Relationship Advice How To Dismantle Shame
Jun 25, 2025
Explore the roots of shame and its sneaky impact on relationships. The hosts dive into personal stories from childhood that illuminate how early experiences shape feelings of inadequacy. They discuss the difference between shame and guilt, revealing how shame can lead to defensiveness and emotional withdrawal. Listeners learn the importance of grieving unmet needs and replacing shame with truth for healthier connections. Through insightful reflections, they encourage self-acceptance and navigating emotions in relationships without shame.
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Colter's Childhood Shame Story
- Colter shares a childhood story where a second grader mocked his plain script, making him feel like something was wrong with him.
- This early moment sparked his first deep experience of shame and self-doubt.
Shame is Fear of Disconnection
- Shame is fundamentally the fear of disconnection and feeling unworthy of connection.
- It ties to a core belief that something is inherently wrong or flawed about who we are.
Shame Immobolizes and Masks Us
- Shame triggers a freeze response where hiding or masking becomes the only option to avoid exposure.
- Unlike fear that prompts fight or flight, shame immobilizes and isolates us.