Relationship Advice

The hosts dive into the emotional turmoil of deciding when to end a relationship. They discuss the challenges of attachment and the fear of regret that complicate this decision. Importantly, they highlight signs that indicate it's time to let go, such as broken trust or persistent disconnection. The conversation encourages listeners to seek support from friends and consider professional help for clarity. With personal anecdotes and practical strategies, the episode provides valuable insights into navigating the complex landscape of love and relationships.

In this episode, the hosts illustrate how noticing when you need a break during conflict is essential for maintaining emotional regulation and protecting connection. They highlight how pushing through conflict without pausing can lead to emotional collapse or blow-ups, and how a break should be intentional, involving both calming the body and organizing thoughts before reengaging. The episode emphasizes that reframing breaks not as avoidance but as tools for better communication can help couples build trust and deeper understanding. We cover topics such as: Recognizing Dysregulation Breaks vs Avoidance Organizing During Breaks Fear of Not Returning Reengaging Vulnerability And more! Give Me Discounts! Skylight - Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar.  Prolon - Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift. PXG - Visit PXGApparel.com/IDO or use promo code: PODAPP-IDO to save 10% off your Spring/Summer 2025 Collection order. Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When emotional growth happens at different paces in a relationship, it can create disconnection and frustration. This episode explores how partners can navigate this dynamic by cultivating curiosity, avoiding shame-based interpretations, and validating the complexity of individual growth paths. Rather than rushing to conclusions or trying to control the other, the hosts encourage compassion, open dialogue, and creative ways to reconnect.In this episode, we cover topics such as:  Avoiding Righteousness Pause the Binary Thinking Asking Open-Ended Questions Exploring Other Support Systems Discernment and Clarity  Give Me Discounts!Skylight - Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar. Prolon - Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift.PXG - Visit PXGApparel.com/IDO or use promo code: PODAPP-IDO to save 10% off your Spring/Summer 2025 Collection order.Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% offSpark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The hosts dive into the challenge of mismatched sex drives, stressing that it's a normal part of relationships. They explore the roles of sexual pursuers and withdrawers, advocating for a curious and flexible approach to intimacy. The conversation highlights the impact of life stages and emotional dynamics on sexual desire, urging couples to communicate openly about their needs. Listeners are encouraged to navigate these differences with vulnerability and empathy to strengthen their connection.

Explore the intricate dance of vulnerability and defensiveness in relationships. Learn why partners often react protectively and how this can derail meaningful connections. Discover tools to stay grounded and avoid being baited into reactivity. The hosts share personal stories and practical strategies to foster emotional safety, self-regulation, and empathy. Delve into the importance of understanding your partner's emotional capacities and master the art of effective communication during tough conversations.

Discover the art of allowing others to fully experience their feelings, from anger to disappointment. The conversation digs into why we often struggle with emotional freedom in relationships and the importance of validating emotions. Uncover common emotions we resist in others, and learn practical strategies to foster empathy and understanding. Personal anecdotes enrich the discussion, revealing how setting boundaries and maintaining self-care while supporting loved ones can create healthier connections.

Explore the importance of creating a Non-Negotiables List to establish boundaries in relationships. The hosts discuss how to strike the right balance between being too rigid or lenient for healthier connections. They share personal stories and practical tips for identifying essential criteria in dating and marriage. The conversation highlights the role of quality time and emotional connections while navigating these non-negotiables. Listeners are encouraged to assess their values to foster deeper relationships.

Explore the fascinating distinction between curiosity and questioning in relationships. Learn how approaching emotional challenges with openness can lead to deeper connections. Discover strategies for effective communication of emotional needs while fostering healthier responses to triggers. Hear personal experiences from the hosts about couples therapy and the impact of attachment theory. They also share insights on navigating complex workplace relationships, emphasizing the power of curiosity to enhance understanding and empathy.

Julie Menanno, a therapist, author, and creator of The Secure Relationship community, shares insightful strategies for healing insecure attachment. She discusses the root of self-abandonment and how it leads to unhealthy relationship patterns. Julie emphasizes the importance of emotional processing over quick fixes and encourages listeners to cultivate a secure self-relationship. The conversation also highlights the significance of identifying attachment triggers versus genuine relationship issues, fostering trust and empathy in partnerships.

Dive into the intriguing dynamics of relationship conflicts and the delicate balance between personal experience and factual correctness. Discover how emotional disconnection can arise from debate-style arguments and the importance of curiosity and empathy. Learn about the 'window of tolerance' and the necessity of creating a safe space for conversations. The hosts emphasize the value of repeated, small dialogues and how understanding diverse perspectives can enhance communication, especially in parenting decisions. Get ready for some eye-opening insights!