10% Happier with Dan Harris Why Men Armor Up | Daniel Ellenberg
Jun 30, 2021
Daniel Ellenberg, a seasoned psychotherapist and president of the American Psychological Association's Division 51, dives into the intricacies of masculinity. He discusses how traditional masculinity ideology hinders men's emotional bonds and contributes to health disparities. Ellenberg emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and vulnerability in fostering deeper connections. He shares insights on parenting, overcoming societal pressures, and redefining masculinity to encourage emotional growth and healthier relationships among men.
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Early Influences
- Daniel Ellenberg lost his father at 10 and lacked a male role model.
- He noticed other men rarely discussed their inner worlds, prompting his interest in male psychology.
Band vs. Football
- In eighth grade, Ellenberg chose band over football, defying expectations.
- A star athlete called him a derogatory term, highlighting how men are controlled through emasculation.
Obstacles to Male Intimacy
- Competition, often fueled by a need to dominate, hinders male intimacy.
- Homophobia and fear of physical violence also prevent men from forming close bonds.
