Address conflicts proactively and have conversations instead of conflicts to save time and effort in the long run.
Recognize that others may not meet your high standards and find ways to motivate and inspire them to meet your expectations.
Deep dives
The Importance of Fighting Upfront
Addressing conflicts early and proactively is crucial to resolving potential threats. By having conversations and collaborations instead of conflicts, problems can be addressed early in various aspects of life, whether in business, relationships, or personal life. Taking this proactive approach saves time, effort, and potential negative consequences in the long run.
Setting High Standards for Yourself and Others
Highly successful individuals tend to have higher standards for themselves and the people around them. However, it is important to recognize that others may not have the same level of engagement or obsession. While it can be frustrating, accepting that others may not meet your expectations completely can help in maintaining productive relationships and driving business forward. It is crucial to hold onto your high standards but also find ways to motivate and inspire others to meet them.
Avoiding Personal Attachment in Business
It is important to separate your personal identity from your business or work. Emotionally detaching from your work allows for increased objectivity in decision-making and investment. Developing this detachment helps in making optimum decisions without being clouded by personal emotions. Being open to seeing the business or work as separate from yourself leads to better outcomes and a more competent approach.
The Importance of Curating Relationships
Curating relationships involves recognizing when certain friendships, relationships, or connections are no longer productive or beneficial. Red flags include people who violate boundaries, show lack of support, or consistently drain your energy. Recognizing how you feel after interactions with these individuals is crucial. If the energy is consistently negative or draining, it may be time to reevaluate and potentially phase out those relationships. Being upfront and honest about your priorities and limitations can aid in navigating these transitions.
On the second of two special episodes, acclaimed executive performance coach and doctor of psychology Dr. Julie Gurner goes in-depth on a variety of strategies and actionable advice that will help you perform up to your potential. During this portion of her interview, Dr. Gurner discusses the standards we set for ourselves and others, cognitive ruts, curating friends and relationships, fighting up front, what success means, and much more.
Dr. Gurner has spent the past 14 years working with top percentile executives, talent, and teams operating in fast-paced, competitive environments. She specializes in improving personal productivity, focus, and decision-making strategies, as well as developing high performance cultures, teams, and executives emphasizing ownership and leadership.
Check out Part 1 of this interview in the same feed where you’re listening to this episode, or on the Farnam Street Blog.
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