Hinge expert shares dating advice for ambitious nerds

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May 21, 2025

Logan Ury, the Director of Relationship Science at Hinge and author of 'How Not to Die Alone,' shares her expertise on navigating today's dating landscape. She discusses how the digital age affects romantic connections and offers tips on creating appealing online profiles. Logan explains the 'secretary problem' and how it can hinder relationship-building. The conversation also touches on the importance of weak ties and emotional intelligence in dating, along with the potential impact of AI partners on future relationships.

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The Secretary Problem in Dating

Maximizers tend to oversearch for the perfect partner, leading to diminishing returns.
The secretary problem advises stopping the search after 37% of potential options to maximize choice quality.

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Satisficers Often Happier Than Maximizers

Satisficers who accept good enough options tend to be happier than maximizers.
Maximizers spend more time searching and second-guess their decisions in dating.

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Optimize Dating Profile Photos

Use clear, high-quality photos showing your face without filters for dating profiles.
Include a photo with friends to show social life and one showing an activity you enjoy.

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