105 - DATING - Ariana Grande: The Psychology of Relationship Jumping & Why You Hate Being Alone
Jul 21, 2023
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Famous pop singer Ariana Grande joins Louise Rumball and Dr. Tari Mack to discuss the psychology of relationship jumping. They explore why some people struggle with being alone and seek external validation through relationships. They also emphasize the importance of taking time to build a healthy relationship with oneself after a breakup.
Relationship jumping often stems from a fear of being alone and a need for external validation, rather than finding fulfillment within oneself.
The discomfort of being alone can stem from childhood wounds and a lack of emotional attunement, highlighting the importance of building a strong connection with oneself.
Deep dives
The pattern of relationship jumping and its underlying fears
The podcast episode explores the pattern of relationship jumping, where individuals quickly move from one relationship to another. It highlights that this pattern often stems from a fear of being alone and a need for external validation and significance. The lack of emotional attunement and mirroring in childhood can contribute to this fear. It is emphasized that individuals who engage in relationship jumping are seeking validation and fulfillment from others instead of finding it within themselves.
The discomfort of being alone and its connection to childhood wounds
The podcast delves into the discomfort experienced by individuals when they are alone, exploring the fear and anxiety associated with it. It suggests that this discomfort can be rooted in childhood wounds such as a lack of mirroring and emotional attunement. It is explained that the discomfort arises when individuals have not built a strong connection with themselves, causing them to seek validation and distraction from others. The importance of self-reflection, addressing childhood wounds, and creating a sense of self-worth are emphasized.
The negative impact of relationship jumping and settling
The podcast discusses the negative consequences of relationship jumping and settling for familiar but unsatisfying relationships. It highlights that relationship hopping often stems from a fear of loneliness and a belief that being in a relationship signifies worthiness. However, this pattern can sabotage relationships as individuals rely on their partners for validation and a sense of self. It is emphasized that genuine fulfillment and a healthy, lasting relationship come from developing a strong relationship with oneself.
The healing process and breaking the cycle
The podcast emphasizes the importance of breaking the pattern of relationship jumping and taking time to develop a relationship with oneself. It encourages self-awareness and self-compassion when examining one's fears and patterns. The podcast suggests starting small to increase comfort with being alone, engaging in activities without distractions, and self-reflection. Taking time to attune to one's own feelings, needs, and desires is emphasized. The podcast also highlights the possibility of rewiring the brain and creating lasting change.
Why can Ariana Grande never stay single? Today, in a reboot of a popular episode from Louise Rumball and Dr. Tari Mack, the pair bring back the concept of relationship jumping and explore why some people hate being alone, or staying single, while others find it the necessary way to heal.
Louise & Dr. Tari mack discuss:
The serial monogamist
How people may unconsciously seek external validation and avoid their internal struggles by jumping from relationship to relationship
The fear behind relationship jumping
Facing the fear and reality of being alone; and
The connection to validation
The pair also discuss the importance of slowing down, spending time alone, and building a healthy relationship with yourself - and how you can use the healing period after a break up to your advantage, or you can totally ignore it!.