The Secret to Avoiding Burnout & Reshaping Your Identity w/Dr. Benjamin Hardy EP 1181

Oct 27, 2021

Dr. Benjamin Hardy, an organizational psychologist and best-selling author, shares insights on reshaping identity to prevent burnout. He discusses transforming trauma into personal growth, emphasizing the power of deliberate reflection. Hardy highlights the importance of planning for your future self and shifting focus from 'how' to 'who' in achieving goals. He advocates for collaboration and nurturing relationships as key to fulfillment, while stressing the need to measure success against personal milestones, not societal expectations.

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Gaining from Trauma

Trauma involves measuring an event against a wished-for outcome, leading to feeling worse off.
Post-traumatic growth occurs when you believe you're better off after the experience, finding gratitude and meaning.

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ANECDOTE

In-Laws' Loss

Benjamin Hardy's in-laws lost their apartment complex due to government intervention, initially seeing no gain.
They eventually shifted perspective, viewing experiences as learning opportunities to shape and find value in.

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ADVICE

Processing Trauma

Control your experience by deciding its meaning and value.
Reflect, write, find gratitude, and identify growth areas and avoidance strategies.

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Transforming Trauma into Growth

03:47 • 17min

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Embracing Flexibility for a Better Future Self

20:28 • 4min

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Redefining Personal Growth

24:39 • 19min

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Transforming Focus: From 'How' to 'Who' for Success

43:41 • 3min

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Embracing Collaboration and Commitment

46:54 • 18min

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Investing in Your Future Self

01:04:26 • 7min

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Investing in Relationships and Personal Growth

01:11:35 • 3min

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Today’s guest is Benjamin Hardy. He’s an organizational psychologist and best-selling author of the books Willpower Doesn’t Work and Personality Isn’t Permanent. His blogs on productivity and psychology have been read by over 100 million people and featured in the Harvard Business Review, the New York Times, on CNBC and many others. He’s written a new book called The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success.

In this episode we discuss how to overcome trauma and use it for growth, why you should make plans on behalf of your future self, how to reshape your identity if you’re feeling stuck, why willpower isn’t enough when it comes to achieving your goals, how to prevent yourself from burning out in your work, and so much more!

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