Michelle Chalfant, a therapist and author of 'The Adult Chair', shares valuable insights on quieting the inner critic to unlock personal growth. She discusses why our emotional decision-making often stems from a teenage mindset. Listeners learn about the 'two wolves' metaphor for self-awareness and the importance of emotional triggers as opportunities for transformation. With practical techniques like the 'Three Chair Model', Chalfant guides us toward self-compassion, healthier relationships, and taking ownership of our realities for lasting change.
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Both Wolves Inside Us
Everyone has both a compassionate wolf and a mean wolf inside them. - Learning to work with the compassionate wolf is a game changer in life.
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Choosing Compassion Reconnects Self
Choosing compassion reconnects us with our true selves and source energy. - Anger and judgment disconnect us from this inner connection and joy.
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Pause To Create Choice Space
Recognize there is a space between stimulus and response to make conscious choice. - Practice pausing throughout the day to increase this space and regulate your nervous system.
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In this episode, Michelle Chalfant explores how to quiet the inner critic and finally get unstuck. She has spent 25 years developing practical tools for working with what she calls the other wolf. Michelle explains why most of us are making decisions from the emotional age of about 13. And she’ll give you the exact process for transforming triggers into growth. Her motto is “I will let nothing or no one disconnect me from myself.” and by the end of this conversation, you’ll know how to make that your reality too.
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Key Takeaways:
The internal struggle with inner voices, represented by the metaphor of two wolves (one good and one bad).
Negative self-talk and the journey towards self-compassion and self-acceptance.
Emotional age and how it influences decision-making and behavior.
Techniques for regulating the nervous system and creating space for conscious responses to triggers.
The importance of recognizing and working through emotional triggers as opportunities for growth.
Distinguishing between healthy anger and being stuck in a triggered state.
The significance of owning one’s reality and the discomfort that often accompanies this process.
Developmental model of the “Three Chair Model” (Child, Adolescent, Adult) and its implications for personal growth.
The five pillars that support personal transformation, including owning the good in one’s life.
Practical tools and scripts for managing emotional patterns and the inner critic.
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