Healthy Parenting Handbook with Katie Kimball 016: How We’re Failing Our Kids by Not Letting THEM Fail with Bestselling Author Jessica Lahey
Apr 9, 2024
Jessica Lahey, a middle school teacher and bestselling author of The Gift of Failure, shares her insights on building resilience in children. She discusses how rising perfectionism hampers learning and why kids fear failure. Jessica emphasizes the importance of using the word 'yet' to shift focus from outcomes to growth. She explores the impact of household responsibilities on emotional resilience and advocates for allowing children autonomy through small choices. Lastly, she hints at her upcoming book on parenting strategies to combat addiction.
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Overdirection Harms Learning
- Overdirecting children reduces their ability to learn because it prevents them from facing frustration and using effective teaching tools.
- Jessica Lahey found that excess parental direction makes kids less teachable and less resilient in school.
Use 'Yet' And Process Questions
- Use the word "yet" to emphasize progress and process instead of fixed ability.
- Ask process-focused questions about low grades: what did you do, what will you change, and what will you keep?
Teach Systems, Not Solutions
- Stop fixing every daily problem and coach kids to design their own systems.
- Ask them to describe their perfect morning and help implement their chosen solutions.
