In this episode we sit down with licensed therapists and our incoming Relationship Advice hosts Colter, Cayla, and Lauren to talk about the "protective moves," or behaviors people exhibit during conflict to shield themselves emotionally or regain a sense of control in relationships. These 3 are experienced therapists specializing in attachment, trauma, and anxiety, explore how these moves—like defensiveness, criticism, passive aggressiveness, avoidance, or over explaining—are common yet often disconnecting strategies.Key Points Include: Understanding Protective Moves Examples and Intentions Origins and Patterns Moving Through Conflict Building Resources The hosts emphasized that while protective moves are natural, fostering awareness and understanding can transform them from barriers to bridges in relationships. They closed by advocating for patience, self-compassion, and communication to navigate these dynamics effectively.Sponsors:Quince, this holiday season, give the gift of luxury without the luxury price tag with Quince. Enjoy free shipping on your order and hassle-free 365-day returns at QUINCE.COM/IDO.Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Diego Perez, known as Yung Pueblo, is an inspiring author dedicated to self-healing and personal growth. In this engaging discussion, he shares insights on the importance of self-awareness in relationships. Diego explains how to foster emotional depth and navigate conversations without rigid attachments to one's views. He also delves into his writing process and how creativity intersects with relationships. Listeners will gain tools for regulating their nervous systems and fostering genuine connections through open-heartedness.

Shawn Léon Nowotnik, an artist, author, filmmaker, and therapist, discusses the myth of happiness and the importance of seeking meaning. He critiques the commercialization of joy and explores how societal pressures can mislead individuals in their pursuit of fulfillment. Shawn emphasizes the need for authenticity, offering tools to reconnect with one's true self and navigate the challenges of superficial connections in the digital age. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their values and the significance of building meaningful relationships.

Bonnie Lester, an expert on chronic pain, shares her personal journey and insights on how it affects relationships. She explains the biological, social, and physical impacts of chronic pain. Listeners will learn about neuroplasticity tools that aid pain reduction and the importance of developing a shared language around pain. Bonnie also discusses how partners can support each other through open communication and emotional understanding, ultimately fostering intimacy and connection despite the hardships of chronic pain.

In this discussion, Dr. Nicole Cain, a neuropathic physician specializing in anxiety and author of 'Panic Proof', shares her insights on healing anxiety. She emphasizes understanding anxiety's various facets and offers four actionable steps for relief. Dr. Cain discusses the importance of escaping the logical mind to foster healing and explores the connection between body awareness and emotional responses. Listeners will discover breathwork techniques and practical strategies to reclaim their agency and navigate anxiety in a modern world.

Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus, a relationship expert and sociologist, sheds light on the evolution of relationships and the often-overlooked impact of social media. She discusses the allure of the early romance phases versus the complexities of long-term commitment. Dr. Jenn encourages listeners to evaluate their social media habits, suggesting unfollowing exes to promote emotional well-being. She also offers advice on fostering vulnerability and initiating difficult conversations with partners, equipping listeners with practical tools for deeper connections.

Dr. Nicholas Jenner, a relationship therapist specializing in codependency, shares vital insights into healing unhealthy relational patterns. He discusses the various traits and types of codependency, exploring how childhood trauma plays a role in these dynamics. Listeners learn the importance of setting boundaries, achieving personal autonomy, and fostering self-love. Dr. Jenner emphasizes connecting with one’s inner child and offers tools for recognizing codependency behaviors, making the journey to healthier relationships feel attainable.

Love is a verb and so is intimacy. It takes practice and dedication to have a thriving, intimate relationship. Listen to today's show to learn actionable tips to grow a deep connection in your relationship today!In this episode with Dr. Joy Berkheimer we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Dealing with perfectionist blocks to intimacy How to access your full pleasure Communication tips for a thriving sex life and relationship What to do if you're not feeling desired in your relationship Normalizing sexual behaviors And much more! SponsoredSpark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are many factors that influence how we think, act and feel about sexuality. Understanding these factors can help us improve our relationships with our own sexuality and those we are intimate with. Listen to today's show for valuable insights and actionable tips!In this episode with Danielle Savory we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding what is going on in your brain around sexuality Deconstructing the 'should' of sex and other cultural misinformation How to communicate and deal with if you or your partner are "too tired to have sex" Why you should start planning and scheduling sex with your partner How to be OK with disappointing your partner or others Standing up for yourself if you're a people pleaser And much more! SponsoredQuince is committed to making exceptionally high-quality essentials available at a price within reach. Because everyone deserves to fill their life with the finer things. Go to QUINCE.COM/IDO for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this engaging conversation, Karden Rabin, an expert in nervous system regulation and a contributor to the Trauma Research Foundation, delves into the importance of body awareness in personal growth. He shares fascinating insights on transforming your fight or flight response with practical embodiment exercises. Karden emphasizes the need to recognize signs of cumulative stress and offers strategies to break free from overactive defense mechanisms. Discover how approaching healing through the body rather than just the mind can lead to deeper emotional connections.