Thais Gibson, a counselor, author, and attachment theory expert, dives into the fascinating world of limerence—the intense infatuation often mistaken for love. She unpacks key signs of limerence and its three stages: infatuation, emotional addiction, and eventual dissipation. Thais discusses how past emotional needs can trigger limerence and the risk of crossing boundaries in relationships. She also offers insights on conscious dating, suggesting that understanding one's attachment style is crucial for forming healthier connections.
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Embarrassing Date Leads to Kindness
Thais shared an embarrassing story of wetting her pants on a ninth-grade date due to people-pleasing and not wanting to be rude.
Despite the mishap, the boy was kind and became her boyfriend for a year, showing empathy and kindness.
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What is Limerence?
Limerence is an addictive, obsessive infatuation with highs and crushing lows triggered by unmet emotional needs.
It involves idealizing someone, filtering out red flags, and fear of rejection fueling intrusive thoughts and emotional instability.
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Unmet Needs Fuel Limerence
Limerence often triggers when someone meets deeply unmet needs like feeling seen or important.
Meeting those needs in a current relationship can dissolve limerence and improve that relationship.
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It’s the buzzword of the internet at the moment - LIMERENCE! But what is it? Where is the line between lust and limerence? How can we spot the difference between limerence and love? Joining the podcast today is Thais Gibson. Thais is a counselor, author, podcaster and co-founder of The Personal Development School. She has a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities ranging from cognitive behavioural therapy to neuro linguistic programing. Thais is also a leading expert in attachment theory.
We unpack:
The key signs of limerence & what triggers infatuation
How you can fall into limerence with someone outside of your relationship
If we can’t get our needs met in the present, we get them met by fantasies of the future or memories of the past
Pedestals, people pleasing and maladaptive behaviours caused by limerent relationships
The 3 stages of limerence; infatuation, emotional addiction and dissipation phase
Navigating different power stages with a partner
Which attachment styles suffer from limerence the most
What to do if you find yourself the object of someone else’s limerence
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