137 How to Heal From Sorrow and Grief Part 4 with Heather Stringer
Apr 17, 2023
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Heather Stringer, an expert in creating healing rituals, joins the podcast to discuss the transformative power of ritual in healing from grief and trauma. They explore symbols of self-discovery and personal growth, emphasize the role of witnesses and community in accepting and integrating past experiences, and encourage listeners to heed their inner wisdom for clarity and alignment.
The use of ritual can be a powerful tool for processing and healing from traumatic experiences, allowing individuals to release emotions and find a path forward in relationships.
Rituals can provide a sense of belonging, strength, and comfort in difficult times, creating bonds of support and solidarity, and emotionally preparing individuals for challenges ahead.
Deep dives
Rituals as Healing: Moving through Trauma through Rituals
In this podcast episode, Heather Stringer shares an example of a ritual she conducted to help a woman heal from the trauma of sexual assault. The ritual involved going into the forest with friends and allowing the woman to give voice to her rage. Through symbolic actions and movements, she was able to release the harm and violation she had experienced. The ritual culminated in a shift from expressing rage to embodying peaceful warrior, resulting in a profound release and a subsequent ability to move forward in relationships. This example highlights the importance of ritual as a way to process and heal from traumatic experiences.
A Ritual as Preparation for Surgery and Healing
Another example provided by Heather is a ritual conducted with a friend who was about to undergo a double mastectomy due to breast cancer. The ritual involved gathering with friends, singing, and offering symbols of love and solidarity. The use of water, twigs, and oil became powerful gestures of support and acceptance, allowing the friend to settle into a space of receiving and facing her fears. The ritual created a bond of sisterhood and prepared her emotionally for the challenges ahead. This example illustrates how rituals can provide a sense of belonging, strength, and comfort in difficult times.
The Importance of Ritual for Remembering and Transformation
The podcast episode delves into the significance of ritual in our lives. Rituals are seen as powerful interventions that interrupt old patterns and behaviors and create space for transformation. They can bring us back to our origins, help us remember our stories, and activate our imagination for the future. Rituals offer a way to slow down, confront fears and anxieties, and integrate discarded shards of stories. They also involve witnessing and communal support, which allows for the healing of shame and the deepening of connection. Rituals provide a sacred and enchanted space where we can align ourselves with our own wisdom and the divine.
The Enchanted World and the Call to Ritual
The podcast emphasizes the belief in living in an enchanted world, where mystical calls beckon to us and invite us to engage in ritual. Heather shares personal experiences of heeding these calls and engaging in rituals that have brought about profound shifts and realignment. By connecting with the divine and creation, rituals provide opportunities to remember, realign, and find inner wisdom. The episode reminds listeners that rituals are accessible through listening to the calls, following the next step, and being open to the transformative power of ritual in their own lives.
I am joined today by Heather Stringer, who has lots of experience creating rituals that heal. Heather begins by describing two rituals: one focused on recovering from sexual assault and the second focused on preparing for a double mastectomy surgery. Heather and I talk about why ritual is so unfamiliar to many of us, and the healing that occurs when we begin to move our bodies in particular ways, especially when others are present to bear witness to the ritual.