Relationship Advice

In this episode of Relationship Advice, Colter and Cayla sit down with therapist and author Joe Nucci to unpack themes from his book Psychobabble. They dive into common therapy-related myths—like the idea that “everyone needs therapy” or that “more emotional intimacy is always better”—and explore how cultural messages about mental health can sometimes oversimplify or distort deeper truths. The conversation blends humor and insight as they challenge overused self-help tropes, advocate for nuance, and discuss how real growth happens both inside and outside of therapy. Main Talking Points: - Myth: “Everyone needs therapy” — therapy is beneficial but not always necessary - Limited therapist availability and mental health as a social justice issue - Myth: “More emotional intimacy = healthier relationship” — intimacy looks different for everyone - Dangers of over-standardizing “emotional health” in relationships - Therapy as preparation vs. real-world relational growth - Attraction patterns, emotional awareness, and learning through experience Joe’s Links: - Instagram - Website Give Me Discounts! NOCD.COM - If you're tired of unwanted thoughts affecting your relationships and other areas of your life, visit nocd.com Audible - Visit audible.com/janeaustin to get listen to this incredible reading rendition of Pride & Prejudice Skylight - Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar.  Function - 160+ Lab Tests for $365. Learn more & get started at www.functionhealth.com/IDO Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off Beducate - Visit beducate.me/relationship69 and use code relationship69 for 65% off the annual pass. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this discussion, the hosts dive into the complexities of family dynamics during holidays, emphasizing the struggle between differing traditions and expectations. They highlight the importance of establishing boundaries with in-laws and managing unsolicited advice. Emotional experiences, like feeling unseen or guilty, take center stage as they urge couples to share their feelings instead of competing over who's right. Practical strategies for fostering curiosity and validating each other's emotions are shared, aiming to create teamwork amidst family drama.

The hosts delve into the chaotic world of family dynamics, tackling common conflict triggers like holidays, parenting, and politics. They discuss the unrealistic expectation of family harmony and how different values can spark tension. Insightful tips on identifying triggers, setting compassionate boundaries, and maintaining connection are shared. The conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, managing expectations, and reflecting on personal needs within family interactions, providing a roadmap for navigating the often messy landscape of family relationships.

Discover how to transform relationship dynamics from reactive to rhythmic! The hosts explore the power of awareness and accountability through a couple's journey, showcasing tools like naming one's internal story. Learn about making meaningful 'deposits' of connection, and the innovative 'help me help you help me' negotiation technique. They discuss interrupting old patterns, fostering empathy, and turning tension into deeper bonds with small yet intentional changes. It's all about creating a positive cycle!

Jessica Baum, a licensed therapist and author specializing in attachment theory, delves into her personal journey through anxiety and depression. She redefines codependency as anxious attachment, emphasizing the need for dependable relationships to heal. Jessica shares insights on 'anchors'—crucial support figures that foster safety and co-regulation. She highlights the importance of slowing down relationships to avoid repeating childhood patterns and explains how genuine connection can trigger discomfort while paving the way for earned security.

This episode looks at why your partner might struggle to “just get over” something that feels small to you. Often, their reaction isn’t really about the forgotten text or missed plan—it’s about old wounds from times they felt invisible or unimportant. Instead of brushing it off, the episode shows how empathy and repair can turn these moments into opportunities for deeper connection. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren dive into topics like: - Why little things often hit deeper emotional scars. - How “just get over it” shuts down closeness instead of fixing the problem. - Signs that your partner’s reaction is about more than the moment. - Simple shifts—curiosity, empathy, and listening—that help your partner feel seen. - How repair after conflict builds more trust than avoiding fights. Give Me Discounts! NOCD.COM - If you're tired of unwanted thoughts affecting your relationships and other areas of your life, visit nocd.com Audible - Visit audible.com/janeaustin to get listen to this incredible reading rendition of Pride & Prejudice Skylight - Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar.  Function - 160+ Lab Tests for $365. Learn more & get started at www.functionhealth.com/IDO Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover the fascinating dynamics of withdrawers in relationships. The hosts delve into why some partners retreat during conflict and the emotional toll it takes. Learn practical strategies to support withdrawers, such as giving them space without panic and using appreciation to counter feelings of inadequacy. They also emphasize the importance of balancing alone time and connection. Communication tips focus on sharing vulnerability instead of demands, ensuring both partners can thrive. Tune in for insights that can transform your relationship!

This episode from Relationship Advice, hosts Colter, Lauren, and Cayla lean into the dynamics of pursuer-withdrawer relationships, focusing on how to understand and support pursuers effectively. As part of a broader series on relational dynamics, this episode emphasizes recognizing attachment needs, addressing raw spots, and providing proactive care to build healthier, more connected relationships. The hosts share personal anecdotes, psychological insights, and actionable strategies to help listeners navigate these dynamics. Key Discussion Points Who are the pursuers in a relationship and what drives their behavior? Pursuers are described as individuals who, during moments of disconnection or conflict, attempt to restore the relationship by seeking engagement. However, their strategies—such as high-energy behaviors, demands, or criticisms—often come across as overwhelming to their partner. Pursuers act out of fear—fear of being abandoned, ignored, or dismissed. Kayla highlights that beneath the demands and criticisms is often a deep sense of insecurity and fear of losing the relationship. Give Me Discounts! Audible - Visit audible.com/janeaustin to get listen to this incredible reading rendition of Pride & Prejudice Skylight - Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar.  Function - 160+ Lab Tests for $365. Learn more & get started at www.functionhealth.com/IDO Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this engaging discussion, Rachel Shepard Ohta, a certified sleep consultant and founder of Hey Sleepy Baby, reveals how having a baby can reshape a couple’s dynamics. She candidly shares her journey of feeling disconnected after her second child, addressing common issues like sleep deprivation and shifting roles. Rachel emphasizes the importance of adjusting expectations, managing temperament differences, and keeping communication open. She offers practical strategies for maintaining intimacy while navigating the ups and downs of parenthood.

Fear of rejection is one of the biggest hurdles in dating, often holding people back from putting themselves out there or forming deeper connections. In this episode, we unpack where this fear comes from, how it ties into past experiences and self-worth, and why rejection is not as personal as it feels. We also share practical ways to shift your perspective, build resilience, and approach dating with more openness and confidence. They talk about topics such as:  - Roots of rejection fear (childhood, past relationships) - Rejection ≠ personal worth - How fear leads to avoidance or self-sabotage - Reframing rejection as redirection - Building confidence & resilience - and more! Give Me Discounts! Skylight - Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar.  Function - 160+ Lab Tests for $365 to anyone who signs up between July 7th and July 11th. Learn more & get started at www.functionhealth.com/IDO Prolon - Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift. PXG - Visit PXGApparel.com/IDO or use promo code: PODAPP-IDO to save 10% off your Spring/Summer 2025 Collection order. Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices