

8 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Turned 30
203 snips Sep 19, 2025
Reflecting on pivotal life lessons, Jay shares the biggest shifts he wishes he'd embraced earlier. He discusses the spotlight effect, revealing how little others actually notice us. The importance of discipline over fleeting motivation is emphasized, alongside recognizing old fears as echoes of the past. Jay explores how true growth means finding meaningful connections and preventing burnout through purpose. He encourages small, intentional choices to shape our future, reminding us that every season is temporary and peace arises from living meaningfully.
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Nobody's Watching As Much As You Think
- We overestimate how much others notice or judge us because of the spotlight effect.
- Most people are preoccupied with their own insecurities, not critiquing you.
Busy Is Not The Same As Effective
- Being busy feels valuable due to the effort heuristic, but effort doesn't equal impact.
- Measure work by outcomes and results, not hours logged.
Smaller Circles, Deeper Connection
- Social circles shrink as we prioritize depth over breadth, a natural developmental shift.
- Losing friends often reflects growth and better emotional prioritization, not betrayal.