Your Guide to Better Sex, Intimacy, & Love From a World-Leading Sex Therapist

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Mar 20, 2025

Renowned sex therapist Vanessa Marin, with over 20 years of experience and the author of "Sex Talks," dives into the intricacies of intimacy and communication. She shares insights on why many feel disconnected in their sex lives and the importance of addressing sexual needs openly. The conversation highlights the balance between planning and spontaneity in intimacy, along with practical tips to revive desire and deepen connections. Marin even introduces a card deck to spark conversations about pleasure, making the journey towards better intimacy accessible and fun.

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INSIGHT

Sex and Relationship Connection

Disconnection in sex life often reflects disconnection in the overall relationship.
Address relationship issues to improve intimacy.

INSIGHT

Two Sex Drive Types

Two sex drive types exist: spontaneous and responsive.
Responsive types feel desire physically first, then mentally.

ADVICE

Timing Intimacy

Avoid leaving sex to the end of the night when exhaustion hits.
Prioritize intimacy earlier in the evening for better energy.

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In this episode, you are going to learn how to have amazing sex, deeper intimacy, and create real, lasting love.

If you feel like intimacy with your partner is rare, your desire is low, or that your marriage is even sexless, this conversation is for you.

Here to deliver the most important sex advice you need to hear is renowned sex therapist and bestselling author, Vanessa Marin.

Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist and a sex therapist with over 20 years of clinical experience helping people have healthier, more satisfying sex lives. She is known for her viral, no-shame, straight-to-the-point advice on how to have the best sex of your life.

This conversation tackles everything you weren’t taught—and probably aren’t talking about—when it comes to sex. Mel also shares openly about her own sex life, difficulties with intimacy, and speaks openly in a way you’ve never heard before.

Whether you are single, in a relationship, or married, this conversation is going to make you think differently about sex and inspire you to prioritize pleasure and connection in bed, no matter your age, relationship status, or gender.

You’ll learn:

-The real reason you feel disconnected in your sex life

-The two different types of sex drives and why it matters

-What to do if you’re on your way to a dry bedroom

-What exactly to say if you’re not in the mood when your partner initiates sex

If you feel like you can’t talk about sex, if you can’t ask for what you want, don’t know how to bring it up, are going through a dry spell, or want to have more sex but you’re exhausted, this episode is for you.

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