic framework in Western societies often overlooks the relational aspect of meditation. By adopting a relational mindset, we can cultivate a sense of care and connection, accessing our own inner resources for happiness and well-being that can also support our engagement with the world.
In this episode, Wendy speaks with social psychologist and contemplative researcher Paul Condon. Paul's work integrates psychological theory with the Buddhist contemplative tradition, looking at meditation through the lens of attachment theory. This conversation covers many topics, including:
his long interest in the intersection between Buddhism and psychology;
measuring compassion in the real world;
meditation's effects on prosocial behavior and relating to suffering;
barriers to compassion;
the relevance of vulnerability and safety to compassion;
understanding secure and insecure attachment;
shifting our attachment style:
how contemplative practice can help develop our secure base;
security as adaptability;
limitations of viewing meditation as self-help and individual effort;
the relational starting point of meditation;
open vs. closed secular contexts;
identifying a caring moment or benefactor;
the power of mental simulation;
changes he's noticed from practice;
and what these practices can offer in our current moment as a society.