DANIEL HARKAVY: Coaching Yourself Toward Flourishing

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Dec 4, 2024

Daniel Harkavy, CEO of Building Champions and a leadership author, shares insights on self-leadership and personal flourishing. He emphasizes the importance of establishing boundaries and crafting a life plan to succeed at work and home. Harkavy discusses how effective leadership stems from personal contentment rather than competition, highlighting the value of external perspectives. His transformative coaching tactics advocate for accountability and relationship-building, reinforcing the idea that personal growth is key to organizational success.

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ADVICE

Setting Boundaries

Set boundaries between work and personal life to avoid burnout.
Hold yourself accountable, potentially by involving someone you trust to check in on your progress.

INSIGHT

Balanced Leadership

Being well-balanced improves leadership effectiveness.
People judge you based on how you present yourself, not just your work.

INSIGHT

Contentment vs. Competition

Constant exposure to others' successes can hinder contentment.
Focus on your own path and avoid comparing yourself to others.

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Living Forward

A Proven Plan to Stop Drifting and Get the Life You Want

Michael Hyatt

Daniel Harkavy

In this book, Michael Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy provide a step-by-step guide for creating a 'Life Plan' that helps readers stop drifting through life and instead live with intention and purpose. The authors share proven principles to help readers design a life with the end in mind, determine desired outcomes, and chart a path to achieve them in every area of life. The book addresses the tendency to drift and offers tools and resources to create clarity, courage, and commitment in living a meaningful life[1][2][5].

The Coaching Habit

Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever

Michael Bungay Stanier

In 'The Coaching Habit,' Michael Bungay Stanier provides a straightforward and effective approach to coaching. Drawing on his extensive experience training managers worldwide, he introduces seven essential coaching questions designed to help managers unlock their team's potential. These questions include the Kickstart Question, the AWE Question, the Lazy Question, the Strategic Question, the Focus Question, the Foundation Question, and the Learning Question. The book emphasizes the importance of saying less and asking more, fostering a collaborative and empowering work environment. It combines practical advice with research in neuroscience and behavioral economics, making coaching a daily, informal part of managerial work rather than a formal event.

Becoming a coaching leader

Daniel Harkavy

The 7 Perspectives of Effective Leaders

A Proven Framework for Improving Decisions and Increasing Your Influence

Daniel Harkavy

The Advice Trap

Michael Bungay Stanier

In 'The Advice Trap', Michael Bungay Stanier builds on the principles of his previous book, 'The Coaching Habit', to help leaders and consultants avoid the pitfalls of premature and unsolicited advice-giving. The book emphasizes the importance of taming the 'Advice Monster' within, which is driven by the beliefs that one must have the answer, be responsible for everything, and stay in control. By staying curious longer and rushing into advice-giving more slowly, leaders can foster a more engaged team, promote organizational change, and create a curiosity-driven company culture. The book provides practical tools and strategies for effective coaching, including the use of probing questions, mindfulness, and humility[2][4][5].

In this episode of The Double Win Show, Michael Hyatt and Megan Hyatt Miller sit down with Daniel Harkavy, CEO of Building Champions and author of The 7 Perspectives of Effective Leaders. Daniel shares practical strategies for thriving as a leader by first thriving as a person. From setting boundaries to crafting a life plan, his advice will help you create lasting success at work and at home.

Memorable Quotes

“[Being well-balanced] elevates leadership efficacy because people are making conscious and subconscious decisions about who you are as a person by what they see, what they observe, how you speak, how you feel.”
“It’s very difficult to find a place of contentment if you’re playing the competition game.”
“I’m not being driven out of a place of scarcity. I’m being driven out of a place of opportunity and out of a burden to help and an opportunity to make a difference.”
“Self-leadership always precedes team effectiveness and team effectiveness always precedes organizational impact.”
“Management meetings are a lot of telling. Coaching sessions are a lot of asking.”
“I think that is what really needs to be at the heart of a coaching leader: It’s not that you are just comfortable with your people being better than you are. You actually desire it.”
“A leader’s effectiveness is determined by just two things: The decisions they make and the influence they have.”
“My morning routine is my vacation every day. I get a vacation first thing in the morning. I don’t have to wake up early. I get to.”

Key Takeaways

Self-Leadership First: Your effectiveness as a leader begins with how well you lead yourself. This includes setting boundaries and prioritizing personal well-being.
Boundaries Enable Freedom: Setting clear boundaries helps leaders avoid burnout and stay fully present in their personal and professional lives.
The Power of a Life Plan: Taking time to define what matters most reduces regret and ensures intentional investment in all areas of life.
Coaching Leadership: Great leaders empower their teams by asking questions, fostering growth, and prioritizing curiosity over control.
Contentment vs. Complacency: Strive for excellence from a place of abundance, not scarcity, by cultivating gratitude and staying grounded in what matters.

Resources

Becoming a Coaching Leader by Daniel Harkavy
The 7 Perspectives of Effective Leaders by Daniel Harkavy
Living Forward by Michael Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy
Learn More About Building Champions: buildingchampions.com
- Facebook: www.facebook.com/buildingchampions
- LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/building-champions
- Instagram: www.instagram.com/buildingchamps
- Performance Coaching: www.buildingchampions.com/performance-coaching

Executive Retreats: www.buildingchampions.com/executive-retreats

Watch on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/obYSZ1sTGP8

This episode was produced by Sarah Vorhees Wendel of VW Sound