76: Tools For A Happy Relationship

Jan 5, 2017

Tripp Lanier, host of The New Man Podcast and relationship self-help expert, shares his insights on strengthening partnerships. He discusses actionable tools for a vibrant relationship, emphasizing communication and teamwork. Tripp dives into navigating expectations versus reality and the importance of personal responsibility. He and Alyson Lanier elaborate on creating emotional connections and fostering independence. Their engaging conversation emphasizes kindness and respect as foundations for lasting love.

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Intro

00:00 • 5min

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Support and Introduction: Enhancing Relationship Skills

05:07 • 2min

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The Power of Relationships

06:38 • 12min

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Effective Communication in Parenting

18:56 • 9min

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Navigating Relationship Dynamics

28:17 • 15min

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Investing in Relationship Tools and Friendship

43:35 • 2min

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Choosing Each Other Daily

45:23 • 4min

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Connecting and Resources: Final Thoughts

49:04 • 3min

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In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

The top actionable tools for a happy relationship.
Understanding the unique ways to connect with your partner.
Valuable communication breakdown tools.
Getting on the same relationship team.
Dealing with when your expectations don't meet reality.
Taking responsibility for yourself in the relationship.
And much more!

Tripp and Alyson Lanier have both made it their mission to help individuals improve their relationships and lives. Tripp is the host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp which has been listened to millions of times by men all around the world and is an iTunes top 10 podcast in the Self Help category.

Alyson has spent the last 20 years training and educating herself in the psychology of attachment and relationships. She is a counselor, mentor, teacher, coach, old world midwife and mother. Her training and perspective helps men and women get out of their own way and create the amazing relationships, families and sex lives they truly want.

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